Hubby has changed his mind! What shall I do!

Feeling fustrated, I was ready to go a book the available bed on the 27th and now he ain’t sure its like he was messing with me and hoped I would change my mind! Wish I had my own credIt card! Dam joint accounts!!!! 🙁

i dont know why anybody would have joint accounts seriously u lose ur independance but beacause u have i dno if its ryt for me to advise u2 go bank n tek d money out u cn do dt wid jus ur pasport or wud he bid2 b present and secondly babe gta do dis for u not wetha he approves or not yes i kno we gta respect but is he respectin ur wishes ur feelings ur not askn for the world that may cost millions but this boob job may mean d world to u and u gta mek hm see dat hun wish i cud help x

Sigh… I kno Bella I have another account in my own name but I am self employed so I can’t do the finance option either I can afford the repayment though, also having a 1 year old and a 3 year old I will need his help after surgery so I am stuck!! I am 28 and don’t have control over my body it makes me angry even though I don’t wana be, boobs is not everything but I have always been flat chested and now it’s worse after having kids. I am officially stuck!!

Wow what a fucker! As if he did that to you? I would leave his ass!!! No joke!! Thats such a horrible thing to do!

He should not be able to have a say in this! My boyfriend was completely against my boobies (slightly diff as we don’t have a joint account) but when I had gone through with it all and told him what it meant to me to get them done he stopped with all the comments and was just there to support me. He took me for the op and was with me 24/7 through recovery he was amazing. It’s strange how against it they can be until they know it’s happening and they have no other option that to just support you. I hope he changes his mind for you but if that was me IDE be getting it done anyway. No guy will ever say I can’t have something. Not saying anything against you because I know how it feels, you want to get new boobies but still your boyfriend/husband to be impressed xxxx

tbh boobs is evrythin if ur not happy wid what you have having boobs will make you happy and yes you are right you will need help can other members of fam not help out tekin turns u jst need few days dey say a wk but depends how u feelin u recovering mayb go out for dinner and just pour ur hrt out cry if u want men are realy thik dey cant sense nothing or even understand until u hit dem inda face wid it so showing emotion n keep tellin him ova agan he wil understand honestly so many tyms i have discusd smtin same thing n iv bin told i didnt kno u felt lyk dat u shudv sed earlier n im der thinkin i bin rantin ova a month lol dats hw men r sometyms u js gta talk av al der attention n cry n show em u nt happy wid how ur body is n boom myt just work

O no hun! Maybe you should just sit down and talk to one another? Ask him why it was okay then to just suddenly change his mind, there’s got to be a reason. Tell him exactly how you feel about it and hope he will understand and come round to the idea. You have to do what is right for you. I hate the idea of joint bank accounts, makes me feel uneasy and not in control. Hope it all works out for you xx

OK!!! lets pause gals no one needs to call my husband the ” F – WORD” i still love and respect him he is a great man and father i am just fustrated! getting a boob job is not just buying anothe dress or a pair of heels i think he is finding it hard to get his head around it and we are butting heads on the subject.

Having a joint account came into the picture when we had children and I was not working so i needed access to HIS money which i call OUR money. The money does not appear to be the issue at the moment.

However I do wish I was more in control of this area and now it looks like I am going to have to go around him to get what I want which will take alot longer now than planned, maybe another year or two 🙁 which is killing me because now i have to renew my mind and plans

Talk to him about how much it meabs to you, explain how if the shoe was on the other foot how you would support him. Marriage is about understanding and support for eachother which works both ways, you shouldnt have to give up your dream x

Over all thanks girls for the support!!! now and then we need to feel girl power! 🙂 xxxxxxxx

When I finally sat my boyfriend down to ask what it was that really bothered him he wouldn’t say. it only came out once Ide had them done! The silly bugger thought I wanted them To get out for other guys and that I wanted them to get a better guy than him! I was so relieved that this was the main issue because that I could reassure him with! He still isn’t keen on fake boobs but has accepted them because he realised it’s what I needed to feel happy! Just reassure your husband of your reasons, he may not admit it but the other guy thing is usually in their mind somewhere! Like I said I ask my boyfriend before the op and he denied it only last week did I find this out and I’m 5 weeks post op now. Guys are simple creatures and once they know your doing something anyway they will soon come to realise they love you anyway and will support you! I thought me just getting my boobs done without his blessing would have broken us up at one point but tbh it’s brought us closer together if anything! Even though I was still getting them done when he was against it he could tell I did consider what he had to day and respected his opinions! I’ve made sure mine will be as natural as possible for both me and him! I feel 100% more confident in myself now and he can see that, he’s not attracted to my boobs as much as before but he’s more attracted to me because I’m happier and feel so much better about myself! It will work out for the best hun! I’m sure if he respects you as much as you do him he will come round xxxx

dint tink anyone tried calling him as an insult to hm but just because u wer upset i tink dts y hun xx

@Nina yep this convo has been hot topic for months now and i thought i was coming closer to an agreement i have done the talking, crying, understanding, sex lol EVERTHING i could think of and no progress wish I done this when i was single!!! but I wanted to make sure I was certain and give my body time to change esspecially after having children

@Jamieleanne food for thought thank you hun!

🙂 your welcome! I know how tough this situation can be. It is a lot to think about and consider. Good luck you’ll have to keep us all updated on the situation xxxx

@QueenC dont give up hun x

Thanks girls!! xxxx I will keep u all updated!! Trust me u will be the first to kno about any changes!

hya hun firstly can I say dont give up! EVER!! persistence can win the battle……I went through this exactly the same as you, as only my fella could pay for this I would never been able to afford this on my own…. so I 100% needed his agreement! I went through rows, crying, shouting,nearly splitting and with 3 kids together the lot…..I had mine done 4 weeks ago 🙂 ….wow I cant believe how much closer this has brought us together….show him this if you need to it might help, read it out to him being really open helps….what i done was I explained to him beforehand if he had a penis the size of his thumb how would this make him feel overall? would he be insecure? paranoid im looking at other men? in the bedroom would his confidence be low? FEEL LESS OF A MAN?? sometimes you really have to switch it around to something that they consider makes them a man! well breasts define us as women and without them….well you know the rest, insecurities, low confidence, ect , it took me 9 years to get him to agree….this was no quick thing, but….eventually he did and all I can say is we havent had 1 single argument since its actually shocking how close it made us, its changed both our lives for the better!! he has said in his own words “i should of done this for you years ago, i had no real idea how much it ment to you” so dont give up sweet I know exactly how you feel. ***hugs*** xxx

Ok Gals what a day! or should i say morning I had the grand finale argument with hubby today and he is still not sure about it but knows in the end he wants to see me happy. So its up to me now if i go ahead. Funny now that he is sorry that he has not been there emotionally for me now i dont know if its worth it now spending our money and getting implants. Even though its more that implants to us this whole thing has been drainning and emotional I wish i wouldnt care about my barely 32a tits! but i do…. now i am starting to worry if he will be as attracted to me with implants?? he will always love me but i hope it does not sexually put him off he is an “all natural” type of guy……..

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