Help!!!!

Ok girls for those of you who have had a good reaction from parents you HAVE to tell me your secret! I told my mum a couple of weeks ago that I wanted a BA and she is really against it. She can’t understand why I want it doing and just sees it as an uneccessary surgery My boobs are asymmetrical with one being a very small 34b and the other a big 34b. For my frame they are also quite small as I am a size 12 and have broad shoulders and wide hips. She thinks she would have known if I was so unhappy with them but I just didnt see the point in going on about it as I never thought I’d be in a position to do anything about it.

On my surgeons consultation the other week i tried the implants under the sports bra and it was amazing, couldnt believe how much more my body looked in proportion and how much better I felt. I just wish she could understand! Think its partly because she has always had big boobs and always hated them. I don’t wanna go Jordan style, just a DD cup and i would be happy! She keeps going on at me to tell my dad cos she thinks he will be able to talk me out of it. I dont know what to do. I know ultimately its my decision but I really want her support on this x x

Hi Amy,

I was dreading telling my mum because although she knows how unhappy I am she hates the thought of surgery and a an implant being in your body. But she came round, rather quickly (although I did get the comment “you’re not going Jordan size??!!”) I think once you explain how unhappy you are she might come round to it, have you thought of doing the rice test and showing her how different and in proportion you are? I have been doing the rice test for weeks now, to decide what cc I’m going to have. It’s good way to see what outfits you can still wear after your opp. I think at the end of the day you need to do what’s right for you and if it’s implants do it, your mum will come round once she sees that that this makes you happy hun xxxx

Yeah she did say she will always be here for me and she loves me etc etc, its just cos she is worried about me and all surgery is a risk etc. I know it is but its a calculated risk…just like me getting in my car to go to work every day is a calculated risk. I have always made jokes about my boobs but I dont think she ever took it seriously or realised that while i was joking i was mentioning it cos i wasnt happy. I havent done the rice test yet, gonna do it this weekend as im unsure between 2 sizes, think i’ll go for the bigger one though as everyone says they look smaller when they are done. My mum lives abroad so its difficult to talk to her properly, skype is great but you cant really have a deep and meaningful via a webcam! Will do it and send her some pics though.

Hopefully she will come round to the idea when she knows how important it is to me and how much more confident i’ll feel with them. Ive always been down on myself and had very low self confidence and i genuinely believe this is a big part of it and will really help. Glad your mum has come round to the idea, bet you feel glad of the support! If you dont mind me askin what size are you now and what do you want to be? Do you have it booked yet? x x

Any more of you lovely ladies able to give me some tips please? Especially if you have been in the same boat as me. I really want my mum to understand and support me on this one x

Hi Amy, I’m not close at all to my mum, but thought I’d best let her know I’m planning to have a BA. The last time she visited I left all my MYA info stuff lying around and hoped she’d spot it and ask what its all about…but she either didnt see it or ignored it!! So I still havent mentioned it and havent a clue how to tell her…so any advise you get please share!xx

Hun you can have as many consultations as you like… You should book another and take your mum along. Then she will have a better understanding of the procedure, the after care etc nd you can show her the implants and that you arent have GIANT boobs! x

Hi… I had my op Wed and not told my Mum! I did tell her I had seen a surgeon and wanted it done and started off please dont be annoyed… She wasn’t supportive of teh idea, told me I was silly, waste of money and have a perfect body so doesn’t understand why I would want it and best to wait till I’ve had kids! I told her dates were very soon so I’m pretty sure she knows I’ve had it done and waiting for me to tell her which is the hard part as I hate lying to her… She did say it’s my body and I ca do what I like but she would be disappointed! Hmm so it’s really hard so I say just pick a time / date to tell your Mum and be open and honest and make sure you have all the facts and offer her to come to appointments with you.

I was a 32b and gone for 300s so should be a C / small D so not gone OTT!

We didn’t tell my bf’s Mum till yesterday and she told me off for being silly, she doesn’t agree with it, gave my bf a telling off and said he better not be why I had it done and is coming to my next appointment and checking that I’m ok every few hours…. I wish I had told her earlier so you maybe suprised! You should be honest and say you’ve done all your research and it’s what you really want… Good luck, I know how hard it is xx

Ellie, i will definitely let you know if i get any ideas. I told her the other day that i might be putting it off for a bit due to money issues and she was well happy, but the has sorted itself out now so have to tell her all over again! lol. Did you leave your info somewhere really obvious and so she definitely knew what it was? Maybe she didnt want to admit to snooping? Even though she lives away we are still pretty close so i want her to be ok with it.

missmck1986 thats a good idea. She isn’t in England all that much but my step sis recently had a baby so she comes over every now and again, might try and get an appointment next time she is over and take her with me so she can see how professional it all is and how its not like it was a few years ago. Ive done my research and I know there are always risks like in any surgery but i dont think its as bad as she is imagining. She’s just thinking of all the scare stories x x

Tell her too, its really important for you that she’s on your side. And that you know lots of girls dont tell their family and you could have easily done it without her knowing especially if she lives in a different country, but you love her and respect and appreciate her opinion too much to do it behind her back, and you’d like her to be involved in the whole thing with you x

Have a list of reasons too as to why you want it done and say that so far you’ve spent x amount of time thinking about it and you want to do it right, having consultations, using this forum, show her this… and examples of people experiences and how confident they feel now for having their surgery. x

Thanks for the ideas girls, they are all really good. My boyfriend has already told his mum I am getting it done (I wasnt there luckily enough) and she hasn’t said anything to me about it haha. Quite glad really cos although we get on and she is lovely I think I’d feel a bit awkward!

Sounds a bit sad but I think I might write her a letter explaining it all. That way I get to say everything I want to without either of us getting upset and she has it to go over a few times if she wants to think about it more. How about you try that too Ellie? My friend did it without telling her family and although I know in some ways it would be far easier in the long run it would cause more problems. My parents would be crushed if I had surgery without telling them and probably wouldnt speak to me for a month haha x x

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