Jelouse fiancee. Anyone else had that?

Hi girls. I went shopping yesterday with my fiancee. Came home empty handed. Wasn’t cause I didn’t see anything I liked. I saw a lovely top, but, and check this out. I could get it but only wear it when I am out with him. Omfg. If I go out with my girlfriends I am not allowed to wear anything low or anything showing cleavage. But if I’m with him he wants me to show them off. Bastard. I’m 47 not bloody 16. Hence a big argument. I don’t flash my boobs off anyway. But have some lovely dresses and tops I wore out before my BA and he was ok with them then, but oh no. Now I’m not allowed ha ha yes NOT allowed to wear them now. How dare he. I told him I can’t afford to buy a set of clothes to wear out with the girls and one with him. Bearing in mind when I go out with him it’s not often and we go out about 2pm to weather spoons and sit in a corner and leave at 7pm, but with the girls go out at 9pm and go to lots of pubs and dance. Is he for real. Has anyone else had this since their BA?

Sorry I ranted on, just so pissed off. X 😈

Did he tell you to get a female surgeon too? I think you need to remind him who the BA was for.

If he’s not happy then tell him to get a set of his own lol. Just like I am

Good luck Juilie. xx

Funny enough I did have Marion grob, but that was my choice. Was supposed to have mr Singh but appointment was cancelled. I know he was happy about that.

Thanks for your post. I did tell him but he’s just a pig. Lol.

What a prick! You’re not his property so stand ur ground and wear what and when u like!

Most of us have this surgery to take away body insecurities not give us more which his behaviour is doing!

Stand ur ground hun otherwise he’ll think he can control you all the time xx

I agree with the above, but would add. We all have our insecurities, and men have more than most women. Both you and your partner need to adjust to new boobs. I am sure its just him being over sensitive. However, I could be wrong, I normally am. lol Xx

mine is exactly the same, i have had 2 ba’s. If i want to wear a low cut top or buy one – i say to him ‘do you think it’s too low or showing too much?’ and he say’s ‘it’s okay if you wear it when your with me, but not on your own’ and the other night he told me that i had too much chest on display and that he didn’t want me showing any cleavage and that his friends were talking about me going to town with low cut tops on.

i told him that when it comes to clothes or what i am wearing i hate anyone telling me what to do.

i put a thread on yeaterday about people looking at me like shit cos i had a tight high necked t-shirt on, there was nothing on show and he said that it was my fault and i was upsetting women cos my boobs looked too big!! xxx

My husband is worse. I’m only allowed to wear stuff like that AT HOME! He gets really funny with me if I even step outside my front door even to do the school run!!!! In even the something marginally revealing ! Grr and then he blames me for not being happy with myself and not liking my clothes

Omg my bf is terrible already I’m dreadin what he’l be like after the op. I was wearing a normal tshirt (no boob on show) and denim hotpants durin a heatwave jus like any other 20yr old girl an he told me I look like I’m going out on the pull n to get changed! And that I need to “tone it down with the big earrings n red lipstick”. And that he should be allowed to choose the size breast I’m gonna have. U met me like this its my style so y shud I change!! Men r frustrating! X

wow i am so glad i am single atm reading all this!! xx

Acorn88 stay single. I HaTE my husband. Thinking of leaving him. Hes a control freak. He is childish and dominates me and my little girls. I seriously have had enough of it. Apart from thefact he supports us financially I feel I’d be better off without him. Scared but I feel I would be happier.

Oh dear, hun! xx

my god are we living back in the dark ages girls, im lucky my bf is great he’d know better than to tell me what to wear but my ex was a nightmare if i wore a skirt it was becouse i was trying to pull and i once wore a pair of shorts with thick black tights and i was a slut, it was fine to dress like that when i was with him tho.

men are idiots sometimes, wear what you want to girls lifes to short to let yourself be controlled, put your foot down or they’ll never change. x

Ok Debs so how do you put the foot down in a way that they now you mean it but still give them a chance when they have had so very many chances before ???

