does anyone else on here feel guilty?!

I have two young kids, and saving like mad to pay off my balance by oct31 so I can have my ba on dec 13. But every now and then I get a huge guilt that I should spend the money on my kids n not b so selfish or vain! Dont get me wrong, they have every electronic gizmo n toy going, so really theres nothin I could buy them anyway! But the guilts still there I try to balance it out by thinkin havin a ba would benefit them also, as I cud finally take them swimmin etc which they constantly nag about! Sorry 4 the essay! But just wondered if anyone feels/felt the same way with any words of wisdom or advice? xxx

Every mother will have agonised over this,the benefits to your children will be a happy confident mum,and that is priceless,mothers give unconditionally,this is your chance to have something that will make a difference to your life too,dont feel guilty for wanting what so many people take for granted everyday,you deserve to be happy too.xxx

Hell no!! Raisein 2kids is HARD work! WHY not treat urself? when ur confident and happy ur kids will benefit! Its NOT vain having a boobjob if u wanna change ur body u go to the gym thats NOT vain is it? but u cant get bigger boobs down the gym…So a boobjob is odviously essential! x x

I also had these guilty feelings. I don’t have kids but I started feeling guilty about my brother and his family as they don’t have much money and I thought god how selfish am I!!! I do help them out a fair bit tho. I think the guilt feeling is just 1 of the many emotions you will go through and it is completely normal just shows you are a nice person

However, as Tina and Hush have said you deserve to have them done, it must be hard work being a mum and if you want this then you should have it xx

I felt the guilt after I was totally paid up but couldn’t stop thinking about the fact that my family and I need a car, a new bathroom, a new kitchen etc…but then I thought, I have a whle life time to do up my house and i’m sure I’ll have the money saved by next year for a new car.

It’s all done now and i’m over the moon that I did it because my love life with my husband is also back track because of it.

The happiness you will get from having it done will far outweigh the guilt. Xx

Aww thanx guys! I dunno wot it is that nags at me, ive paid all my bills, saved for a new car also, that ill get in march when my old bangers tax n mot is up. So this is the only thing left to spend money on now, I think its mainlt to do with my son bein special needs/disabled, and I have a huge guilt that I made him that way, so wen he wants somethin, I buy it straight away ti try and make up for the fact its my fault I made him that way. Does that make sense?! Oh god, sorry to bore u to death with my life story. Anyway, im just focusin on the fact that afterwards, I can take my kids swimmin and disney land Florida(which ill def need a bikini for!) and that will make them super happy! xx

Just think how happy they will be in Florida and how happy you will be, kids don’t hold grudges and it sounds like you guys have a really lovely life. It also sounds like you have all your affairs in order such as bills etc and if this is just one more thing you can tick off your list then good for you hun.

Don’t feel guilty at all, it’s time to give yourself a little something that’s for life, not just for when the latest edition comes out…LOL

XXX

This is going to sound terrible……..I have 5 kids and have no guilt whatsoever,they have everything they want and need and always come frst.

I have always put myself last but for this I thought I come first for a change gonna do something for me. And I am so happy that I did as it has made me such a

Happier person so that makes my kids happier too xxx

I agree you shouldnt feel guilty at all, Tina’s right you will feel so much better and confident and the kids will be so much happier because of this. You deserve it being a mum is such hard work. I too have had them feelings but knowing how much happier i am going to feel keeps me saving towards my op. Go for it and start looking forward to it!! xx

I can totally empathise, I have 3 boys and i have thought what else could this money be spent on etc but then i think, i know i will be a much happier person after so i think it is worth it. But the thoughts do reep back in from time to time.

rem happy mummy=happy kids

got a consultation with surgen tomorrow and i am sooo excited, want it done asap

hi hun i have four children and my 3rd son has autism and adhd and like u i blame myself most of the time and what he wants he gets just like my others my oldest is 20 and i have wanted a ba since before he was born. honestly no we shouldnt feel quilty but we do its part of who we are but sometimes we must spoil ourselves and has you have said noone is going without so come on get excited missus lol xx

Aw thanks girls, do any of u not already on my friends list, mind me addin u? And joanne, ive had my consultation, just waitin for surgery now on dec13, so close to xmas wot size u goin for hun? X

just added u kerryj x

I am quite little, size 6/8 and and just abt a 32A so i’m thinking a C cup will be plenty for me! I hear that 150cc is like a cupsize so 300cc prob but not sure if i’ll have them under or over i guess i’ll find that out tomorrow eek!!

i never felt guilty, my sons has everything hes ever wanted ive gone without for him to have. my ba was for me, i dont feel selfish at all coz even though ive spend 4000 grand on my ba my son still is spoilt rotton, we spend a life time spoiling our kids do something for yourself xx

Caroline I am excited, but scared especially as kids r breakin up from school 3 days later and all the rushing around xmas brings! :-# linzi wot stage r u at now, have u booked a sate yet?? Xx

its really exciting isnt it x

yay well said nikki hun totally agree xxx

I blame me and my partner splitting up because I got so obsessed with saving the money for my boobs ! we are back together now but I went into such weird way ! i cant desribe it ! x

Yeah no probs to add and so chuffed your booked up not long now eh Xmas pressie for you, countdown now lol xx

aww miss georgia, im glad yr back with yr partner. Once u finally take the plunge to save and get it done, u do turn a bit loopy dont u, well i have anyway! lol. and yes linzi464, i cant wait for it, then i can stop obsessing and live!! thanx to all u girls that have commented, i feel alot better knowin im not the only one whos felt this way, and thanx to those that say i shouldnt! xxx

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