mummy?

im a mum of 5. age 18mths – 13yrs

oh dear how will i cope! kids know im getting it done so the bigger ones will understand i do have a pretty supportive partner but seriously i think he will fall apart lol

i do all the washing cleaning cooking ect

oooh payback lol (i might have to milk it for longer)

i think he thinks its gonna be a walk in the park

BIG SHOCK FOR HIM

am i evil lol x

No your not,you have given so much of your time supporting him,and they just take it for granted that youll do it,this is your time now,and seriously you will need to rest,so that your body heals,enjoy the attention honey,dont lift a finger,xxx

You will need a lot of support- especially in the first few days. i’ve got a little girl and have really relied on my sisters and friends to help look after her whilst i’ve basically been stuck in bed. i just made sure i blitzed the housework the day before my op. good luck! xx

agree with gtown x x you will need alot of support x x

i am 5 days po now and its just me and the kids today, i made sure i got lots off acivities/dvd’s/garden toys for them to play with so they don’t get bored xx (i have a 5yr old and a 2yr old)

xx when is your op

ps no ur not evil x

Lady c I’ve got s 5 and 2 year old and although my husband reckons he’s gonna be totally there to help me, I just can’t imagine it! He’ll get bored of doing everything by day 3! He expected me to go on loads of long walks with him after I’d just given birth (no idea) so I can’t imagine he’s going to be so relaxed sbout me sitting on my arse after the op!!!! Although he had to convince me he wS going to do it before I signed on the dotted line, so he better keep his promise;-)

Haha im having my op in 9 days & i have a baby, 6yr old & “There Dad” worse than a child lol!!!

I do everything like u raineypink, He thinks the same a walk in the park! It is going 2 be a Big shock 4 them, Im going 2 make the most of this & i know he will really appreciate me afterwards ;-0……… I will blitz the house work day b4 then its over 2 him!!!!! Xxxxxxx

Baileybop… Mines in 9 days too. I’m at Rochdale, what about you? X

Pmc123 I’m Liverpool Hun, what a shame! Our husbands won’t know what has hit them Haha.

How are u feeling about it all! It’s getting real now, I just keep thinking 10th will soon b here, I think lll be scared on the day Xxxx

I know. 10 more sleeps! One minute I’m calm, next minute I’m shitting myself!!! X

pmc123 my bf lasted 4days before i started gettin the arse cos the things i expected him to do .. didnt!! but thats just my BF!! if its not for him then he will do it in his own tme! he reckons that i am playin on it sometimes which caused me to sit there and sob my heart out! I hoovered yesterday and he just sat there.. playin XBOX!!

MEN haven’t got a friggin clue. i just hope urs is better than mine! this happened when i had a key hole surgery to!!

feel like i should be superbloodywomen!! he helped when he thought i needed it but tbh expected to much from me in return!! i have coped with it all but its still hard. Just make sure urs helps x x x

(my parents have been great they took the kids out yesterday for the whole day which was sooooo good)

My husband has the week off work to help me with my 3yr old and 10 month old, he’s really trying bless him & is exhausted, but he isn’t doing quite as much as I’d like housework wise!! I sound like a complete bitch, but I’m sat here bubbling because I can see Dirty washing shoved around the place and mess everywhere, its driving me a bit mad!! But if you’re not ocd like me, I’m sure you’ll be fine!!

When are you able to get on with things a bit better? I’ve done bits of cleaning, but find it pulls on my stitches and have to rest again. Xx

Oh Christ, you guys are terrifying me!!! Lol!!! I’m pretty OCD and I know he just won’t be doing to my liking (now I sound like a bitch!!!). And, I haven’t told anybody else I’m having it done so no help from parents either!!! Aghhhhhhh. I think I might just try and stay in my bedroom out of the way for as long as possible!!! X

I’m a bit OCD myself Haha, I’m going 2 try & do as much as I can day b4.

Then yes stay in the bedroom & leave him 2 it!! What are we like having a boob job in a few days & thinking about cleaning….. Xxxxxx

I know. Like they would be doing the same!!! They wouldn’t give it 2 seconds thought, but of course they wouldn’t need to!!!! Coz us ladies know how to sort everything;-)

Haha! Excatly Hun Xxxx

Girls…. My kids are much bigger than yours, my girl was 16 and My son was 9 when I had it done. My husband and I sent them on a vacation with family friends and they came back 2 days after my operation. Me and my hubby prepared food that would keep for long before my operation, then he basically cooked what he can after. I do the odd picking up and tidying up, but kids did most things with their dad. I only started doing things in the house after 4 weeks really, because I did not want to have any complications and might end up going back to the hospital.

My GP knew I had the BA so I go to her for check before I went back to work really. With young family like most of you, it may be more for your partner to help around. My hubby was so supportive and always tells me off for doing things so soon!

It is worth their effort though

my baby will be 7 months when i have my op nxt month, i have a 9 yr old too, having my op on a friday so iv got ‘daddy’ at home over the weekend, then my mum is going to have a day off, then its down to me, im sure my buddies will be on hand, im hoping ill have a speedy easy recovery, iv had two c-sections and bounced back really quick, ill fill the freezer as i did before the baby, @ keepmesweet….4 weeks!1 im hoping 4 days and ill be ok, fingers crossed, after reading all this i think my expectations are a bit unrealistic ;/ xxxx

I have a 13 month old and a 2 year old, both are very clingy to me, their dad has a week off work to help but i very much doubt ill get out of dealing with them! Even help with washing and housework will be a bonus though!

Us women struggle through, as much as we need to rest im pretty sure we will find a way to help the men out regardless…

Now of this was the other way round… Ahem lol xxx

Husbands are rubbish. I hav four little girls. He promised to take over. He did a few school runs and had meltdown cos he didn’t know what to cook for tea on day two. He washed my hair once and managed to spray down my blouse on to my precious stitches that are supposed to remain dry!!!!!!!! The house got progressively dirtier and I found myself having to deal with the bickering etc. I’m OCD too and day three the crummy floors got to me and I hoovered around the house. Carried loads of washing up two flights of stairs to tumble drier ! Very stupid. Felt very Ill after that. My husband told me off but then didn’t try to do anymore to prevent me having to. I watched the bins filling up. It’s just important to look after yourself in those early days of healing. Bed rest is essntial. Don’t be silly. It’s only a week or two of ur life. The house will be dirty but u can sort it all later when u feel strong and your stitches are healed. Husbands will not replace you. They are not capable!!! Don’t expect them to be super like you!!!! Xxx

DEFO agree with you anchoive, when I had my BA done my bf said leave everything to him as you say they have no idea do they With my OCD I have to go thro everything even clutterd draws nag at my head. its so hard to just sit back and watch. now I am 8 wks po I might have build up of fluid and I might have to have the drain I really hope not couldn’t really ask him again as men create more mess dont they x

Haha yes beccyboob. They’re crap. They mk all their promises but they don’t have a clue. Think their so great to have full time jobs. Think we v got it easy just playing with the kids and having leisurely lives. Funny how as soon as we are out of action the system collapses eh. They like the house organised and the shopping done with tea on the table and us looking pretty! Not so easy when they hav to take a turn!!! Eh?????

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