family's opinion on boob job?

just had a long and teary conversation with my mum about how much i want to have a boob job.. obviously she thinks im fine as i am but i’m a very steady person and don’t let my thoughts about my boobs upset me too much or i’d get seriously depressed haha but i ended up breaking down a bit and now she thinks i should try and get them on the nhs (which won’t happen, i know they only do surgery on girls with really bad problems with their boobs)

what did your family think? what did you say to make them think differently? x

my family, just laughed and said what took me so long, worried of course, but have wanted it for so long, that I decided to tell everyone, including work/ friends, then they have nothing to gossip about and am so glad I did, everyone remarks that I carry myself differently and look more glam and confident. you know in your heart what you want to do, so you do what pleases YOU, never mind others. Your mum is your mum and she will worry whatever. good luck hun. x x x x

Hey babes….

I was sooo worried about telling my mam, cos she used to say women with BA were false and vain!

However I booked and a month before hand I text her and told her! She has been nothing but supportive ever since! She came to my appt with me and also took a week off to look after me and take me out!

My step dad (dad) was over the moon. Although I never mentioned my insecurities aboutmyfalt as chest to my mam and dad he knew! He said he always knew I had problems, maybe down to the two bras and two fillets I wore everyday!!

Since my op they take the P out of me but in a joke way my family nicknameis now “Jordan” little embarrassing when its printed on the back of a t shirt I had to wear from gatwick airport to Florida ha ha!!

Honest hun the nhs route is long and hard, councelling etc and also after u get through so many stages they can reject u!!

Also it could taint further job/career prospects as u have to have “depression” or something along those lives to have ur boobs on nhs, unless u have bad aysemetricry or tubular breasts!

Hope ur mam comes round babes good luck xx

Hey babes….

I was sooo worried about telling my mam, cos she used to say women with BA were false and vain!

However I booked and a month before hand I text her and told her! She has been nothing but supportive ever since! She came to my appt with me and also took a week off to look after me and take me out!

My step dad (dad) was over the moon. Although I never mentioned my insecurities aboutmyfalt as chest to my mam and dad he knew! He said he always knew I had problems, maybe down to the two bras and two fillets I wore everyday!!

Since my op they take the P out of me but in a joke way my family nicknameis now “Jordan” little embarrassing when its printed on the back of a t shirt I had to wear from gatwick airport to Florida ha ha!!

Honest hun the nhs route is long and hard, councelling etc and also after u get through so many stages they can reject u!!

Also it could taint further job/career prospects as u have to have “depression” or something along those lives to have ur boobs on nhs, unless u have bad aysemetricry or tubular breasts!

Hope ur mam comes round babes good luck xx

My family have been supportive from the beginning because they knew this is what I wanted and therefore it would make me happy. They have been really understanding…your mum loves you and she wants to make you happy so I’m sure she will agree at some point. Maybe ask her to come with you to consultations so she doesn’t feel like she’s being left in the dark xx

My mam was a bit shocked but supported me….I haven’t told my dad haha! And there is no chance on the NHS, my step sister is completely flat, and also very skinny, she was turned down, the budget has been completly cut now for cosmetic surgery….I’ve just had mine done today and I wish I’d done it years ago, my confidence has soared in hours, I feel so much sexier and ‘yes’ I’ll be in debt for the next 3 years and skint, but it was more important to be than other things! Your mum will come round when she see’s how happy you are, good luck xx

I spoke to my parents a couple of years ago and from their reaction I decided not to go ahead because i didn’t want to upset them but I still feel the same about my boobs so now they know I’m not just doing it on a whim. I researched as much info as I could and showed them so they know I looked into everything. My mom is brilliant about it now and I took her to my consultation so she could ask as many questions as she wanted, I also got her to talk to my friend who has had a BA. My dad still isn’t happy and said he will never understand as to him I’m perfect (bless) but he will support me as he now knows it really upsets me. My advice would be involve them as much as possible and then they will see BA’s are so frequent now a days and it will make YOU happier

thank you for all your replies ladies . i feel the same as all of you, i want this for ME not to look like a model (ha!!) or anything like that.. i know it’ll make me feel happier in my own skin and that’s worth a huge amount to me.

my mum did come around slightly when she saw how upset it really makes me.. she already knows i NEVER wear a bra without serious padding etc. as i’m really petite people still look at me as a little girl, its even a running joke in my office.. i just want to look womanly!

these things are so hard as your parents will never want you to have surgery you don’t ‘need’ but if only they knew how we felt.

