ITS GOT WORSE :'(

Hi ya,

Although I was 30 when I mentioned it to my mom I was worried as she is really old fashioned and thought she would be dead against it especially as my mom has had breast cancer and now only has one boob but she was totally the opposite when I told her and even lent me the money for it,
Maybe this was because she knows what it is like not to be happy with your chest.

I wish I had had mine done years ago, just explain to her how you feel and that you just want your clothes to look nice on you. X x

hey peachy im 21 n i think ive known since i was 16 tha i wanted my opp my parents have always been funny about this..!!
they told me wait untill i was 21 so i have…and they still wernt happy because they must ov thought i wud grow out ov the idea..!!
ive stood my grown n my partner and his mum have been bhide me all the way…now im havin my opp in 3 weeks n my mum and dad r totally fine with the idea..!!
i really had to explain to my dad how much ov an issue it was in my life which it is…im 21 im a mum n i dnt feel womanly…if ure anything like me i use to envy my friends have always had boobs…!! im a 32a now considerin they went to a 32d wen i was pregnant…i no i want my boobies back…!! i think u shud sit ure mum down and explain its not sumthing uve cum up with over night uve thought long n hard about it…n im sure she will understand if its something u want..!! i cant imagine wot ide be like if my daughter told me she wanted 1 in 17 yrs…i no i wudnt agree with it at first…cuz its just an instant reaction to protect…but ide want whats best for her n im sure ure mum wud 2….hope that helps take care xxxx

IH i agree with Pussycat Im 37 Mr kazzazi also did mine 3 weeks ago.. do your homework pick a good surgeon and take your mum with you .. I wanted BA from early twenties wish i d done it 15 years earlier xx

P.s Going to Manchester Rach x

Hey Racchie86, I’m having mine done on the 3rd!! Soo excited!! Let me know how it goes & what happens! Very nervous about the canula thing!! Eeek!! Hope i can have some of that magic cream on it, such a baby xxx

Hi your mum is just being a mum, she is worried about you, take her with you to some consultations and let her speak to the surgeons. I have waited for 18 years to pluck up courage for my op and my mum didnt like the idea of me having it done but she has come round now but is still worried because of all the bad press. Even though im having it done would still be worried to death if any of my girls ever want it done. Take your time and do your research. Do remember though that you are young and your body will go through loads of changes. good luck hope she comes round xx

oh no … problem is that she doesnt know how you feel inside so why judge……i have a friend that i have told that i am having a ba and suprisingly she confessed to me thats what she is thinking about 24/7 too….all her family says she is stupid and not to do it, money etc….blah, blah , blah..but hey they are not the ones that have to live like that…..they all got nice big boobs…..even her granny shouted at her saying god created u that way ..bla bla, guess what she will still go for it as she has been hating her none existend boobs from teenager age…..by the way this applies to me aswell….but i wont tell my parents before the op as the comments will be negative….but luckily my family lives abroad so i won’t have to face them until late summer..lol by then they will be perfectly healed…..i am 27 but felt the same way when i was younger….in my case growth has finished long time it can only get worse from here

hi hun, i’ve wanted mine done since i was 17 always wanted them always thought about them all the time always gone on about it. I’m 26 now i have my own home and i’m getting them done. My mam is not happy at all she says she won’t speak to me again if i get them done. yeah yeah. I’ve waited and nothing as ever changed and you’ll probably be the same. My mams always know its something i’ve wanted she said wait see if they grow, now its wait when you have a baby they’ll get bigger just cos hers did and have never gone away. I don’t want kids for ages and mam i want them pert !! We are their babies though. My mam is very protective and we are a very close family but i’m still getting them done i know she won’t really never want to speak to me again she’ll maybe be angry for awhile but thats something i’ll just have to get over because this is for me. I’ve had a eating disorder for years and got over it and this is something i know will make me feel much better and stop me from slipping again. I’ve seen my doctor and i’v seen a physiciatrist and nothings changed innfact they think its a good idea. I hope you get sorted with you mum xx

what ever makes you happy, your family should support you!

Dear Peachywish,

How very sad that you don’t as yet have the support from your parents about BA that you have been longing for. And how unhappy it’s making you feel.
I agree with the girls in the forum…that is, sitting down with your parents and explaining the procedure, implications etc and most important your reasons for wanting BA. But yet, how can you do that when you’re mum doesn’t appear to be listening to you.

