Eventually told my mum :-(

I told my mum tonIght I am going to get my boobies done.. She said she will not support me, the reason being she thinks it may go wrong after hearing everything in the news.. I tried to explain there are different types but she would have it. I don’t know what to do want them doing and have for years! Any tips to persuade her to change her mind?? Xx

Wouldn’t have it I mean.

hiya Ive wanted them fr 8 years and my mum has been s against it and she worries about EVERYTHING I got refused finance before xmas and was devastated ive wanted them that bad it used to have me in tears as i felt like a boy!! so my sister went to see her had a natter and explained how unhappy id been and my mums now offered to loan me half of the money as i already had half!! amazing what a chat from some else can do!! just to highlight exactly how you feel about your bod and how much its getting you down xx

Poor you Anna, I’m not sure what you can tell her to make her feel better, mothers will always worry about their children!!!

Maybe suggest that she come with you to any consultations etc so she can ask as many questions has she wants x

She will come round eventually,

Thanks both of u.. I think maybe try again.. she said I cant believe you would spend that much but tried to explain that it shows how unhappy I am atm.. Will try again. Thank you xx

i havent told my parents yet, in fact, anyone close to me. i wish i had the bottle 2 tell them, im more scared of their reactions then anything else, op included, and im bricking that xx

Have you booked yours Joannabella?? Xx

Your Mum should support you! I think that’s so sad when that happens

My Mum cares about me, in fact she’s sick with worry but she knows this is what I want, so the best thing she can do is support me and be there to hold my hand. As for my Dad, he was reluctant but he ended up paying because he couldn’t stand the thought of me being unhappy (his exact words).

I don’t know, maybe because I’m a ‘baby’ my parents fuss more but still…

Explain to her the difference between PIP and Allergan implants. MYA stopped using those in 2009 and something like 6 out of 12,000 have ruptured and that’s just from the ones MYA have used. Allergan is the best of the best, it’s the biggest manufacturer of implants in the world and they have the best track record/reputation to date. Amanda86 is right, you should get her to come with you and talk to the consultations so a professional can put her mind at ease.

Most decent surgeons in this country haven’t used PIP for years now so the ladies affected are just the unlucky few xx

Your Mum should support you! I think that’s so sad when that happens

My Mum cares about me, in fact she’s sick with worry but she knows this is what I want, so the best thing she can do is support me and be there to hold my hand. As for my Dad, he was reluctant but he ended up paying because he couldn’t stand the thought of me being unhappy (his exact words).

I don’t know, maybe because I’m a ‘baby’ my parents fuss more but still…

Explain to her the difference between PIP and Allergan implants. MYA stopped using those in 2009 and something like 6 out of 12,000 have ruptured and that’s just from the ones MYA have used. Allergan is the best of the best, it’s the biggest manufacturer of implants in the world and they have the best track record/reputation to date. Amanda86 is right, you should get her to come with you and talk to the consultations so a professional can put her mind at ease.

Most decent surgeons in this country haven’t used PIP for years now so the ladies affected are just the unlucky few xx

yea, im booked 4 the 23rd with russo, but we are doing a unveiling afterwards, 2 every1, iv told a very few close friends, but only coz they will be helping with daily duties when my fella goes back 2 work xx

im sure when she sees how serious you are she be supportive i went to let my GP know my plans today and its like she said to me ‘your mums bound to be worried shes spent 24 years caring and protecting you and its still her instinct now’ which is true its what mums do best and im sure she’ll support you through this when she gets her head round it chin up chick xx

My mum doesn’t want me to have it n she won’t come to the hospital with me, my dad kicked off saying I’m stupid, I should be happy!! I’ve suffered with an eating disorder for years n got fully better 2 years ago n just think I’m always going to have a bum and no boobs so he will never understand and he said we will never agree on this. But I no deep down they love me n will support me:( n then pip came on the news and he sat me down and tired talking me out of it!! I’ve wanted this since I was 15 and I turned 18 and saved the year n here I am so he won’t change my mind. But my brother says they are worried about me and how it will go. It’s a parent thing they will be like this now, n support u later! But if something went wrong they will be the first to say I told u so xxx

Put the kettle on, sit down with your mum and have a good chat about it.

Maybe give your mum some information about your procedure to read or show her about it on the internet.

Why not take your mum along with you when you go for any appointments about your ba.

Good luck x

I’ve waited 10 yrs and to be honest so so so wish I had it done earlier.

