Has anyone else had negative reactions from friends?

Hi all,

bit upset today. I have only told a couple of friends about my BA at the end of Nov, I’ve wanted them done for years as they are really awful. Very very asymmetric and also really empty / saggy after breastfeeding. Both friends know why I want them done and were initially supportive.

I text friend A to tell her I had booked my op, she replied calling me a tart! Friend B has stopped talking to me since this text. The text I sent was literally “hi love, all booked for the end of Nov xx”

I’m currently single and have been happily single for almost a year now but I’m not doing this for men, I’m doing this for me. I’m so hurt about their response, they were both really egging me on to get them done before I booked the op. I’m now starting to feel like I am doing something wrong / selfish. 🙁

Hey Hun. Sometimes text can be misconstrued. Perhaps when friend A called you a tart she was only joking? Perhaps they don’t agree with it but it’s your decision and true friends will stand by you no matter what. If they stop talking to you over it they really dont sound like good friends in the first place. Sorry if it sounds harsh but true. A few of my friends don’t think I should get my op done, they don’t think I need it etc but are still there for me. They just keep there options to themselves! I hope it’s just abit of surprise/jealousy and that they sort themselves out xx

They aren’t true friends if they are being like that hun!! I had my BA for me no one else not men not friends me! I’m two weeks post op had a few under hand comments from girls saying i was doing it for attention, iv’e not posted one boobie pic or been out with them on show they are there for me and me only. Send them another text explaining this and how it has upset you if they don’t understand leave them be! xxx

Hi girls, thanks so much for replying. She definitely meant it, it was quite a long text saying I would be getting them out all over the place and she didn’t want to be around someone behaving like that. I’ve never said I would get them out! In fact I rarely go out as I’m so busy with my business / daughter / training. I’ve actually bought baggy tops for afterwards as i’m worried they’ll be too obvious lol.

You’re right though, if they can’t support me they’re not great friends. Rachel what daft comments! I can’t believe anyone would think we actually put themselves through an operation and 6 + weeks of healing / pain for attention!

xxx

Exactly hun!! all jealously in my eyes nothing wrong with fixing something you dont like about yourself. So do it for you and no one else! I lost 5 stone so had a lot of positive support too! hope you ignore all the negative comments! you will feel too amazing to care trust me xxx

5 stone? That’s awesome! Well done you. xxx

Thanks again for the support, I’m cheering up already lol. Yeah I think you’re right about the jealousy thing, There were a couple of digs about the cost as well, but the thing is I work hard and am lucky enough to be able to fund this. It’s not as if i’m getting a free gift lol.

There just jelous hun and obvisously not true friends. Don’t let anyone put you off what makes you happy .
Xx

Yeah in the space of a year so treated myself with MY money that i work hard for. So glad ive done it and they can be jealous and bitter all they want!! even if it did upset me id have amazing boobs to cry in too 😉 xxx

Jealousy is the worst thing ever, but unfortunatly there are so many jealous people in this world! You know you’re having this done for yourself and no one else.. So ignore their bitter comments. & why are they making digs about the cost.. It’s not as if you’re asking them to fund it for you!! Silly people, ignore them, it’s their problem not yours & they’ll be even more jealous when they see how happy you are and how amazing you look! Xx

One word, jealous!! I’ve only told a few friends, some agree some don’t but they know how much it means to me and tbh their opinion doesn’t count to me, this is my life, my body. I’m not telling my parents either, they were negative when I mentioned it a few years ago. Xx

Jealous is written all over this page replying to your awful experience and that’s exactly what this is all about. I don’t know what kind of friends they have been in the past to you, assuming close ones as you’re feeling upset! 🙁 Hun, it’s hard but try not to listen. They can’t appreciate how you feel inside and that makes them no sort of friends!!!! A friend will be there for you and support you through everything you do, its none of their business if they don’t think you should do it. Just the other day, and in fact the most common thing I’m told is “no don’t get a boob job you don’t need it you’re fine as you are” – I’m angry just typing that out. Who are THEY to tell ME what to do with my body?! I’m sorry but.. Hun.. Please don’t be upset as I’m upset now too lol, it’s nobody else’s body but yours.. You were given it and if you want to change it and you can to make you feel good, who is anyone to tell you not to?! Jealous that’s what they are. I don’t understand how people can be that way inclined that they feel the need to control others to make themselves feel better. It disgusts me 🙁
Please keep your chin-up, like you said this is for you and no one else <3 If you wanna message me privately feel free hun cos I know exactly how you feel xxxx

Well it seems like everyone has a story….well listen to this. I was booked already last year about this time for my operation. My partner lost his job because he made a comment about it at our work place (we used to work together). One of our amazing work colleague not having any boobs herself reported it to HR that its discriminating for him to talk about his gf having her boobs done. Well he lost his job, I still had to stay there, we struggle financially for few months but guess what NOW he is actually being able to pay for my boobies on his own (not that I will allow it) but he offered because he simply can. I am still at the same work place so I guess our great work colleague will have to dye out of her jealousy 🙂 SO LADIES……let these jealous people BE and be happy with ourselves and the set of boobies 🙂

I have had mine done and none of my girl friends know because i dont know the reaction im going to get. I know most likely ill get spoken about and unfortunately with me i dont have many close girl friends and the girls i am close with will no doubt call me stupid. Get on best with boys. Most of my boy mates found out 2 days ago and i was worried they would be like a usual boy making jokes and stuff but they were all really sweet telling me not to worry what people think its my body and if anyone takes the piss theyre not friends theyre just jealous. My boyfriend has also been very supportive and really helpful with after the op. I got it done for myself though as not been happy for years xx

Jealousy is such a awful thing and unfortunately if they don’t want to be supportive they know where then can go. I personally didn’t tell anybody at the stages of pre op and also I felt it was a personal thing I did for myself only so not even friends didn’t have to know.
Although I do have jealous friends in.general I don’t look into it too much as I just don’t class them as doing anything wrong but just being abit ‘insecure ‘ with themselves and you would get that alot everywhere you go really, society has become a competition… but to find me inspiring lol haha why thank you,
So rather then seeing it as a bad thing, think wow they admire Me hehe.
Don’t let them get to you. Not worth it x

i think women can be the cruellest though; you’d think they’d understand but oh no its always judgemental comments and gossiping behind your backs. really annoys me. just ignore em, i know its hard to do but wth it’ll make you more happier trust me, you dont need people trying to stop you from being happy by making snide remarks.

Aw you lot are amazing, thank you so much. I feel a lot better now reading all these replies.

I think I’ll just keep my distance from them and look forward to finally having normal boobs. It’s been such a huge thing for me for years so I am determined now not to let anyone ruin this for me. I know some people might think I’m shallow for being so excited about new boobs but it will honestly make such a huge difference to my self esteem.

Enjoy the rest of the weekend ladies. xxx

I’ve had worse. Just to give you an overview, I’ve gone for the natural look; which is in proportion to my body.

This one ‘friend’ went crazy on the phone at me when I told her I was having it done. She was actually shouting at me; and said it’s gonna look stupid on me, I’m gonna look too top heavy, it’s gonna give me bad posture, I’m going to regret the day I get them done etc. – She didn’t even listen to my explanation or reasoning. (btw I’m no longer friends with this girl, following this incident).

But I think it’s a bit too faced from her. As she has always struggled with her weight; and mentioned to me that she would consider having surgery to help with her weight / saggy skin? – I know that’s different to a boob job, but they’re both cosmetic darling.

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