Is having a 'have I done the right thing' day today :-(

Feel v. emotional and down today and its only day 3 post op. I was so desperate to go to the loo yesterday after nearly being in tears over the bloating (it was so painful) that I overdosed myself on laxatives and couldn’t get off the toilet all night ended being sick and everything! then have such bad wind and bubbling belly today with a really tight chest. My mam just took me shopping to get some bits in cos hubby is at work and my daughter was kicking off cos i couldn’t carry her so now i’m having the guilt for her as well!

youll be ok hun its just a glitch,once your tummy sorts its self out youll feel stronger,and dont worry about your daughter kicking off,shes not been neglected you have to concentrate on you at the mo,there is support around to make sure she is looked after so stop feeling guilty,cos you cant do it all yourself.and when your all healed she will have you all to herself again.your tight chest is probably nothing to do with the tummy probs,most girls get that tight sensation after a few days,dont be so hard on yourself hun your 3 days post op,take it one day at a time,xxx

Thank you Tina, you never thought of becoming an agony aunt for MYA??? I know it will def be worth it and I have waited so long just need to get my head out my backside x

hey hun we all get worried at times,and youll be looking at your daughter thinking your not there for her,lol,in a couple of weeks youll be smiling and giving someone the same advise as ive given you,hang in there chick,cos you are gonna look totally amazing,and thats a promise.x your one of super mario’s girls,and although you dont feel like smiling right now you will very soon promised,im sending you a big hug to make you feel better,hahahah,not to tight i dont want to squish you.xxx

Hi Seppet,

Aww petal. You’ve not had much luck. Your over the worst of it now though, your stomach will start to settle. Drink plenty fluid chick. Try and get plenty rest too, your body will benefit from it.

The guilt will fade, you know how great a mummy you are and how you grant every every wish. Maybe try explaining mum isn’t well just now and it will hurt you if you lift her. She’ll maybe think about kicking off. She doesn’t want to hurt her mummy. She loves you dearly!

The tightness will be there for a few weeks yet so try and get used to it. Your skin is stretched over your new implants. Keep moisturising to help it soften and ease the stretching.

I hope you start feeling better soon. Just think, in a month’s time you’ll be looking back and saying ” i’d do it again! “

I’d do it in a heart beat!

xx

haha thanks hun you got me smiling already! Love being a super mario girl!x

Thanks claire, wasn’t sure if i would be allowed moisturiser yet on the tops so was going to wait till i see the nurse next week. I told her i have a poorly back an belly so she giving me kisses bless her think she was just tired earlier x

You know what they’re like with their tired tantrums! She’s wanting to look after you, awww! Bless.

Yeah, moisturise all of your boobs if you can, just avoid the incision area. You should have dressings over these anyway.

Keep a cool pack or even frozen peas on your chest for a little while, it’ll take down the swelling and hopefully relieve a bit of pressure for you.

Keep topped up on the painkillers and anti inflammatory’s.

xx

Aw you poor thing. Believe me it will get better! You’re only 3 days post op, this is probably the worst stage! Your body has suffered a trauma and it’d natural to feel totally crap afterwards while your body recovers. Make sure you’re being helped and looked after and don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Hope you feel better soon xx

Thanks girls x so glad i have this forum x

It’s what we’re all here for. Hormones, painkillers, lack of decent sleep, anesthetic. All of this is running round your body and you’re not aware of whats its doing to your emotions. Sometimes your brain is overcome by it all. You just need a little reassurance to know that you are a great mum. You’re a woman too Seppet and you need to concentrate on getting better for you and your little girl

xx

hey hun hope you start to feel abit better soon. im not in pain, but i feel useless as i cant lift anything or do anything for myself, dont know what id do without my bf, so i cant imagine how hard it would be looking after your lil girl aswell. but atleast uve got ur mum to help you. dont let your self get down bout it tho huni or it will make u feel worse. your doin great just remember that swetie x x x

I guess i didn’t realise exactly how much you do on a day to day basis as a mam and a wife! think the hubby is starting to realise that too and about bleeding time!! haha

Ahh seppet, i feel the same!!!! My little girl has been with me through all this and i didnt really think about what she would think of it all, she has seen me in bed all day and in alot of pain and she doesnt understand why!!! she is 6 and yesterday she said to me “mummy i dont want you to die”…. i felt awful she said mummy has something wrong with her boobies and i dont want her to die (she said that to my mum) at that point i felt so bloddy selfish and felt like such a bad mum, but at the end of the day im sure she would rather a happy mummy and i keep telling myself that this is making me happy, a new me and a new start! Keep strong hunny, we are all going through the same, dont feel like your on ur own! xxx

i know i cant believe how i cant even do the little everyday things!

yea my boyfriend says i owe him lol so hes gona be on masaging duties! although i think hes thinking more along the terms of sex on demand haha ahh well i can cpe with that when im all healed! x x x

Aw I know Kate, guess we weren’t prepared for the emotional turmoil of children! They come out with the craziest things, luckily mine is only 2 so its limited to what she will say!

Izzy thats the only thing I can keep bribing him with! he will be reaping the benefits in a few weeks!

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