Disapproving parents!!

I’m 34 for goodness sake and was dreading telling my parents about my op tomorrow but plucked up the courage and done the dreaded deed today. I was expecting them to disaprove but still thought they would be supportive. What did they say? It’s nothing to do with us what you do…….. Ouch! No offer to help with children no questions nothing. Feel really hurt. My mum is big busted an d always made the most of her assets so surely she could understand?!

Sorry end of rant lol xxx

I’m 34 too and I haven’t told mine and I’m 10 days post op! In fact I haven’t told anybody except obviously my husband and my best friend. It took me a long time to sign on the dotted line after years of wanting them done. My family are very opinionated and I couldn’t be arsed surrounding myself around negative energy when really it’s got nothing to do with them anyway!

Good luck with it all girl… X

When people have decent sized breasts honey they don’t actually know what it feels like to be small breasted because its never been an issue for them,they are probably scared because you are having surgery,but since its already so close they realise they cant talk you out of it,perhaps they are showing this I don’t care attitude because they are secretly shocked and don’t know how to deal with it,did you ask your parents if they could perhaps give you some support whilst your recovering honey,or was their reaction so upsetting you did’nt dare ask.Do you have someone else that can help you the first couple of weeks.xxx

Aww hun I know how you feel. Its tough telling the parents and hopefully given a bit of time they will come round. Its alot for them to take in and im sure tomorrow they will be right on the phone or by your side. If not then stay strong and remember the reasons why you are having it done and how great you will look and feel when its done!

I told my mum months ago I was thinking about having it done, she thinks im mad, cant understand it, is trying everything to stop me, saying if i dont tell my dad she will (they are divorced) and refused to come to any appointments with me to find out more about it. Ive gone ahead and booked it anyway and will tell her nearer the time, im an adult and ultimately its my decision. Cant say her reaction hasn’t hurt though. Like your mum my mum is big busted so cant understand how i feel, plus im asymmetrical. Stay strong hun and good luck for tomorrow xx

hey girls, iv yet to tell my dad, he has an idea i was thing about it though! my mum and step dad know, my step dad lent me the money for it, my mum thinks im mad, but is taking time off work to help with my baby, my good friends know, but anyone who is giving me negative vibes, im just avoiding them!PMC123 what are you going to let them know? faye77 good luck for tomorrow!! xx

Thanks girls. I’ve been strong all day keeping busy with the kids packing my bag etc hubby is driving me and taking the kids out for the day whilst im having my op. He is in a new job so can only get a couple days off. I’ve been so busy worrying about my own kids i guess i secretly thought that my own mum would be there for me. Cant deny it does hurt but keeping my head down and concentrating on how great my new boobs are going to make me feel xx

Faye77,I know its not the same honey,but we are all here for you,stay positive,you deserve to be happy,and your new boobies will make such a difference,stay positive,big hugs,and good luck.xxx

Jenwal, I’m really not sure. They have actually turned out bigger than I’d planned so as soon as I take off my hoody (which I’ve been in constantly since the op) they will know. I just want to make sure I’m healed and over the worst before saying anything because I know they will be shitty about it and I just don’t want to waste my energy defending myself when I’m bloody 34!!!!

It’s such a shame that you can’t get the support you need from your family, but as Tina said, ive learnt and had so much support from people on here. This forum has definately helped me through the entire process and I’ll be forever grateful to each individual who has been part of that process x x x

It’s strange reading this because I thought everyone else on here had support from their family and I’m feeling the same as you lot! I haven’t told my mum yet, I’m going back home to see her this weekend to break the news. Totally apprehensive about it and I’m 28 so god knows why I’m bothered. I suppose the ones you love matter the most but if she’s not supportive, like all of you, I will carry on regardless. PMC i was going to do the same as you but I think my mum would probably like the opportunity to at least try and talk me out of it, not much good it will do her though. Faye I can understand how you feel and am preparing myself for the same. I am sure that it’s just nerves for you being ok as it’s a big procedure. Think of all the time it’s taken you to get to this point, they’re still early days with all the concerns that you’ve asked and got past during appointments. When they see that you are ok and how much happier it makes you I am sure that is all that will matter to them. Phew, essay! Sorry! x

Well all I can say from my heart is I wish I had daughters like you girls,I would be so proud to be mother to each one of you,having the gutts to go ahead and change something that you know will make such a difference to your lives,regardless of what others may say,is something you can be proud of girls,I feel so honoured to be in your friends list.

Tina you are so lovely and I’m so happy to have you here!

Jessicarabbit… You are right. You should tell your mum before. I know my mum will be upset with me for not involving her and that does upset me. There’s part of me that really wishes I could have told her, but because I’d backed out of having the op done on 2 other occasions and finally decided in my mind that I 100% wanted to do it this time I just think I was too worried that they could change my mind!!!

I am seriously dreading telling both my mum and dad now. But I’m very happy with my boobs and so glad I went through with it.

I feel so much better knowing its not just me. Thanks a bunch you are all fab and a fantastic support xxx

Ah PMC don’t worry I bet when they hear that you have been through it just plucking up the courage to tell them they will know how much it means to you. At the end of the day even if they’re not sure at first they will come round and in a few months it will all seem like ancient history and you are left with the goodies anyway! You’re still the same old you…. just a new improved version I imagine!

Ahh Tina I think there should be an award for most helpful friend listed – I’d nominate you! MYA should give you a job x

Love you girls.xxx

Hey pmc ive added you. Thought we coild keep each other posted!! On the plus sode they cant ground us lol.

O agree wiyh jessicarabbit – Tina ypur a star

Right then thats me off tjanks again ladies you are all fab xx

Cant wait to hear your story honey,good luck,xxxx

Faye77 I had it from my mutha too!!! I’m an only child and 30 frigging 2!!!!! She was soooo upset that i’m having it done but she is coming round to the idea!! I met Mr.Singh yesterday and she text me saying ‘I Love You’ even though I don’t love what youre doing!!!!!’ My dad on the other hand couldnt really give a toss!!! He has said its your body my love and as long as you’re happy!!! Mum has even brought me a suitcase for hospital!!!! Chin up Hunxx

I’ve told my sister and she isn’t happy but she says she will support me, I have decided I’m not telling my dad as he freaked out whwn I had my ears peirced!!!! I’m staying at my bfs for the week off, I’d normally go to my mum over things like this so she would tell me what to do about dad but she passed away at the end of June so I’m playing it safe and not telling him. Once it’s done there’s not much he can do about it!

As I’m not going massive I’m hoping he won’t notice, I’m going to wear really padded bras up until my op and because it’s in Jan I can get away with wearing jumpers and hoodies, as I’m a cold person anyway he won’t notice hee hee

Good luck with it and hope it all works out ok xx

Hi girl’s, I think mums just get protective, I told my mum that I was thinking about it and she couldnt understand why and thinks I’m perfect the way I am and how she made me! BUT like Tina said if we are brave enough to go thro this to make ourselves more confident and happier then I’m sure they will come around. My mum has big boobs she’s and E naturally (lucky bugger!) infact all my family were blessed with boobs but me!!! I haven’t told her I’m going to see Mario in two and a bit weeks and I’m seeing Her at the weekend so I might be brave and tell her Ekkk silly really we get so scared to tell our mums but I just don’t want her to think badly of me. Fingers crossed she’ll be supportive xxx

I had a dream last night that my dad was really supportive, shocker! lol. Really hopin its a premonition although i doubt it. Good luck all of you lovely ladies with your families, you have all been a great support to me. Do what makes you happy and they will come round when they realise it was right for you xx

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