My boyfriend is being soooo weird about my new boobs :(

Hi all, just wanted to ask if anyone has had similar experience to me post op. My other half was never that up for me getting my boobs done but when i explained for the 1000th time how low my old saggy boobs were making me he finally understood and said he’d support me. Anyway i did it for me no one else.

So i had my op last tuesday. Still getting used to my boobs to be honest, they’re still quite high up and hard but right one has started to soften and drop a bit so liking them a bit more! Yesterday i said to him ‘feel the right one compared to left one its loads softer etc’, and he said ‘no, i’m not ready to yet!’. Then later in the day he refused to look at them ,when i wanted to show him how they’d changed over the days. He’s basically being so weird about it, not wanting to look/touch and i’m worried he never will! I feel really alone and feel guilty even mentioning them incase he goes weird about it.

He’s been amazing looking after our boy and helping me get as much rest as possible, i couldn’t have done it without him. BUT i feel like i need a bit of emotional support and i am so worried that he’ll never acknowledge it or want to look at them. It just feels a bit awkward between us, like he doesn’t fancy me anymore. Sorry if this sounds pathetic I just thought once he saw how happy they made me he’d be happy, but I can’t be happy without his support.

Anyone experienced similar?Xx

not yet had my op hun its in april, but my fiance at first was so against it n sometimes even know he gets a bit offish, its because he is worried about the new attention we will recieve with our new FAB assets n we deserve to feel good about our selves babe, just remember why u done this so u can feel good about urself right?. I am sure in time he will come round he is probably still getting used to you lookin different n is prob thinkin to his self wow she looks amazin n hes scared that everyone else will think that, all men are jealous despite of what they say. he will come round maybe he’s also scared of hurting u as ur still healing, try not 2 worry hun n enjoy ur new boobies xx

My bfriend likes me to have them done and is actully being slightly encauring which is your opposite. However i think: maybe he might be scared that you will look better and sexier and a slight threat to him… He is just being a man who is affraid of you being sexier. Let the breast settle and once you get back to your normal activity and he sees that how you feel about him hasent changed just cause you look sexier. Than he will enjoy them . hope this helps x

thanks girls. You’re right i think its a combo of him being a bit jealous and worried of them changing me and also he’s a bit worried of saying the wrong thing as they still look a bit funny. He’s quite proud and he’d NEVER admit that he’s a bit scared and threatened by the situation but he probably is deep down and it’ll take a bit of time for him to come round to it and also to realise that i haven’t changed and i’m not going to run off with someone else. (unless he keeps acting like this – lol!!). x

Hey ladies, firstly men are weird! Secondly try not to worry too much, my man was really supportive of me having them done, he even paid for half! He was amazing on the day and during my whole recovery time, in fact it’s the nicest I’ve ever seen him! Lol. That said I am 3.5 months post op now and it’s only the last couple of weeks that he’s really gone near them.

It was really getting me down for a while and he isn’t one for heart to hearts usually but I eventually got sick of it and asked him what his problem was. He said that it’s all new to him too and that he has to get used to them as much as I do. When we have our op we tend to just think about how it’s affecting us, we love them, we hate them, we wish we’d gone bigger etc etc. I think boys feel this too to some extent. And if you think about it our men love us just the way we are (or they bloomin well should do) and they’ve just seen us put ourselves through major surgery. At first my man wouldn’t come near me for fear of hurtin me, then they looked weird and not boob like and they are hard etc. It just takes them a bit of time to get their heads round if too so give them time xx

Girls can you help me ! I dont know where to write on my profile for my messages to pop on the forum for others to comment …. xx

i can empathise with HIM lol love mines but i abso hate touching them they giv me the heebie jeebies sometimes! hes maybe just needing some time..once they r healed proper and more touchable it might b better then getting him to feel them when they r still settling..and hes mayb also worried bout hurting u! just give him time..if he’s still wierd 6motnhs down the line then its his prob not urs, dnt let it make u feel any less sexy coz you’ll know urself they r much better than b4 lol xxx

It’s weird isn’t it? Our men love nice, pert, big boobs (they do, even if they deny it!!!) yet they seem to want us, their girlfriends/wives to have imperfect, saggy, small little raisins for boobs!

