How to tell my parents???

hi im almost 21 and have been thinking about have a breast enlargement for a long time now. The only thing that is now stopping me is what my parents would think. Ive hinted every now and then when underwear shopping, when fashion programs are on and extreme makeover shows, but they seem to say the same thing everytime, you look beautiful just the way you are or they’ll grow when you get pregnant. But i dont wanna wait till im pregnant id say back but i still dont think they approve very much. I wanna know if theres anyone else that has had the same problem and what did you do so they were behind you in your decision???

Thanks

Hi I’m 20, and will still be 20 when i get my boob job in June.

I told my mum almost straight away (just after I’d researched allot and decided to go ahead with it) because I knew she would be more understanding/less likely to go mental lol, after the palava I had just TRYING to convince my dad to let me get my ears pirced I decided not to tell him til it was all booked and depoit paid….my mum was sworn to secrecy and he did really well. One day she was trying to convince my dad to pay for me to go on their car insurance and was saying how I was skint so thats why i couldnt afford to get a car and insure it myself……BUT he had seen my bank statement sitting on the coffee table in the living room and saw I had like £1500 in the bank….so he was like “no shes not” etc etc. and my mum was like “shes saving that money for something…” and he was like “what?” and she was like “I cant tell you” but then he went in a mood with her because she wouldnt tell him. Well she ended up saying to him “right I’ll tell you but whether you like it or not she’s doing it anyway” and he told him i was getting a boob job and all he said was “awryt, as long as it makes her happy”

When my mum told me what he’d said my jaw dropped as you could imagine….lol

I would say it’s like pulling a plaster off, you just gotta do it and hope for the best and make it clear how much you want it and be aware of all the complications that could happen and make sure you’ve got lots of back-up like if they ask you “what if you get an infection??” etc etc…make sure you know MYA’s policy etc..

Hey Lotty,

I know everyone reacts differently but this is how i told mine:

Like you I would always mention it when we would go on holiday and had to wear a bikini or when certain clothes didnt look right on me but I didnt really get much of a response!

I just decided to book the consultation and then just came out with it like : im having a consultation about getting a boob job tomorrow!

They ended up being really surportive and helped me get through it!

From my experience I think just be honest. My mum said the other day that she thought it was something that i said and wouldnt actually do! It may be the same with your parents.

They will probably also know that if you are doing it then it must be something you really want.

I think thinking about it makes it worse, i was soo nervous about telling my nan and grandad as they have different ideas to me and didnt until i really had to, a week before!

I wish i had told them earlier as they really helped me relax about it, with thier stories of operations they have had and that!

Sorry about the long story but I hope this helps and Good Luck with it!

Xx

When you tell your parenmts just make sure you have all the information handy, your mum will probably panic that something will go wrong and dads don’t get it usually. If they come back with the pregnancy thing then tell them that in most cases a womens boobs will be smaller after having children than they were before, yes they grow during pregnancy and breast feeding but afterwards they will shrink back and in some cases get smaller and emptier.

Oo i forgot to say im 19 and yeah thats a good idea Rebecca have all the responses ready for reasons why they think you shouldn’t have it! Xx

Hey hun, i’m 29 and i have two kids aged 6 and 6months, your boobs do get bigger during pregnancy but trust me it doesn’t last, mines have shrunk completely and they are smaller than ever

I told my mum that i wanted to get a BA, she is supportive but wants me to make sure i do all my research and weigh up the pros and cons, at first she was a lil bit against it but i actually showed her my boobs and said, now do you see why i’m so unhappy with them? she understood then, i even gave her the link to this website so that she could have a read at BA stories and to get the same reassurance as i have by coming on this site. To be honest i’m not sure if my dad even knows lol but i know he will support me in whatever i decide and if he is against it my mum will convince him lol, telling my mum also helped because she had a nose job when she was younger, she was really self concious about it so in that respect she understands how low i feel about my body. I think my mum was more shocked at the fact i showed her my bee stings lol.

Sorry for droning on a bit 😳

Hope you’re ok xx

hey iv had 3 kids and yeah your boobs do get a bit bigger during pregnancy and breast feeding but they dont stay like it if anything they get worse saggy streach marks ect mine didnt not really cause i didnt really have none to start with but they wasnt as pert as they were before but if its something you want to do then do it you may be young but its the best time xxx

As everyone else has said, yeah they get bigger when you’re pregnant & just after but it soon goes downhill! I went up to a DD when I had my kids, now my boobs arent even worthy of the name lol!

Just sit them down, be honest & explain how you feel x

Totally agree with what gema1986 said! Same here! 3 kids later- and my “boobs” look like dripping taps!

xx

Hey i finally told my mum but it didnt come out in the most best of places or times. I was recently at my mum’s friend’s house for a waxing sesh with them lol and after we were all chatting etc they wer all drinking etc there were my mum and her 2 friends, we some how got onto the conversation about confidence and figures as most women do lol and one of the women was really harsh saying you dont need it but not in a nice way and i just broke down, she couldnt understand i wanted it done for the sole purpose of confidence and to feel good about myself! ( which is why most women get it done) i got very upset and it was then my mum knew i was serious and could tell how upset i was about it, she then hugged me and said she would be there for me and help me with it!!!

ANYWAY!! lol

Even though it wasnt the best place but i got it out and showed how i truely fely about it! I know its not the best way but as i said my mum could see how much it ment to me and hopefully so will my dad

xxxx

I really feel for you, darling. How cruel is it when you’ve made a huge decision to have surgery and people belittle your choice with “you don’t need it”. Worst thing is they don’t know how much it hurts or how ignorant they’re being. My answer to that comment when I told friends and family what I was having done was “have you seen me naked?” and that pretty much shut them up!

Well done, Lotty! Hope everything works out for you xx

im in the same situation gona have to tel the other pretty soon…eek! maybe ill write her a letter and disappear to the boyfs for a few days hahaha :p

lol yeah i didnt want it come out the way i did, but it did give my mum the chance to see how upset i was etc. But god that woman i could have slapped her silly, she made me feel shit bout my decision and was like but why do you want it done, why this, why that!!!! OMG lol but all done now so hopefully next year x

Hi. I never told my mum or my sister when I was having it done. My sister had hers done so I didnt want to tell her cos I was having a bigger implant than her and I didnt want her to think I was doing it out of spite (i am a bigger build than my sister and she only wanted her boobs done cos she has 2 kids). My boyfriend came to my consultations with me and took me for the op. It was only 2 days after my op that I rang my mum cos I was in agony and feeling sorry for myself. As soon as I heard her voice on the phone I started crying and she said whats wrong. I just said Ive had my boobs done 2 days ago n her response was oh my god u stupid girl why have you not told me! lol. I just asked her to bring me some painkillers n she was fine. Dont know what I worried about in the first place

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