…did you tell your Dad?

all my life I’ve told my Dad everything! even before telling my Mum, but I know he won’t agree with me having the op/spending the money. Should I just not tell him or be honest and deal with doing it against his will? I’d hate to ever disappoint him and this would…my sis reckons it’s something Dads don’t wanna hear…maybe he wouldn’t notice!? lol, any advice appreciated. thanks

everyone is different, My dad knew how much my lack of breasts made me unhappy and he actually offered to lend me the money. My parents have been so supportive, my mum offered to come with me and said if she lay next to me she could give me some of hers lol. she also said why was I wanting a 32D I might as well have a 36D lol.

im the same, i tell my dad everything, but as im not on speaking terms with my mum atm, i havent told him, and i feel awful, even in the run up, i just wanted to phone him for advice and hugs, but was to chicken in case he told my mum, and she rang as well

id say tell him, i honestly would have xx

I didn’t tell my dad hun, Im 10 days PO. My dad doesn’t live at home which obviously makes a difference as only really see him like once a month! He wouldn’t agree with me spending the money and would say the dad thing ‘you don’t need anything doing’ type thing! Hehe! I’m sure he will find out at some point and them I would explain to him that I wasn’t confident with my old ones, but I don’t think you need to, as long as you’re happy he won’t care, but I didn’t tell mine as didn’t think it was worth explaining it all when maybe he wouldn’t undertstand! Hope that makes sense and helps a little bit hun, do what you think is best! xx

I plucked up the courage to tell my mum today. I dont speak to either of my parents about anything personal so this was a big thing for me. Im glad i told her even though she said shed rather me not go through with it because shes my mum and she will worry about it going wrong, she said its my body and its up to me. Then she said something that suprised me ‘dont tell your dad until its done’. I think that was because hes a man and she fears he wont understand and may judge me. She doesnt think i should not ever tell him because hes family and will be bound to notice the difference, but until its done, its none of his business she said. But remember every family is different and it depends on your relationship with your dad and wether or not you feel he needs to know etc. xx

My parents separated when I was about 12 and nowadays I only see my dad every few months so we’re not really that close. I’d wanted to have my boobs done for about 5 years before I actually booked but I’d never told him, the rest of my family always knew though. I told his girlfriend on Boxing Day just passed and said that I as I was ready to book and go ahead I was going to have to tell him.. but she got there before me and on my next phonecall I had with him towards the end of our conversation he was like ‘so, have you been watched the news recently?’ I said not really and asked why, his reply was ‘well, you know all this stuff about the implants’ (pips) haha, bless him! He’d obviously been thinking about how to bring it up with me. But he’s ok with it now I think, he’s the type that usually needs a little while to get used to something but he just said that he’s quite old fashioned in the way that he believes you should just be happy as you are! Good luck with whatever you choose to do hun xx

I tell my dad absolutely everythimg too! And My dad new I wanted a ba for years but always made a joke out of it saying I’d look silly! My 21st was coming up soon and he kept asking me what I wanted and all I wanted was a ba and he said no went to the doctors to see if there was anything they could do and he basically said I had no breast tissue and would never grow anything! Gutted! Went home crying to my dad and the next day he offered to pay for it soooo happy! He now even jokes how ‘his’ assets are doing! And says seeing my happy was worth every penny!

So sometimes just going all out and telling him it’s a good thing Hun I’d say tell him he’d only be upset if you didn’t xxx

it’s sooo tricky! My mum didn’t agree with it when I was 20, was in a ‘bad place’ and she was right not to support me as I was doing it for the wrong reasons. Now, 24, she wants to take care of me and has gone into Mummy mode with the occasional ‘you don’t have to do it if you don’t want to.’ She’s suggested I tell my Dad. I’m thinking I wear such padded bras I might be able to get away with not telling him…joannabella have you seen your Dad since? He’s helping out with house deposit after uni, just afraid he won’t if he knows I’m spending £4,000 elsewhere! Also, as I’m not in the country was thinking of making sure all of my updated pics have riceboobs/blaming it on a change of contraception so it’s a gradual change? xxx

