Finally told my mum and feel :(

It’s my Ba a week today and finally built up the courage to tell my mum! She reacted the way I expected which was fine – not really understanding or thinking I need it but still supportive if its what I feel I need to do.

But its just got me a bit down as I can’t help but think now what if something goes wrong – I’ll only have myself to blame as I’m choosing to have surgery that’s not even medically necessary. My mums gonna be worrying and I feel so guilty and crap! Am I making the right choice?!!

Sorry for the downer, think I just need some pick me ups and reassurance from you lovely ladies xxx

My mum reacted the same and didnt see or understand the reason why i wanted it done. She always asks to see them now as they are healing and tells me she is very jealous. lol

You will be absolutely fine And you only have 7 days left!! Good luck xxxx

Hun, if it’s what you want and it will make you happy, more confident etc then why the hell not? There is always a risk with any operation or procedure you have babe, whether it’s cosmetic or having your tonsils taken out!

If we thought that way about everything in life… we’d never go anywhere!! Lol.

Bite the bullet honey, you won’t regret it

xx

thats just a typical loving mums reaction. when she sees how happy you are she will know its been worth it any mum wants their child to be happy x x

Claire please don’t worry, something could happen to you walking across the road.

Please think positive, you will be really happy with them and mum will see you shine and realise it was a good choice for you xx

I have two girls and it is a big worry for me but I think positive and think I won’t die from this, it’s more dangerous driving or taking drugs xx

Live your life for you and reassure her all will be fine xxx

When I told my mum she wasn’t understanding at all! She works with disabled children and said I should be grateful to be healthy and not disfigured etc etc. I know she was only saying it out of love but really made me think twice – I know exactly how you feel! …. Eventually after arguing for ages I said that I didn’t want her to worry so wouldn’t tell her exactly when I was getting it done – I would tell her once it was over……..I’m 5 weeks post op now. Mum and I see eachother pretty much everyday and she still hasn’t noticed! I figured I’ll tell her once I get through 6 week check ok. And – for the record – I’m soooooooo glad I did it – they’re awesome! Lol xx. Good luck xx

AWww babe, dont worry u have ur boobie family it is the best thing u will ever.do babe. U will be b4 ooo happy after it. So sorry ur mam dont understand i didnt have that. I worried.for five months bout telling my mam,told her three weeks before my op and she was bril with me!

She even came ro my six week check… She fancied mr traynor haha so do i but thats another story haha xxx

Oh babe don’t worry.. i was sooo scared to tell my mum and just blurted it out and she was a bit upset (worrier) but soon came round x Your mum loves you and worries xx just give her time but dnt change ur mind hun!! you will be fine next week and we are all here for u in MYA spirit xxx

My Mum was similar hun, I invited her along to my pre-op appointment with me. I thought that if she understood more about what I was having, why and saw that it wasnt some backstreet butchers lol she would come round to it a bit more.. and she did. Once she knew more about the process she was more behind me xx

your mum will come around when she sees how happy this will make you,youll be fine hun,she is just worried cos its an operation,that she probably thinks you dont need,cos your beautiful anyway, and mums just worry,i swear it will be the best thing you ever do,dont feel down,your frends are here for you,xxxxxx

Aww thanks girlies! My mum has been supportive but I think she’s just a bit upset that I feel the need to do it. I’m just feeling all over emotional at the mo! It’s a huge decision, I’m just starting to have many doubts but I also think if I don’t go for it I’ll never be happy anyway do I might aswell bite the bullet!! Xx

Go for it hun,swear it will make such a difference to your life,dont wait till your in your 50s like me,lol,do it now,xxxxxxx

Hi hun,

maybe when your mum has got over the shock you sit down aand take her some info and explain the pros and cons and tell her you need her support even if she thinks differantly from you. I was really lucky my mum and dad were supportive your mum will be amazing source of support they always are. Mums are ace!! I am one so I can say that ha!!! good luck chicken x x x 😆

its elective yes but its not major surgery and the risks involved are low xxx so dont get urself too worried babe ur gonna wake up with fabulous new boobies xxx

Aww hun she will come round don’t worry!

Im hvaing my BA in 3 weeks…..my mum knows and she was fine about it but my dad doesn’t know!!

I wasn’t gonna tell him tbh but my mum thinks he should know!

Im going on holiday next week so my mum is going to tell him then and I’ve told her to tell him not to say anything to me about it cos i know he will not want me to get it done!xx

My mom was exactly the same. In fact she was really disappointed in me Then I pointed out the fact that she would have cosmetic dentistry if she could afford it, so what’s the difference?! She conceded then and wished me good luck. She’s slowly coming round to the idea.

We’ve all gone through it hon, i think especially those with small kids and husband etc. But if it’s something you feel you need to do, then do it. Otherwise you will miss an opportunity and always wonder.. what if?…

First of all, well done for telling Yr mom. I know u feel s#¥t at mo, but hopefully that will pass and just remind yourself and focus on why u doing it in the first place. I can’t help but think Yr mom reaction is just a bit of reverse psychology thing??? once she sees that this is no school girl fantasy and u have taken an adult decision and have done yr research, aybe she will come round and support u. Maybe this is Yr mom way testing how serious u r. And as moms, it is their obligation to pretend to be angry but then they will end up going with u to Yr appointments and help u with recovery??????

I don’t know but stay positive and focus on Yr op.

Don’t want to sound like a hypocrite, but I haven’t told my mom. I know my mom will be disappointed, think I’m wasting money, and worse, literally make herself ill with worry, and cry every night. I chosen the coward way out, and not going to tell her that’s why I think u r so brave and totally applaud u.

My mum reacted in the same way. She saw the surgery as un-necessary because it wasnt life or death, what she didnt understand at the time was that i was necessary for me to me happy. When i went into surgery she was in tears, and i felt awful, but now that she can see that im so happy, (and healed) is all been forgotten. I was also having looooads of doubts, one minute i wanted it, then i didnt. I was scared, worried that i might have made the wrong choice, that i might regret it.. but trust me as long as you are 100% comfortable with your surgeon then you will be fine xx

Our mum’s are a different generation hun, its more acceptable among us lot to have the procedure if we are not happy – it’s also a lot lot cheaper than it used to be and safer.

I haven’t told my mum – I mentioned it a year ago and she did agree oo why not! but my dad would think its a stupid waste of money – but then he’s a man!

I live in London their in Wiltshire so and can get away with it- I’ll tell her later and i’m sure she’ll be jealous- I’ve grown up with seeing the stick even my mum gets jokes etc about it so got ingrained in my brain and i’m smaller than she was at my age!!!

There is more pressure now for us to look good with the accessibility of porn/pin ups/ movies stars looking gorgeous – when they were young hardly anyone had fake boobs.

If it makes you feel better for the price of a rusty old car off of ebay then bloody go for it. It’s really safe so no need to worry xxx

Thanks everyone, you’ve definitely made me feel better about everything. I feel much mote positive today and I know my mum will be ok once its all done providing it all goes well. She felt the need to tell my dad though! Which is embarrassing – men don’t quite understand the reasons as much as women so I think he’s expecting me to come home on weds night looking like jordan and immediately embark in a career in porn!

Definitely glad u told her though, I feel much better niw xxx

My mam was the same. I went to my first consultation when she was on holiday then the day she came back I blurted it out. And she kept saying I dont need one I’m fine. Took her to see the surgeon and we argued all the way there and waiting but as soon as she seen me try the implants on and my face lit up she softened and told me she loved me and there no matter what. She will come round it’s just a big shock for them especially when it’s your daughter and you never knew how they felt. It gets better xx

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