Regardless of chances and putting your foot down, a leopard never changes its spots. We are who we are, and are often incapable of making fundamental changes. Either accept it, or find someone who is more suited to you. x

Lk you always come out with those gems xxx

My calling is defo to be an agony aunt or relationship guru haha. x

Thanks for all your comments. I agree with you all. He was bad before. But its his problem and he can deal with it. i didnt reolise there were so many other women going through the same. Come on girls lets take our lives back. Make the men reolise they do not own us. Evertime my fella gets ready too go out I am going to give him a taste of his own medicine. Your shirts too low i can see cleavage, your jeans are too tight I can see your old man saggy bollocks hanging down. Youve got too much aftershave on you smell like a tart. lol see how he likes being told what he can and cant wear. Ha Ha

HehE very good xxxx

My bf is exactly the same..he always has an issue with anything i do. If i go out with my friends clubbing he always makes some sarcastic remark saying “oh so r u going to wear the shortest dress u can find?” and always makes his feelings clear. He’s helping me save for a nose job but said i CAN’T have a boob job otherwise its over. I said well if i want one i’ll have one and he can support me or not. Uve just gotta be tough and say look u either support me and my decisions or u can do one. He’ll soon get the message that ur serious lol xx

Old man saggy bollox!!! Hahaha aha!!!!

Just tell him to piss off! If he doesn’t like it then he knows were the door is. You’ve not changed as a person n he should be proud thinking other people r lookin at you thinking phwooaarrr! My fella said to me last nite. ” we should of got a tenner knocked off our take away as u flashed him yout tits” it was a top I wore b4 I had them done. My tits were well n truly covered. I said shout him back he can touch them, maybe wel get it for free. He just shook his head. Play him at his own game, u did it to make u feel better, he shouldn’t be putting u back down again.

Anchovie babe u need to sit yours down n tell him exactly wat u think/feel about him. Chances r he prob doesn’t even realize wat he’s doin. Get him told. A shock to the system will prob do him good. & do u work Hun?xxx

Thanks Amanda. I don’t work at the mo. I am a teacher and struggling to get work as they’ve taken on cheap contract workers in the schools round here. Part of the prob cos my self worth is low jus now so he treats me worse. He’s better to me when I’m working He’s quite chauvinistic really. He’s two ppl tho charming and lovely switched to controlling and arrogant. Like a carousel. Not sure what to do

Anchovie, jus pm you. Going gym now so reply soon as I’m back xxx

Thx xxxxx

Julie… “no body puts baby in the corner” lol… don’t let anyone dictate to you the way you live your life. if he’s not happy, thats something he needs to address because him being all possesive like that, screams that he has no trust. for someone not to trust…its either coz you have done something in the past (which i doubt) or because hes judging by his standards… thats a pstclogical fact lol.

get a grip of him hun. You tell him now that this stops or hes gone. this isnt fare on you. xx

Charlotte pink. you hit the nail on he head. I have been loyal to him all through our relationship. Hes the one taking his ex out and going on dating sites. xx I forgave him again last time just before my BA. But if i find out hes been doing it again thats me gone and he can forget me paying him back for my BA. xx

so true charlottepink, thats been the case in all my past relationships! they was so overly possesive even though id done nothing wrong, then i found them on dating sites or talkin to ex’s!!! its there own insecuritys n they try make us feel down!!

well Julie, good on you huni! and pmsl at the BA payments. Mine were a present (much deserved lol) from my hubster too… we are lucky gals. they may have purchased our boobies, but that doesnt make a man own you.

i live in a lifestyle where the husbands and wives spend many months/years apart and i have seen so many possesive men knock their gals confidence and keep her “kept”…and most often than not they are the ones caught out being the “rotters”. as the saying goes “treat those close how you expect to be treated”.

Ashababy, i hope you have found yourself a good man now. they are out there. not all men are bad.xxx

he doesnt chat up other women, but he still trys to control what a wear says i should tone it down, an told me im not allowed to model coz “he couldnt handle that” x

I dont know why men feel they have the right to tell us what we can and cant wear. lol I didnt listen to my dad and I anint gona listen to him indoors. Im 47 not like Im hanging out and doing mutton dressed as lamb. and even if I was it should be my choice ….not his lol MEN 👿

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