Gutted. :|

I’ve been looking forward to having my boobs done so much n now it’s just not gonna happen! Basically my boyfriend decided if I save up half the money he will happily pay the rest for me as a Christmas present this year, I’ve been so excited and so has he, we’ve both just been focusing on gettin the money together for around November time and he’s even been pushing me to get it booked in asap. But yesterday he turned around n said he thinks we should forget the boobs n put all our mOney in getting a nice place together which don’t get me wrong I’d love to but the plan was to start saving for that after I get my boobs done, If we move out first I’ll never be able to afford to save for my ba.

I don’t know what to do I’m absoloutly gutted! Wanted it so bad was really lpoking forward to it n now it’s not happening at all. If I fund the whole Ba myself it’s gonna take twice as long and he wants us to move out for September time this year so I can’t possibly do it!

Sorry if I sound pathetic it’s just I hate my boobs n the thought of getting them done in November has put me on cloud nine but now it’s all just gone to pot just like that! Rrr sorry about the moany post girls I’ve just got no one else to talk to who actually understands how much I was looking forward to this xx

xxxx hugs

N he’s just so happy n excited bout us getting a place together n all I can think about is how I’m never getting my boobs, feel like such a bitch, but I just feel so let down.

Thanks cuks xxxx

tell him no, say uv wanted this forever! and you’ll save up together straight away after to move in!! x

I feel like im just being selfish tho, I don’t want to burst his bubble about moving out asap cus he’s so excited about it. N it was amazing for him to offer to pay half but he’s just took it all away n expects me to be cool with it rrrrrrrr don’t know wtf to doo! Xx

Do u know wot.. maybe I’m being selfish here, but i wud not let anything come between wot i wanted. I say go for it. Tell him u want it done and it will make u happy. Wot wud he like more a “place” with a unhappy girlfriend or a happy girlfriend and happy “place” – good luck babes xxxxx

He shouldn’t have promised to pay half if he wasn’t going to follow through with it!! You might feel mean that you could move out earlier with the money, but what he is doing is far worse in my opinion! & as you said, when you move out you won’t be able to save for your BA, so i’d prioritise that & save for a house after.x

Get a part time job in a pub that’s what I did nd worked over the weekends nd a few hrs after work on a nite I was shatterd but u see it all building up nd with all the bank hols at the min u will get a bit xx

Ahh thanks cuks your right! I’m gonna have to say something later, I was bein off with him all yesterday after he said it n he was just like what’s wrong? You okay? As if he was clueless to what had been said, men are so oblivious I swear! I’m just gonna have to be blunt with him n say I’m puttin all my money into the Ba before I even consider moving out xxx

Thanks for reading my rant girls ha, katiejo I see what your sayying but i don’t know what to say to him now, now I’ve said okay Wel do it your way

Tina I already work at a pub lol I’m looking to get a new job with more reliable hours tho cus atm my hours chop n change

Xxxxx

You need to talk to him hun, if you don’t then chances are he will just be thinking everything is hunkydory when really its not!

I’m saving up for a deposit on a house to get a mortgage with my bf. We’d planned to have our money saved by next Feb but now I’m going for this its putting it back to about next Sept as ill be paying the finance each month so will be saving less. My boyfriends disappointed its gonna be longer til we move in together, but he understands how much I need this to he happy with myself.

Talk to him! Xx

Thanks Claire that’s really helpful Aw atleast he understands then. I’m gonna man up n tell him what I want when he gets his arse out of bed lol will let you know what’s said! Xx

Mercedes be strong and eep us posted. xxxx

Awww bbe I was in exactly the same position as u as I moved bk home in Oct last yea and we were like let’s save to move out Bt I really wanted this done and at first he wouldn’t lend me the money cos he was like w’e need it for our future savig for a mortgage, but if w’e did save it would be impossible to save for my boobs… So he has lent me the money which I’m paying off in big installments so next year we can start a fresh and save like crazy..I np how selfish this sounds but The thing is what the point of having a nice house nice thing but ur unhappy in ur own skin which u will have to live in forever ppl dnt understand sometimes it’s not purley vanity… It’s so u can look in the mirror with cringing u change most things like weight ect but boobs r out of hands and u need support and understanding and for ur loved ones to respect and be behind u in what u choose, I’m 2 weeks post op and it the best thing I ever did… Can u trying stiing him down and being like w’e can move out ne time houses will always be on the Market but u feel thins is Ur only chance to do this comfortably… U don’t want to resent him when ad if u do move out now deep down it unhappy…. Good luck my darling I truly mean it my heart goes out to u cos I was in ur shoes 4mnths ago but I got a fairy tale ending I hope I do to xxx

