im so confused :( what should i do?

I’m thinking of having ba for a while now and my boyfriend never seem to agree with it but he never say anything. Until recently, when I decided to go for it and told him I’m going to do my deposit, then he talked to me seriously about not to go for it cos I’m too young and my breast will change (btw, I’m 20). But I don’t think I’m too young for it even though he said that his sister had flat chest until she’s 22 and her breast has changed a lot, and by the time she’s 25 she’s 3 times her original size. But still, I want to do it but he never seems to agree, though he said it (not so concincingly) “do what ever you fell like doing” but its just the fact that if he’s not happy I’m doing my ba, then I don’t feel happy, cos he’s the only one who knows about it, my parents doesn’t know that (and I seriously have to hide it when I travel back home for holidays, well, for a while lol). He said to wait for 2-3 years and see some changes first, but I think if I’m going to be doing it in the next 2 years anyway I’d rather do it now and feel confident now though.

I know he wouldn’t mind at all if I have bigger breasts but its the fact that I might be in pain and the risks of all those side effects and stuffs that’s why he doesn’t want me to do it too, (But u know when ever he sees girls with big boobs he tends to turn around! Ugh! I can’t stand that lol)

I don’t really know what to do now though dr.adamo told me its up to me I’m doing it for myself, if I wanna wait few years before doing then that’s my choice, he’s so nice and never pushes me to do things

My religious view about it(lol I’m pretty religios so yeah, its what I’m concerned about too): But there’s seems to be a lot of problems and usually my mum always say if there’s too many problems or some thing to block what you’re do too much then that might be a sign from god that tells you you shouldn’t do it, but in the other hand, it might be a test from the lord to proove if we’re strong enough to over come it too..

I dunno where or who to talk to though and this seems to be the only place since I don’t tell people that I’m having it done.

Has anyone has the same problems? Or some thing similar???

Thank you sooo much if you have read to this point and will be so good too if you comment or answer me

erm im religious but i dont think u can say its a test on a breast forum site lol.

im only 20 and i had mine done 9 days ago…best thing ive ever done! i did have the support of my boyfriend and my parents but i think i still would have gone ahead with it even if they didnt know. its something ive always wanted and for myself x

@shelly: lol thats true though, but at least its one point of a problem in life we have to face it too lol

@zoebattison: thats so nice, i’d love to have everyone supporting me like that too good that you’re happy! i know i would be too! (but duh… its this feeling of people around you not supporting you that bothers me ‘(

Hi, iv got a similar situation my boyfriend dosent want me to do says that im fine as i am and it wont be worth it i was worried about going ahead without his full support. Also Im 22 and everyone has told me not to do it and to wait till im older etc.. But i want to have them now i dont want to wait and i feel like if i dont do it now ill just regret it and probably end up doing it anyway! So i say just do what you wanna do!!

Oh and my parents dont know either and iv got too hide them ha! Gona b a bit hard i think!!

Xx

omg layla112!! you’re in EXACTLY THE SAME POSITION as me now!!! omg woo hahah and i thought well i will be doing it anyways in the future and i dont wanna do it then and think to myself “I should have it done when i was 20!” that kinda thing!

my boyfriend always say im fine with what i have right now but i dunno i just want them bigger and have to think about going ahead without his support too

how are you going to hide them from your parenst and how big do you think you’d go to??? its quite good to know someone in an exactly the same position as i am now though!

I know its rely good to talk to someone in the same position.. I feel the same ill end up doing it wen im older thinking i should have just done it before! My boyfriend is not happy but hes gona come with me on the day because he still wants to be there for me which is good!! I alwys say to him im sure ull be ok with it after wen i have BIG boobs ha! Im a 32c at the moment but rely want to be a dd/e!! How big do you want to go? I think you shud def go for it if its what you want to do..!! The plan with my parents is that im gona go back to my boyfriends flat after the op and stay ther for a couple of weeks while im healing then wen i go home just hoping they wont notice! Im constantly in a double gel bra anyway so should look similar after!! Im hoping so anyway! Have you booked ur date yet or are you still deciding?

