Im so upset right now :(

Ok so I am 18 and all this is new to Me.
I had a major back operatiuon end of july 2007 which meant I couldnt enjoy time after GCSE’S.
I have always been tall and thin and lacked confidence but after my operation It crushed me.
I have two titanium rod sin my back which isnt a joy to live with.
I have considered BA for a long time now.
I booked My consultation Today with MYA for the 24th Nov at the Brighton clinic.
My Dad seemed fine with it but have just sat to talk to my mum and she genually is crushed by it.
She said she wont stop me but who is normal who gets one done?
And why cant i be happy with what i have?
AND That i need a counciler?
She said that bringing me up well for 18 years hasnt worked as i would not be in this situation.

She cant see that being unhappy affects me every day when i look at myself.
I have done modelling in the past and even after that I still cant be happy with myself.
I dont think she will ever be able to realise that not everypne who gets this done wants to be like Jordon and she said Im shallow which I really am not.

Sorry for the rant =[ xx

Arr bless ya hun, must be really hard for you to hear all that from you own mum….i cant say i was in the same situation with my mum, however she really didnt want me to have it done, even at 29years old with my son who is 12 in a couple for weeks. I am close to my mum, and she had known for years that i wanted it done, but when it actually came down to it she disagreed with me, said i shouldnt be going through with it etc, couldnt understand my real reasons for wanting it done…and she actually wouldnt talk to me about it until the morning of my op, when she then phoned to tell me she loves me and wishes me all the best, and that the only reason she had been like she had was cos she brought me into the world as i am and didnt want me to change that…she’s fine now, really is…

Its hard as you obviously love your parents and dont want to upset anyone, but at the end of the day you have to think of yourself, how it genuinely makes you feel inside, how it affects you etc…Your mum will come round over time, if my mum can anyones can! lol

Think of yourself huney, and do what you feel you really want to inside, not what anyone else wants you to do x x x

if i was you i would sit down with your Mum and open up your heart to her. Explain all your reasons for wanting it and tell her how you are feeling….. i know easier said than done.

I didnt tell anyone when i had my BA because i didnt want any negitive reactions because id already pulled out of 1 BA a year ago. Once i had it done i sat down with my mum and showed her my before pics and told her how unhappy i was with my body, i think this made her understand more.

Dont forget that your her baby…. mums are always protective try and help her understand.

im 26 and i havnt mentioned to any of my family, i am scared lol. i have a feeling they will say im stupid and not understand the reasons for wanting this.

least you have been open with them, you could of just took your self off and got it done with out telling them

x

None of my family are suporting me eitha, my step dad is ‘disgusted’ apparantly, bt i cudnt care less, im doin this 4me, no1 else! Im 20 so im young too so i no where your coming from, my boyfriends mum is geting my loan 4my boobs! 37sleeps woowoo x

ah thats so kind of her. i have a date in mind and if i cant have that i need to wait till may because of work commitments booo x

hey hun
i know its really difficult when family dnt support you, it took me so long to persuade my mum and finally when she came to the consultations with me and realised most the stuff she heard about boob jobs are rumours she decided to let me go through with it! i still got 2 weeks to go but still havnt told my dad, and im not planning on it, guess he’ll realse when we’re gone to london for 2 days lol!
dnt worry about it hun if you cant get through to them just do wat you want and make yourself happy!:clap:

Hey chick i agree with the girls that you should perhaps sit down and talk to your mum again and you are lucky to have your dads support. I’ve had my op and my dad still doesn’t know cause i keep hiding it from him. My mum isn’t around anymore but she supported me 100% cause she knew how unhappy i was when i was younger and wished that i had it done when i was 18. It may be a good idea to see a councillor just cause it helps to talk to a stranger sometimes and they can have a better understanding of what is going on. I went to see one and i have come on leaps and bounds with my confidence but i still knew that i would be insecure about my lack of curves. Having my boobs done has been the cherry on the cake for me and i don’t think your shallow at all for wanting ti done.

AmyLou x

Hello Peachywish
I really think you should sit down and have a heart to heart with your mum. You are her little girl still but im sure she would never want to see you sad or hurting.
I have 2 daughters they are chalk and cheese. My eldest is 20 with naturally HUGH boobs she was a 32b at ten she is now 32h.
My youngest is 19 next week and is a 32a. I have always classed her as bubbly person and a joker who loves being centre of attention but to my dismay when i sat down and really chatted to her i found out this was far from the truth. She explained how she is embarrassed of her shape (or lack of shape)has never had confidence when getting undressed in front of others, was teased and ridiculed by boys and girls at school. She often feels depressed and low and doesnt feel like a whole young women. Now she is out working, socialising and in a relationship she wants to wear all the figure hugging fashionable tops and dresses but finds she looks like a boy so just dresses in trackies and baggy tops to hide her figure. To me she is perfect and beautiful but also she has an inner twinkle that is waiting to burst out and if by having the enlargement it begins to shine then all i can say is good luck and roll on next year when she can strut along a beach or lay by a pool and feel confident and happy. I am going to go with her for the consultation and give her my support. You never know i may decide to join her!!:wink: its not shallow. Go girl do it for you
Jo x

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