For those post-op with young children

I have a 14 month old son and he is quite a mummys boy, he loves to climb on me and cuddle me and beat me up lol, not sure how he’ll find mummy not being able to do anything with him during the first few days or so and I was just wondering for those of you that have had surgery and have young children, how long it was before you were able to pick them up or hold them again? x

I’m 7 days post op and still not able to pick my little boy up or put him in his car seat yet, luckily my other half has taken over and been amazing. He’s 2 and understands that mummy is poorly ATM. At first I found if he thinks I’m asleep or out of the house he’s better behaved for daddy. If I’m there in the same room he often wants me to do stuff, and says no if daddy tries to help, he is also very much a mummy’s boy! I can give him a gentle cuddle now but that’s it ATM.

I’m worried about this too samf81. I have a 14 month old and a 3 year old. I’m having my mum move in for a week and a half to help as we live very far from family and friends. I’m having uplift with the BA so I’m presuming it might be even longer before I can lift my two up! Kids are pretty adaptable, I’m sure your little one will be fine

hi hun i have 4 kids my baby was 6 months and was picking her up after a week shes heavy for 6 months 20lb but u should be carful dont do it unless u have too 2weeks and i was fine but everyones different just be carful xx

This has been my main worry as well, my daughter is 13months old & my hubby will be back to work on day 8!! My op date is 27th Jan & im also having uplift & implants. Im just hoping i will be ok – i suppose ill just have to cope lol!!! xxx

Hi,

I had my op 6 months ago with a 2 year old and wasn’t able to pick her up or cuddle for a at least 3/ 4 weeks. i think i lifted before i managed a good cuddle.

She was fine and we found other ways to cuddle and her Dad was great.

Hi hun, this was my biggest worry pre ba. My son was 16mths at the time of my op. I’m a single mum and my son stayed with his dad whilst i had my op and my mum stayed for a week after. Day 7 post op, i was back to mummy duties. It was ok, not painful. I just avoided lifting him when possible and found a comfortable way to lift him when i needed to. Thought i’d pay for it a couple of days after but it was cool. Everyones different, just take it easy and dont rush into things, even if youre feeling ok x x x P.s, i had unders

Thanks for all your responses. My hubby is gonna take 2wks off work but then i’ll be back to all mummy duties all day as he is a chef and usually not home until 10pm or later. My eldest is nearly 10 so can help when after school but i will still need to be able to carry 15mth old up and down stairs and put him in his cot and get him out again during day and put him in again at bedtime. I will also need to carry him when i pick other kids up from school just from and to car.

It’ll probably all be fine, i’m just a born worrier!

Hiya,

you should be fine after 2 weeks hun. My son just turned 1 when I had my BA and my partner was home for 3 weeks. I started with little things like I changed him on the floor and put his seat down to feed him which made it easier. After 2 weeks I was trying to lift him and I was fine. Just take it easy and dont over do it!!! xx

My first post (just joined) was going to ask this! I have a 17 month old daughter and i’m a single mum who is having BA on 10/01. Thankfully mum on hand to help Thanks for the heads up!

I have a 13 month old and was having to do normal things like lifting and stuff a couple of days after it was painful but if you have to then you kinda just get on with it but if someone is there and able to do things for you then just take it easy for aslong as you can xxx

this is what worries me as well, i have a 6year old and a 6month old my 6 month old is a mummies boy, dont know how i will cope not getting cuddles from my boys tho x

I’m 11 days post op and am back to mummy duties. My little boy is 27 months old and was able to lift him and put him in his car seat and everything. Can’t cuddle tho

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