I NEED PPL OPINIONS ON THIS PLEASE. TO BA OR NOT???

hi guys

im lucky enough to be getting givin around six grand before the end of this month from a compensation claim were i was sacked from a job for being pregnant. since i gave birth to my son as some of you guys prob know it really effects your breasts and its got to the point were i dont let my husband see me naked or touch my top half. from the begining since i knew about the money coming ive been determaned to have them done and my hubby has suppoeted me on this 100%, but now i know im getting it in a matter of weeks i feel bad for spending it on myself, ive never had this amount of money before and i know i wont in the near future either. the thing is we could do with a new car and bed and bits and peices and im full of guilt he has told me the money is neither here or there and he supports me no matter what. i just dont know what to do x

sorry about the spelling x

This is for you,do not feel guilty,your happiness is important,and the fact that your hubby supports you is brilliant,you will get another car if you need it eventually, and the bits and pieces,but this is probably the only chance you will have to get your boobies,and to be happy with yourself means that the rest of the family will benefit. Do not feel guilty honey.

Have another chat with hubby and explain exactly what you just put here. Have a proper talk and come to a decision together. At the end of the day though, you won’t need all of that money for a BA – depending what you have you could get it done for up to £3,000 and have money left over to put towards a car or holiday

aww thanks you girls are relly lovely, he wants me to get them done. i was thinking i could just except myself the way i am and let my lil family have what i thinks right.but then again i know how down i am about it,i just feel selfish x

is mamma tina about,she always has words of wisdom xxxx

You are not selfish,and the fact that you are putting everyone else before you shows what a lovely person you are,have a good think about it honey,you could get the car and the things you need but you will still feel the same about you deep down,or you can go a head and give your hubby a very happy confident wife,and your son a very happy mummy.xxx

Its good that your husband is supporting you all the way i felt the same wen i paid for my op as my partner kept saying i was selfish but i saved the money myself and knew it was gonna make me happy im nearly 2 weeks po and so happy and wudnt luk bak best thing i ever done all the best xx

The fact he is supporting you means u have nothing to worry about!

Your not selfish, the fact your feeling guilt proves that! Yes it is alot of money but this sounds like a once in a life time opportunity for you to do this! And I bet if your happy with your new boobs ( which sure u will be ) then you’ll be surprised how that will effect your relationship with your patner as you’ll be so much more confident! And I’m sure he’s secretly looking forward to it too

Xx

emma i know how you feel, im due to have my ba in less than 2 weeks, but a few weeks ago i really questioned whether to go thru with it or not, i felt like i was being really selfish and ungrateful and like i should just be happy with what i have, but like u this is something that has bothered me for ages and now ive finally decided to go for it i feel like a weight has been lifted and im just looking forward to it now, like newboobies said you will have probably have money left over and your husband is supporting you which is fab, in the future you will always find ways to buy a new car or buy a new bed but this is probably gonna be ur only chance to do this, try not to worry urself to much xxx

you guys are right i think i just needed to hear it from other ppl, i love my hubby n baby boy and i wanna be the best i can for them. i used to feel so confident and i cant even look at myself in the mirror and im fed up of feeling ugly. my hubby is so kind and tells me im sexy but deep down i dont feel it, i wanna be able to walk round naked with out worrying about my hubby seeing me lol when i get this done im buying a space hopper and im gunna go bouncing round our house with a massive smile on my face!!! lol thankyou girls xx ps still feel kinda guily but i think i need to do this for myself ill regret it if i dont i know i will xx

thankyou alli,tina,amy,rosie,and newboobies all you girls rock! xx

I felt guilty too. I have a huge house which needs work done and massive mortgage, nice cars etc etc, but we want our garden done and bits and bobs. I also got a claim and paid my boobs that way.