From your post a few things stand out which I don’t understand…but it’s not me that needs to understand really, it’s you. Hope this helps you.

You stated that to your mum BA is a stupid idea…well, even though your mum has your best interests at heart, has she attempted to listen to you properly to understand your genuine reasons for wanting BA?

Why is you wanting BA upsetting the whole family? Why will the family be affected? Will it make any difference to their life and happiness if you get BA?

At 18 you’re mature enough (legally) to make your own decisions. And to have to op with MYA.

Personally, if BA is something you feel so very strongly about, no amount of counselling will change your mind. In fact, my guess is that if you have counselling, it will increase your self esteem and strengthen your WILL to make your own decisions, regardless of what anyone else thinks.

So your mum clarified to you on how you used to be a nice person? I’m just wondering why wanting BA can negatively change someone who is so very unhappy about their breast size and as such takes measures to do something about it to improve their happiness, can be perceived as not being a nice person?

Also, I’m wondering and confused why wanting BA is associated with needing to go out more and get a life?

And who does your inheritence money belong to? Who’s in control of the funds?

What’s the worst thing that can happen if you go against your mums will to have BA?

So according to your mum, you’re not the most mature 18 year old person in the world…but what do you really think about you?

Good luck…wishing you lots of love and happiness xxx

hey millie, im havin mine done 1st feb, so is urs the 2nd? where are you goin for them done? im the same stats as you 2 whoo exciting!!! xx

Its got worse…

Ok so My mum sat me down and i thought we would get somewhere…
She asked if i was still going ahead with the consultation.
I said yes then she kicked off at me saying that…

Its a stupid idea
Its upsetting the whole family
Your only 18 and not mature enough to get it done
Go to a doctor
Go see a councler

I inherited 10,000 pounds and mum says I should save for it myself if I want it that much so I said fair enough I will do monthly payments out of my own money and not use the 10K but still she goes on about how I used to be a nice person and that other things can make me happy, how i need to go out more and get a life.
Its so annoying she cant see how I feel and i hate going against her will.
She said she wouldnt look after Me after the op.
And go ask a bunch if adults they would tell you to get a life and not get it done.
That its shallow.

Its really upset me.
I said that even if i waited until I was 40 I still would want it done and Yeah I am not the most mature 18 year old but it I know the things I want.

I cant even explain how unhappy I am now after thinking it was ok and it makes it worse My dad told me it was ok aand hed support me that hes gone behind my back to mum and said he is as against it as her.

Sorry if You have already read this on SoFem.

Sorry for the rant again xx

Hi babe,
I was in exactly the same position as you, I’ve only just turned 18. I contacted MYA vissited them for my consultation and everything all without m parents knowledge even though they knew i had wanted the op for years! When i came home, i had to tell them about it because i needed them to stand guarantaur for the money. At first they were totally against it, but then my pc told me i could get my parents to ring her and she would discuss the procedure with them thoroughly. My parents researched Mr Traynor aswell as they were concerned for me as any parent.

I found that in the end, the mature approah worked and that sitting down with my parents and discussing every aspect as to why this was so so important to me really brought home to them how unhappy and unconfident m boobs were making me.

I’m now having the op in 14 days and i am soooo so excited!! Havng 410 going from a 32A.. Cannot wait although i am soo scared of the inkection.
Hope this helps xxxx

I’ve had loads of issues with my parents over the years but my relationship with them has always been of the utmost importance, I value my family above everything regardless of what we’ve been through and how they’ve made me feel on occasion.

Please please pleeeease make sure you exhaust all possibilities of getting them on side before you just go ahead and do it anyway. I’ve seen people lose their relationship with their parents/family. Not something so great at Christmas or birthday etc