awh hun i feel for ya! i tell my parents almost everythin more so my mum. iv wanted a ba for about 10yrs but could it was never an option because of my possesive ex!! iv now been single for 9 months and 5wks ago i decided i was finally going to do it. im on my own with 3 children so money is tight at the minute so i planned getting them on finance, i went down to my parents to tell them knowing my mum would be supportive but my dad not lol! he gave me a really hard time saying he couldnt understand why i wanted bigger boobs as dads do haha and said i was being silly because he thought i couldnt manage it financially and hated the idea of me paying so much intrest. i broke down in tears and explained how much it meant to me and how much it was gona boost my confidence. 10 minutes later he came in and said they were gona pay for it for me i couldnt believe it!!! 5 wks on im now 6 days post op thanks to my wonderful dad!!! if i hadnt have told him i wouldnt be sat here now with my new babies and probably wouldnt for a long time until id saved enough for my deposit, and thats if id have been accepted for finance which theres a stong chance i wouldnt have! so huni if i were you id tell him, he may well be angry with you to start but im sure in the long run he’ll appreciate the fact that you were open and honest with him rather than going behind his back, which will prob upset him even more!! good luck with whatever you decide luv xxx

I had the same problem hun. My mum and dad are recently divorced and I rarely see him, I couldn’t bring myself to tell him because I thought it would be to arkward. Luckily my sister accidentally told him. We haven’t actually spoken about it but he’s text me today wishing me luck and hoping it makes me happy. I’m sure he will support you no matter what.. Good luck x

My Dad paid for it so I couldn’t hide anything, and even if I had the means to have a BA without his money and done it without the knowledge of my parents, they DEFINITELY would have noticed hah! My parents are together but my Mum had to persuade him and he came around once he knew the full details of the op and he realised that it wasn’t that bad! At the end of the day, like most parents he just wanted me to be happy so he agreed…Obviously he hasn’t been involved as much as my Mum but he’s been really great about everything…I thought he was going to cry on the morning of my op bless him! I think the main thing that concerned him was the whole idea of me going under anaesthetic because I’d never had it before and I can imagine that’s what every parent must think, also he didn’t want to see me ‘suffer’ afterwards just for the sake of big boobs etc…But I think he realised that even though I’m still very young, this is something that I was always going to do so he may as well support me through it; I also think that he knew that he couldn’t really understand all the reasons behind me having a BA, with him being a man, so he kinda ‘backed off’ in that respect lol!

Personally I don’t know if I could have done this without the support of my parents, but I suppose I’m still a ‘baby’ even though I don’t live with them any more haha. I think you should tell him; he might not agree with it at first but I think he may be quite hurt if you keep it from him as the two of you sound quite close. Then again, it is your absolute right to keep this private and you don’t have to tell anyone if you don’t want to.

Good luck xxxxxx

My parents have always said they would help me out to get a ba when I was ready as I’m very flat chested. They know how much I hate it and they both appriciate how un womanly I feel. My dad came to my pre op yesterday with me and paid xx

I only told my mum because I needed her to look after my kids. Dad doesn’t know, and he isn’t the most obvervant to be honest so he may not figure it out. I just couldn’t be bothered with the hassle of comments / jokes and remarks for the next few years from all the family (we have lots of banter and always joke with eachother, so I’d be an easy target!). xx

I would tell him babe, explain to him why you feel this will make you happy. I told my dad for a few years that I just want to feel more womanly because I had nice perky little boobs but I told my dad that I hate my chest bones making me look so thin.

after a few years of thinking about it and doing research,He was really understanding and supportive and even came with me to the clinics and was there on the day of my op. He paid the full amount for me and im paying him back monthly.

