having boyfriend trouble

i’m sure i’m not the only one here, so someone please say that they’re in the same boat!! basically since my op, i have posted a couple photos on my facebook etc of photos of me with low cut tops showing them off a little. it has caused some attraction from other men, mainly them just liking the photo and a couple of comments. but no one has tried it on with me, and nor have i even thought about cheating on my boyfriend. i reassured him before the op and after the op that my goal wasn’t to be getting them out for male attention, and that i haven’t changed as a person, i’m just more confident. he knew what to expect, and that of course i am going to be wearing revealing clothes. but it’s for myself, not for anyone else. i finally feel and look like a woman, not a 12 year old boy anymore. we’ve just had a huge shouting match and me making him leave my house, and honestly it’s been going on for weeks and i think it might end us.

he’s the only one letting it get between us, he’s the only one making an issue out of it. i understand where he’s coming from and that it’s hard for him to see me get a lot of attention, but i told him he can’t put me down for it and have a go at me, if anyone it should be the men!! why can’t he just like the photo, comment saying “thats my girl, back off lads!” and take it in his stride?!

what annoys me is that if i had naturally big boobs in the first place before we met, and i always got them out, he wouldn’t tell me to not get them out anymore would he? it wouldn’t even be an issue. i don’t see my boobs as a sexual thing for other men, for me they’re a fashion accessory in a way haha! finally i can wear the dresses and tops i always dreamed of wearing, and now i can! i actually fill out dresses and i’m finally able to wear half of my wardrobe that never fit before.

i know theres always going to be people that have a negative reaction, but i’ve also had such a positive reaction too. i’ve had lots of girls messaging me asking for advice and just even messages to say “hey, you look great, congrats!” and i think thats so nice for people to go out of their way to just pay me a compliment.

this is the happiest i’ve been in so long, and i just want him to be happy for me aswell. what do you girls think? sorry this is such a long post but i’m feeling so down about it all! 🙁

Ok firstly your boobs look absolutely amazing! Your just making me more excited to get mine!.. With your boyfriend I think it’s completely natural that he’ll be feeling a bit insecure if your suddenly getting a lot more attention than he’s used to – men and their egos are usually a tricky thing

Ok firstly your boobs look absolutely amazing! Your just making me more excited to get mine!.. With your boyfriend I think it’s completely natural that he’ll be feeling a bit insecure if your suddenly getting a lot more attention than he’s used to – men and their egos are usually a tricky thing

I have no idea why that’s just posted half my post.. Twice! Haha I was saying I’m sure he is happy for you behind his worry and right now he really needs to he supporting you in your recovery. I’m sure it will all calm down in time. Hope your healing well x

Blokes get jealous and insecure, im sure tomorow he will have calmed down, but you need to let him know how you ffeel, don’t put up with any nonsense from him, its your body and you can wear the clothes you want!

bless you Katie, you may not see your boobs as a sexual object but i think your boyfriend, is of the mind that men see them as them, and he is very insecure. You are only a couple of months since your op, so it is still all very new. Keep talking to him, and reassuring him, he met you when your boobs were small, and now you have terrific big boobies, and its just a test of your relationship. In the early weeks you may have to go out of your way to make sure he feels secure. I know for my other half, he has has said he is taking a big risk, and that he is scared i will change, get more attention and find someone new and leave him. You clearly love him, and he does you, I am a big believer if your doing nothing wrong, and you genuinely feel that, then you need to stand your ground, but also put your feet in his shoes, and make sure you see it from his point of view. perhaps think about it if he went to the gym, and got buffed up, and started to wear tight tops and he got loads of comments how you would want him to be with you. I try to look from all angles. I think you need to do alot more talking, spending quality time together, laughing, talking, and connecting to each other. perhaps when you put a photo up tag your boyfriend in it, put something with it, that will make him smile.

I hope you guys can work it out
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Please don’t get trapped in now feeling shit and then end up not wanting to wear revealing clothes coz of his feelings, ur doing nothing wrong, I’m only 6 days post op and my boyfriend said if anyone one touches,comments etc like family/friends his not going to take any interest in them at all, and at the moment I’m wearing a big old sports bras and jumpers so god knows what his going to end up like, I feel for u coz all we want to do is just show them off abit and feel like a real woman, sexy, curvy, comfortable, and not wishing anymore wish I looked like that, so talk to him and say ur feeling low and all u want is for him to be proud of u and enjoy them as much as u r because ur not willing to go back to feeling how u did b4 about urself coz at the end of the day those puppies are there to stay

sorry for the late reply but thankyou for your comments girls! it makes me feel so much better that i’m not the only one thinking i’m not totally in the wrong. he’s just come over again and he left saying it’s over, but he can be a little melodramatic like that. i do see how much it upsets him but he said himself he knows i’m not going to change, and exactly they are here to stay!! he was saying i’m feeling all sorry for myself, which i’m totally not. i’m bound to be feeling down again after all the grief he’s giving me. we can’t come to a conclusion on the situation. i didn’t get them done to hide them away still!! i don’t want to lose him over this but at the same time i can’t be unhappy.

Hi Katie
Awh please don’t feel bad enjoy your new boobies!! I guess he’s feeling a little insecure. I’m sure he get use to the attention it may attract. Hopefully he’ll just in brace it.

I hope your don’t the add- I’m a newbie!

Mercedes x

Hi Katie, congratulations on being so happy, I love mine too and im only 7 days po. I can see things from both sides and not everyone can handle a girlfriend or boyfriend who likes to show themselves off, plenty of ladies on here wouldnt like there guys suddenly flaunting a new six pack with other girls making comments so what he is feeling is normal but also your young and want to embrace your new confidence, your boyfriend obviously thinks they look amazing too! If its love then go easy on him and comprises until he gets his head around it, ie if a guy makes a sexual comment you too could text back ‘ back off guys I got my man’ or ‘thanks they’re my boyfriends xmas present’. Like wise he also needs to compromise too and understand you want to wear sexy clothes etc. Hope it works out for you, if not get um out and go party!! Lol x

Aww don’t let him get u down u had them done for yaself and no one else and that’s it men do get jealous and we wish they would just be proud and say she is mine and he will soon just think it’s all new to both of u and he will get over it in time 🙂 xx

Well mines made me delete facebook. It has made us stronger but he doesn’t like me wearing low cut tops when I’m not with him x

My bf cant wait for my new boobies…..his respond was yeahhh they all can look but I`m the only one who will touch them etc….xxx

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