oh wow! i feel much more confident about it now yesterday we actually had a small fight about this too, that i’m not listening to him and i’ll just do what ever i want and it should be something we have to decide together not just me alone ;( so that makes me feel so so guilty, but now listening to your story makes me feel good too. He said that he’ll like me with bigger boobs for sure but i’m still too young (i’m nottt grrr > ) i’m sure he wont even complain when he sees me with nice big boobies LOLz

anyways, it’s going to be around 3 months from opt til i see my parents so hopefully i’ll be wearing tight sportbra and just hope they wont notice hmm.. oh yes loose clothes too lol hope they wont notice!

not sure if my bf is gna come to uk with me or not though we still hope he could come and he said he will be with me anyways too(if he can sort out his visas and passport things)!

yes i’ve booked my date, it’s going to be on 1st sept, i plan to go from a b to around d (300cc) or maybe 340cc which will take me to a d/dd… dont really know which on i wanna go for though. i dont think i can have them too huge though since i have quite a small frame so i’m scared that if i go bigger i’ll have back problems later in future (and it’s going to get saggier for me ;( and also, i dont wanna go bigger cos then it’ll be hard to hide!)and i want them to look natural as well and also when i tried the implants on big big boobs makes me look fatter so i’m concerned about that too (which 340 is starting to look like that but i dunno what it’s going to look like when i’ve done my opt) people say they tends to look bigger and bigger though, so i’m scared i might end up with an f or something which wouldnt really suit a person like me at all! anyways lol i’m still deciding on the size of the implant and dr adamo told me he’ll order both anyways so yeah will see about it

but i wish i’m able to go bigger though lol it’s just not good for me in a long run so yeah…

what about you have you decided about your dates yet?

Think im getting mine beginning of august.. need to book asap! Just waiting for some money to clear in my account then will be booking straight away!

Yeh he might be giving you a hard time now but once its done its done!! and im sure he wont be complaining then.. me and my boyf had a few rows about it when i first started mentioning it but its ok now. i just try not to on about it too much but its really hard! at the end of the day he cant be that against it cos he has agreed to come with me!

Oh yeh will def be wearing some baggy clothes around the house for a while ha!

Aw that should be fine for you hun! im a bit worried about it making me look fatter aswel cos i will be really unhappy then! still havent had my second consultation then so will see what they look like! I stil not sure what im having yet, as kind of set on having under but reading through the posts on here it looks lie mr adamo only does overs so might have to think about changing surgeons..

xxx

kool lol just be sure he dosnt take it out on u once u had it done.

best thing i ever done and i had same concerns as u.

honestly i amm soooooooo glad i had it done xxx

i had unders with dr adamo and hes great!

no pain at all xxx

i’ve read some stories on the internet about bad opts though, there were some girls not so happy about the result (maybe it was somewhere not so nice, i dont know lol) that it feels very heavy and got so saggier after 5-6 years and when they had babies boobs grow bigger and looks so bad then some girls have to had their opts correct so many times! but i’m sure mya is great and neva had that sort of stuffs before dr adamo is one great surgeon and i’ve heard a lot of people talking positive about him too!

i’m having dr adamo too but he’s doing under for me so he might do that for you too! i’ve just had my second surgeon consultation yesterday and im so worried about mines too big… i’ll be miserably unhappy then if i do look too fat in it ‘( i might go for 300 though, cos i’m scared that if in the future, they will grow massive when i pregnant and it’s gna get saggy afterwards! i dont wanna have a lot of surgeries in the future so i will try to do something that would last me long enough! i would recommended dr adamo though, he has a very good reputation and has done just breast enlargement, for over thousand girls now, so excited for you would love to see the results!

one more thing i’m pretty concern is the gaps between the boobs though, dr adamo said he needs to leave 3cm apart so that the boobs wont join, but i want them to look like they’re squished together when i’m wearing sexy shirts though, or that’s because of the bra too? (lol never had that so i’m just wondering) cos the after opt pics they seem to be a lil gap between boobs and i dont want mine to look very separate when i wear dresses/shirts do you know what to do? xx

@shelly: would you mind if i ask you what size did you decided to go for? and what was your original size? xx

32 or smaller and i had 280s im now 32dd i had unders with mr adamo last wedneday. ask away xxx

32a

i never grew past fifteen and wished it done it at like 20 im 23 now woulda saved alot of years or worrying and waiting to grow xxx

yours look very fabb hun! very natural and proportioned!

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