Your dad loves you regardless of what you do, sometimes they just show a bit of tough love but its because they concerned. If you dont want to hide it from him and you are close to your dad , tell him babe…. even if his initially a bit upset he will come around.

Explain to him you want it for yourself and thats what matters.

goodluck xxx

I usually tell my dad everything, but this is one thing I knew I couldn’t. He would be so disappointed!! I’ve spoken about it a few times and his opinion is that why would you have an unnecassary operation and put yourself open to risks! I understand his opinion and now I’ve had the operation I maybe wish I had listened to him! I’m having a few problems you see. He has mentioned a few times ‘Have you had your boobs done’ and I always laugh it off and say I’ve got a padded bra on. I HATE lying to him but i would hate disappointing him even more! Sometimes it’s best dad’s don’t know certain things… my opinion. x

Oh god, i told my dad straight away, hes always known i want it done, so he said go for it!! even asked if he’s allowed to feel them when there done! haha (not in a pervy way!!! hes just never felt a fake boob before!!) lol. My mum took a bit of persuading, but its my body nd my money so not much she could do about it! xxx

i told my mum and dad (eventually) and they have been supportive. i feel so mean though as they are paying for my wedding and Im being so selfish to get a loan to pay for my boobs when I could have given money to them – my dad says my ba has nothing to do with wedding and they will be paying for it whatever the case.

I thought they would be angry but i was pleasantly suprised, maybe you will be too?? good luck chick xxx

you should speak to him babes.i didnt used to have a great relationship with my dad when i was at home, but now i have grown up moved out,got a fiance and 2 kids it is alot different and we get on sooo much better and i now feel i can tell if almost everything. my mum is supportive as she nos ive wanted this for years and how muchc it affects my confidence and is actually coming with me next weds eeek, to get my op done, and my dad does no i did get my mum to tell him tho haha, he wasnt to happy and asked why saying im beautiful etc! as dads do. but he is being as supportive as he can. and to all you girls who dads payed for them you lucky lucky girls.ha xx

thanks for all of your replies, your comments are helping me have a good think! congrats to everyone who has already had their op and good luck to the ones coming up xxx

My real dad = no none of his business dont see him!

My step dad = 100% supportive! He wasn’t shocked in the slightest I’m so close to my step dad and I think hes always known I wasn’t happy! He now has the nickname”Jordan” for me and when we went to Florida decided to tell people I didn’t need life jacket id float cos of boobs and also told hooters girls I needed a hooters uniformas my boobs were “fake hooters like there’s ha ha” !

Top top the embarrassing enough holiday off he had us all t shirts printed for the airport- Mine had “Jordan” on the back!

I wouldn’t think twice about telling my step dad anything xx

my dad paid for my mums 3 boob ops and my sisters so it was mine turn the only diff is I borrowed a small amount of him and paid the rest myself as I can afford too :)so didnt want to take the piss lol

I didn’t want to tell my dad until nearer the time, my ops in april, as he’s helped me out this year a lot, bought me my first car and helped out with taxing it and fixing it, etc so didn’t want him knowing how much money I was spending and also didn’t really want to bring it up and thought that if it was like a week away there would be nothing he could do, strange reason I know ha. However my mam, who is really supportive, took it upon herself to tell him even though I wanted to wait, he hit the roof but she told him that it was all for confidence and things, everyone in my house knows about my chicken fillets and padded bras so they know that I’ve got tiny boobs and need to fake it so I think he kinda accepted it but has never ever brought it up in conversation with me and he was told about a month ago but I’m not saying anything about it to him either!

My oldest brother on the other hand doesn’t know and my mam doesn’t want to tell him at all! My slightly younger, yet still older brother (if that makes sense!) is lending me £500 for a month until I get my next student loan to help pay for it and he got told straight after I’d had my first consultation! Men are just funny I think everybody’s different, in a way I’m glad my mam told my dad and not me but everybody’s different, good luck with whatever you do hun xxx

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