My parents have always known that I hate my boobs so last yr I finally booked an appointment with MYA and took my mum and sister along, my sister had her BA 2 yrs ago. My mum was very worried but at the consultation I think she actually see how unhappy I was when talking to my pc, then we where mucking about with the implants (putting them on our heads and bums) it just lighten the atmosphere and we had a laugh. I took the deposit money with me which she didn’t know I’d been saving and booked my date. Unfortunatly I couldn’t get credit for the rest so my mum did it for me! I couldn’t be more grateful. I set up a direct debit from my bank to theres to pay the rest. My dad is cool and takes the Micky out of me. Also rest of family, yer so what I’ve had my boobs done, I’ve not actually gone round tell everyone but have told quite afew family and friends as don’t want to lie and also I’m proud that I’ve done something about it x

I sressed about telling my mam even though I’m 31! I was like I have something to tell u and I built it up that much that I think she was relieved that I was just having my boobs done! Think she thought I was pregnant again lol! Turns out my auntie had hers done 40 years ago and hers are still fine so my mam was cool,about it. I was proper stressing as well! My mam came along to a couple of app with me as well which got her involved. x

I sressed about telling my mam even though I’m 31! I was like I have something to tell u and I built it up that much that I think she was relieved that I was just having my boobs done! Think she thought I was pregnant again lol! Turns out my auntie had hers done 40 years ago and hers are still fine so my mam was cool,about it. I was proper stressing as well! My mam came along to a couple of app with me as well which got her involved. x

i told my mum and sisters the day before, and i told my own children aged 22 and 18 the day after..at the end of the day you have been unhappy for so long and you will resent it if you change your mind because of someone elses opinion, your mum will be fine when she knows you have had the procedure and you are home and well…i know gets messages asking how the twins are haha xx good luck

Im so scared to tell my mum, I hate her feeling dissapointed in me. She will say theres nothing wrong with my body and I should count myself lucky that I am not ill which I know she is right.

Im going to try and pluck up the courage to tell her and invite her to my consultation with surgeon at end of month.

Good luck hun, your not alone out there and Im sure one day our mums will come round to idea xxx

At the end of the day all our mums want is for us to be happy and safe. They are only worried about us (which is their job) and to be honest I’m a mummy now and can see how mums think! U just want what’s right for our children.

Whether its mums, sisters, dads, friends ect ect, they will still love u after the op is done, as it’s STILL U! X

Thanks everyone its nice to know people do understand xx

I am a mum to a 22yo girl, as a mum we spend all our time trying to keep our kids safe from harm. Its hard when your child decides to go ahead and have surgery as its out of your control as a mum and you are putting your childs life in the hands of someone else.

We all see our kids as perfect and often dont understand that they want to change the perfection we see.

On the flip side, its your body, your life and they have to accept your life choices, parents may not always like what their children choose but as a mum you have to put your big girl pants on and deal with it.

Best of luck with your op, your mum will come round, we always do in the end, we just have to be bossy, we cant help it.

My kids worry about me now, think its called payback

karina, thats a lovely message from a mothers perspective, my eldest daughter is only 12 but i can understand exactly what your saying, i worry about her wearing make up and crop tops nevermind an op!

xxx

Karina that’s pretty much what she said to me.. I know she just worries . Mentioned it and she said we will talk about it another day!! Xx

Anna lovey l had my boobs done last April and to this day l have never told my mum. Im not saying doing it this way is the right way to go. l told my Dad in Sept but he was unhappy that my mum did not know and told him not to tell her. She been thru Cancer etc so it is understandable.xxx

Hi Anna, I was in a similar situation about mine.. I’d never really spoke to either of my parents, spesh my dad about how unhappy I was with my boobs and even tho I’d researched and dreamed about it for four years I’d never said much. I’m a student living away (300 miles away) so I’m not in close contact with them, as soon as I had a stable job I had consultations etc and then called my mum to tel her what I was doing. At first she wasnt happy at all, more upset I think that I wanted to do something so drastic to my body and the risks etc, she or my dad are not vein in the slightest so to them the idea is just ridiculous. It wasn’t until I really showed her I’d looked into it, the risks, the surgeon and clinic, aftercare, t&cs and all of that that she finally started to understand how much I wanted it and how serious I was. My dad however took a lot more persuading and I was so upset that he wasn’t supportive and felt like I’d let him down. In the end I said, this is something I really want and although I hate the thought of disappointing you if I didn’t do it coz of u I’d end up not only unhappy and still hating my appearance but hating u. He wished me good luck and called me after to ask if I was ok, even that I wad amazed at!!

At the end of the day all your parents want to do is love and protect u.. just show ur mum that you’ve researched it and its not a quick decision, and tell her how much her support would mean. She’ll come round hun!! Xxx

Hi Anna, I was in a similar situation about mine.. I’d never really spoke to either of my parents, spesh my dad about how unhappy I was with my boobs and even tho I’d researched and dreamed about it for four years I’d never said much. I’m a student living away (300 miles away) so I’m not in close contact with them, as soon as I had a stable job I had consultations etc and then called my mum to tel her what I was doing. At first she wasnt happy at all, more upset I think that I wanted to do something so drastic to my body and the risks etc, she or my dad are not vein in the slightest so to them the idea is just ridiculous. It wasn’t until I really showed her I’d looked into it, the risks, the surgeon and clinic, aftercare, t&cs and all of that that she finally started to understand how much I wanted it and how serious I was. My dad however took a lot more persuading and I was so upset that he wasn’t supportive and felt like I’d let him down. In the end I said, this is something I really want and although I hate the thought of disappointing you if I didn’t do it coz of u I’d end up not only unhappy and still hating my appearance but hating u. He wished me good luck and called me after to ask if I was ok, even that I wad amazed at!!

At the end of the day all your parents want to do is love and protect u.. just show ur mum that you’ve researched it and its not a quick decision, and tell her how much her support would mean. She’ll come round hun!! Xxx

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