Hello, ive always been small and after having my little girl they deffo need doing.
i also got 10k when i was 21 from my dad and money really doesnt go far, if their is nothing more important you want id go ahead with it,
my family have always been fine with it but my parnters a bit funny.
i suggest if your working & can get finance i would as you’d hardly notice your paying and will still have money saved for yoursalf.
i am 21 so im thinking if i was 18 what my mum&dad would have said?..i think they would of been fine with it, but everyones differant. With things my mum wasnt happy with me doing, even at 18 i did it anyway most of the time and hope she wouldnt of found out, like having a tattoo at 15 or falling pregeant at 19 they were very dissapointed in me.. but they got over it.. when its done theirs nothing you can do. i never liked going behind my mums back but i did it anyway because it was my life & if i was old enough to do it.. what could they do?
I say you should do whatever makes you happy.. if you have felt like this for a long time and have thought it through Go for It. I take it your already tryed talking to them so what else can ou do?. After doing some reserch i chose MYA I have my consaltation 2moro im excited. i think you deserve that excitment feeling
So Good Luck ..Wb.xXx

Here here!

I think Clareeee is right. There is still a stigma with BAs mainly as a result of bad press and ill informed people. My Mum spiralled into a panic when I told her, concerned about having my nipple cut off and them bursting….all stuff she had heard from decades ago when BAs were in their infancy.

I think I have said this to you before, but I’ll say it again, if I could go back to when I was 18 and do it then I would have. I wasted a lot of my life fretting about my lack of boobage, and if they weren’t there by 18, then I was pretty sure they never would be (I was right).

Much like the other girls, I think what won my Mum over was speaking from an informed standpoint. I did extenstive research on the procedure, the risks, post op care, companies and surgeons and talked her through everything from the position of my incision, to post-op breast feeding and how many ops Mr Adamo had performed in his career! I also wrote her a letter (as I find this easier) explaining that my desire to have larger breasts was not about being a perky page three model, but about feeling like a woman. Feeling feminine.

Remember they only say these things because they care.

Good luck xx

VERY wise words pussycat! I agree wholeheartedly!

I waited so long because I wanted my parents’ support. Anyway, I’ve given you my advice on sofem sweetie, don’t listen to the girls on sofem who say “just do it regardless” because that’ll annoy your parents even more and like bryony says and I’ve said, draw your mum into your research.

At the end of the day breast augmentation has received so much bad press over the years. at MYA I was given an info pack in which is a load of info about negative media. The professionals ARE the professionals so your mum needs to talk to them not just listen to the media hype or judge without professional consultation, we don’t all want to be Jordan, we just want to be happy in ourselves xxx

hi, I am a 46 year old mum and have just had mine done, I HAVE been waiting for years. My son is 22 today and thinks they are great. Take your mum to see Mr Kazzazi as he did mine and is the best, he is also a Breast Cancer Specialist so you know he only has your interests at heart, you can really trust him and will do your boobs to suit your body not to look like jordan. He will answer honestly all your questions and make them and you feel better. I agree with what others say that they are only thinking of you but if they dont support you then you will only go and do it without them and trust me its better for them to maybe not agree but listen to your needs and be there for you. It has changed by life and wish I had mine done when I was 18. Its safer for them to be with you and know whats happening.

Hope this helps

Oh no, you sound as if you have had an awful time…..

Im 21 and have been after one for ages and at 1st I was told the same as you….. why don’t you wait.

My mum is behind me now 100%, she still worries and asks if it is definatley what I want, but she is coming to look after me for a week after my op. bless.

My dad thinks ignorance is bliss and doesn’t want to know ha.

If this is something you have wanted then it is something you should do. It’s your body and if it makes you feel better its your choice to make.

I found the best way to deal with things like your not mature enough etc is to research loads and get all the facts. do print outs, get brochures on different companies and loads of print outs etc and go to her with all the info.

Hope this helps xxxx

Hia,

i think alot of people could say the same thing that their family dont agree. I wanted mine done for years and when i finally did it i didnt tell anyone! At least you have felt confident enough to tell your family. I agree with Kgirl ask your family to come on here and have a look there is plenty of us n here post op that have and are still posting.

Yes you may still be young and your Mum is prob thinking that she is protecting you. DONT FORGET YOUR HER BABY and she only wants what she thinks is best for you. Sit down and speak to her alone… write her a letter if need be, explain why you want it done!

Hey hun… I am familiar with your feeling. I live in Birmingham just with my boyfriend and I am going for my op without telling them cause I know that they will try to talk me out of this. I am 27 and I have made my decision though.
Perhaps you could show this forum to your family and they will see how happy these girls are. Does your mum have big boobs?
Keep you chin up!!! xx

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