I had felt soo selfish but my bf told me it was a once in a life time chance. He also told me that we would never of had the money anyway and it was a sign

Bet u spend all ur money on bills and ur child so do something for u hunni

Xxx

i am in same situation except i am doin mine on finance i am very self concious of mi boobs since having mi kids i have been thinking about it for yrs my husband is supporting me and just wants me to be happy (love em) i dont think it is selfish the amount that mums give to there kids and family is alot so this is a very small thing really and i no for me i will have a perminent smile once done lol xxx

well ive done it ive booked x

Yeeeey emma thats fab news hun dont worry just think if ya bosses werent twats u wouldnt have had the money anyway!! U may even have a lil left over for a new.wardrobe or to treat the hubby xxxxx

the surgeon is also whipping off a mole too for me free of charge!! so made up only nine weeks away x

who are you having it done with chick and what hospital are you going to xx

Motherhood is one big guilt trip. The money sounds like a windfall that you would not otherwise have and it sounds as though you were discriminated against badly. You deserve this and you deserve to spend on whatever you want. The fact that your man supports you is absolutely the seal to this deal. Keep your head up high and see it thru. You will have money left. Buy some pretty bras and tops and something nice for the house. The gift to your family is a confident and happy mummy xxxx

) thanks anchovie xx

I got burgled a few months ago and a very precious and valuable bracelet was taken that was my Nanna’s. I only got back less than half of what it was worth, and I used that to pay for my ba, which I have wanted for about 15 yrs. I knew I’d never get the chance again, as I’d never save up the money to have it done outright. I figured that my Nan would be smiling about what the money went on! I could have put the money towards a million other things, but it was money I never expected and I would have never had had if I hadn’t been burgled. People always find a way to pay for the day to day things, but sometimes a chance comes along that you just can’t turn down!

I sold my mini cooper s which was bought from my parents inheritance – I had momentary guilt thinking about the cost when my kids want to go to uni in ten years! But I chose to go ahead w the op. We ll find the money. We are designed to feel guilty. If you don’t do it you’ll find other issues to feel guilty about AND you ll have boob worries too!!!!

I have put this off for 10 years thinking like this …. If your husband backs you hun do it …. I had mine done 3 weeks ago and I feel very selfish as I had to pay £4700 out yesterday on the balance of my wedding which I have put on a credit card…. I could of just paid my wedding off but my hubby to be said do it do it do it you only live once xx now the confidence this has given me is unreal I’ve had 2 kids and wanna walk around naked to show them off hahahaha … I know I’m going to feel fantastic in my wedding dress in 3 weeks time ad that is priceless xx what I’m saying is don’t beat yourself up about it when no one else is pressuring you either way o is the best thing I’ve ever done (other than have my children that is xx)

thankyou guys, i just know once the inlaws find out therell have something bad to say about it,like i should be spending that money on my baby boy. i tried talking to my mother in law a few months ago about how down i was and about my breasts changing since i gave birth and all she said was thats life,learn to deal with it. she just didnt seem boothered at all x anyways ive booked now and im excited this will be the first selfish thing ive done in a long time,all my effort goes into my husband n child so i think its about time i treated me x

When I was booked for my BA all my family decided to book a holiday away to jamaica, obivously because I was saving up £4000 for my op me and my children could not go. It was one of the hardest things for me to do, knowing that my children was going to miss all their cousins for 5wks, and then when they come back with all the lovely stories and photo’s for my boys to see.(It was hard)

My sisters and mother called me all the nasty words you could ever imagine!! but I didnt care! from my first son was born and he is 8 yrs old now, I have done all and more for them, each and every year they have had a holiday, and even before my BA on the 29th july and went on a cheap caravan holiday to haven, which they loved.

Sometimes we as mothers and wives have to think about ourselves once in while, everything that is needed in your household will come in time, it is easier to buy bit and pieces, than to BA.

Once I spoke to my husband and he was behind me 100% I did not care about anybody elses opinion, to be honest they are not to ones that are gona benefit from them, are they. I am glad you booked it, it is life changing experience for most of us ladies

i cant wait im so excited xx

so glad you went ahead just think how much it will do for your family to have you back happy and confident good luck x

I didn’t tell my mother and father in law till it was done and nothing has been said hahaha xx

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