god only knows how i would tell my dad.. he’s very strict and unforgiving x

thank you for all your replies ladies . i feel the same as all of you, i want this for ME not to look like a model (ha!!) or anything like that.. i know it’ll make me feel happier in my own skin and that’s worth a huge amount to me.

my mum did come around slightly when she saw how upset it really makes me.. she already knows i NEVER wear a bra without serious padding etc. as i’m really petite people still look at me as a little girl, its even a running joke in my office.. i just want to look womanly!

these things are so hard as your parents will never want you to have surgery you don’t ‘need’ but if only they knew how we felt.

god only knows how i would tell my dad.. he’s very strict and unforgiving x

He’ll come around, like I said, he wouldn’t want to make you unhappy xx

My mum and nan are against it. My mum basically told me I should have thought twice about losing lots of weight after having the kids (as that is the main reason for my saggy empty boobs). My own fault in other words! My nan is primarily worried about whether I’ll recover from the anaesthetic or if the implants leak etc. Both my mum and my nan think I should just accept my breasts how they are. “You’ve had children/lost weight, these things happen!”…”Just accept how you are!”…”You look fine with clothes on, why do you want a boob job??” ARGHHH!

I asked my nan for financial help but she refused because she didn’t approve so in that respect I was quite disappointed, however, I don’t give a damn now whether they give me their blessing or not. I have seen my nan’s breasts – she has big lovely boobs and isn’t saggy AT ALL! This is a lady in her 70’s!! I just dont think she understands what I feel. Let’s face it ladies…when a pensioner has better tits than a 28 year old, something needs to be done about it! Haha!!

aw ur dad will come round like dolly said, men dont really understand these things though..my bf was funny about it at first for some reason thought i was doing it for attention?!

my family were fine with it, my nan paid for it an my nickname from her is now bigt*ts lol x

Aysha’s right – men sometimes find it harder to accept. Especially family members. I’m not telling my brother because I know he’ll get really protective about it. I think because men know the effects that nice boobs have on them, they don’t want us to become objects for other guys to leer at.

Just remind people that this is for you, and no one else. It will give you a great confidence boost (I’m so looking forward to that part!) xx

i was sooo worried about telling my parents as they are helping to pay for my wedding i thought they would think i was being really selfish but they have been great. my mum said if i am that unhappy with my body i should go for it and she will support me all the way, my dad knows but he hasnt really said anything i think hes probably a bit embarrassed!! xx

Hi hun,

My mums known i have wanted this since i was about 18 im 21 now.. and has been very supportve even though shed rather me not she has still come to every appointment and stuck by my side as she said thats what mothers do and that she knew I would have done it with or without her and she wants to see me safe…

however, dad on the other hand… well thats a different story, mum told him and hes actually fuming, after her chat with him we are not allowed to talk about it infront of him and cant let him hear anything about it… his words were ‘i dont trust another man cutting you open, I dont wana talk about this.’ So as you can imagine me and mum havnt spoke about it whilst being in the house lol.

Im sure everything will be fine like you said your mums coming round and they do eventually realise you are doing it for yourself.

xxxxxxx

My mum just laughs at me because she had a reduction she says wait to the back pain kicks in lol, i say worth it heehee. xxxxxx

my mom and dad were really supportive…I even showed my dad lol(i know which sounds weird) he paid for it because he knew I wanted it for years…his punch line was now walk up straight like a lady haha im just paying him back monthly.he even came with my to one of my consultations and my stepmom.

my mom who lives abroad had hers done 10 years ago after kids and they look amazing still…her scars are invisible now and they look completely natural.

My brothers were the ones a bit weird like why are you doing that and some friends were like why you dont need to dont be crazy… i hate that breast implants have such a bad perception….

we all do it for very different reasons. I had perky little boobs which looked great with a cleavage bra and i loved them(not a fan of padded bras personally though) but for me it was my skinny bones between my boobs that i hated…

everyone said no thats how models are meant to be…but i hated it…now with my new boobies…my chest looks full…i feel more womanly in the mirror at the end of the day thats what matters how you view yourself not what anyone else thinks or says. who is anyone to judge.

at first i planned to keep it very private but people do talk so figured being a bit open about it helps that hiding it and people try guess anyways.plus want to help other girls like all the help i have recieved from girls on here.

your family will always in the end support you or accept it once they see your happy and okay.

hang in there hun…

do what makes you happy for you xxxx

I have told a couple of close friends and my sister who were really supportive and asked lots of questions; my mum told me to get over it and hasn’t discussed it since. I am still planning to go ahead with the surgery as it is in the end my body and my decision. I can’t decide wether or not to tell work colleagues, will wait and see if anyone notices I guess and take it from there.

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