You need the boobs hun,talk to him.you have the rest of your lives to move in together if he loves you he will understand,because if you move in and struggle to save for your boobs it will put a strain on the relationship and you will always have it in your mind that you could have had your boobs first,moving in together is tough in itself financially and you will never have any spare cash to save,because something will always come up that he thinks is more important than your boobs,he fell in love with you as you are now,so the boobs are not as important to him.But they are to you,and all the girls here will understand where your coming from,you just need to convince him.good luck.xxx

Do both suffer the consequenses after huni, Afterall the move and the boobs are for both of u lol xx big hugs xx

hello!!! hes burst YOUR bubble surely?? hes what u need to do babe.. tell him you want ur boobs done!!! he can either help u like he was originally then u can move in .straight after boobs have been done.. OR…. you tell him your gonna save the rest urself but that u cant move in with him till after uve saved and got it done so hes gonna have to just wait for u to move in as its gonna take u twice as long to save for the boobs to be done xxxxx

hi, at 38 years old please believe me when i say just do it! I didnt, due to money, then due to bf , now an ex bf! now i’m going for it and the man i’m with at the mo, its v new but he is very supportive, don’t waste any of your years being fed up with your boobs, if he is a decent man he will put YOUR FEELINGS first, as women we are too conditioned into putting men first, and you are not being selfish, you’re being responsible and addressing what you need in order to be happy. go girl!! xxxx

Hear Hear Jangledania!!!! )

xmercedesx could you go for the finance op if u BF puts his foot down?? xx Cxx

I know how you feel babe my bf kinda did the same, said he’d get me a loan cos my credit is awful then put it off then came up with all these reasons not too so I just said forget it but I too was like on cloud 9 thinkin I’d be gettin them in summer n bang no more boobs! I’m doin the hard save now but I’m gona ask my grandma wen she’s back off holiday if she will lend me the rest, good luck Hun X

thanks so much for all your replys girls its all really helpful im gonna try n talk to him today!

dreamsdocometru your so right i might have to just use exacly what you said lol so happy for you for gettin them hun you must be so pleased now :)xx

tina2011 yeh he just dosnt look at it like i do cus hes perfectly fine about my boobs, he dosnt seem to understand that no matter what he says im still gonna feel the same way about them xx

Thanks vickysweetcheeks, he seems to think new boobs wont really apeal to him, says hes more of a ‘bum man’ ha that old linexx

susielicious aha i kno i dont think he realises how i feel tho, typical man! i think if i just tell him im doin it no matter what hel still help with the money to get us moving in quicker ha xx

jangledania i just need to pluck up the courage to talk to him about it, hes always putting me first n i feel like ive had alot from him, dont want to push it, its just so hard puttin exacly how i feel into words to him. ah so glad your going for it, at the end of the day it is about what you want and not your man xx

ladycj14 i dont think i could get finance n if i did i still wouldnt be able to afford to move out until its all paid off xx

staceylash its a horrible feeling int it! how they can just drop everything n let you down like that, i supose working for it ourselfs itl feel even better when its finily done tho lol, good luck babe let me know how you get on! xx

Hey girlies, had to make a new account cus my old one wouldnt work but just thought id post up that i am now back in the boobie game i just got a grip of myself and spoke to my boyfriend about how much i wanted this and if we got a place together first it would just never happen for me. he was totaly cool about it n is still gonna help me pay half! so im all smiles again and actually cannot wait till weve got all the money together all the flapping over nothing! ha xx

AWw so pleased for u babes xxx

Goos for you hun,he will benefit too,lol.xxxxxxxxx

Awww that’s great news Hun so happy for you, I’m still not much closer but I think my bf is secretly Savin for me cos I know he does want to help me X

Yay xx

Thanks girls! I’m buzzin now ha

Aww Stacey that’s really sweet if he is! All this savings killing me ha there’s too many nice clothes out atm! Wel get there eventually tho ay xx

YEY!! fantastic, really pleased for you!! x

Thanks hun xx

so happy for you hun xx

Thankyou suger xx

Woo hoo! So chuffed for u chick xx

Cheers hun gahh I’m so excited now! Xx

thats great news hun x i bet your well chuffed do you have a date your aiming for x

Im thinking around November time, I’m just working all the hours I can get n putting every bit of spare money I have away for it. I’ve put my old car on ebay too to hopefully get a couple hundred so things are looking good

What stage are you at chick? Xx

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