I have horrendous breasts. They are so saggy and non-existent. Rather than boob I just have lots of empty skin, where my boobs once stood! My boyfriend loves boobs…he seems to like mine, even though he admitted that he was slightly horrified by them when we first met! They are actually considerably worse now compared to then as well! HOWEVER, he is not in support of my desire to have an uplift/ba at all. Obviously it’s the money…he says he’d prefer to save for a wedding rather than a boob op…but he also says he isn’t comfortable with me having an uplift and implants. I believe he’s just a teensy bit scared of the male attention I may get. I think that goes for all of our men! And the fact that the body they were so familiar with has changed or will be changing – it must be a bit of a shock, bless them!

Give your man time chuck. I’m sure when he’s got used to your new boobies he’ll not be able to keep his hands and eyes off ’em!!

maybe, they are scared of all the bad publicity recently and also that they are scared to touch us in case they hurt us. rach2012 maybe he is waiting for the all clear from the nurse tomorrow?

mine loves my boobs, but he wont touch them at all, he does look and comment on them moving and changing, but he was really scared about the whole process, more so then me. and he is forcing me to do everything by the book…. which means no sex (not liking this part at all!), proper snuggles, no doing anything for myself (which is really annoying me now), he actually spents more time researching them then i do on here (that is saying something)

id just say have a heart to heart with him about them, and explain (as i did), that your new boobs arent for extra attention, they arent there to leave him for, they are for both of you to enjoy, and be more confident xx

wow really ??? my husband hates the idea only because he is frightend of me being unhappy with the outcome or something going wrong with ga he got himself in a right mess yeasterday after I bought it up I think our men do care alot but find it hard to show us you got to think to it must be like shagging a diff person with our massive pert boobies must be a little weird for em xxx

thanks girls. I hadn’t really thought hard about how he must be feeling. as you say is prob just as weird for him to see all the changes and he does say he just feels like protecting me at the moment till i’m better. I must sound like a right demanding b*tch! i’m not but you know when your emotions are up and down coz of the whole experience, it can all get a bit much. And i think him refusing to touch or look at them freaked me out a bit. Just going to chill out about the whole thing. I don’t exactly love my hard, high up coconut boobs yet so can’t expect him to be really happy with them either!

thanks for all the advice, this forum is a lifesaver i was feeling so down this morning. xx

omg really! i guess it takes them getting use to one min we have small boobs next big lol. when i walk in topless my bf says “put them away” ud think theyd be sayin the opposit!! x

My bf just can’t wait his words were 48 hours till huge tits hahaha

Then again some of my guys friends were like no don’t do it which made me feel kinda like shit that sucks …

Just sending all you girls happy vibes that are going thru a tough time xxx

After I’d stopped breastfeeding my bf kept asking when they’d go back to normal and actually said “urghh” at one point when he saw how much empty skin there was Now after my surgery he says they look weird and unnatural (even though I explained they hadn’t finished settling yet) and he prefered my body before!? Wtf!? I don’t care though, my money, my body and I’m a lot happier now. Men are stupid…

Babe I wouldn’t take it too heart mine said I don’t need them n like you I went on n went n he helped pay for them as he new I was down about them! Don’t get me wrong he’s a bum man not a boob man but he touched the old ones more I asked him last night why he won’t touch them he said he doesn’t want to hurt me as I’m only 5 days PO and he is heavy handed but he will look but I think it’s a man thing they are interested but in there time lol I took my bra off before to she a change and I said touch them n he wouldn’t so I asked why and he said he didnt want to touch them as they are now only because it would put him off them … I think it’s while they are hard it Freeks me out tbh lol!

Don’t worry babe xxx

My bf was really unsure and said I was crazy when I first mentioned it but now that it’s 4 weeks away he’s said he’s really excited but doesn’t wanna hurt my feelings by saying so haha. He’s already calling me Dolly instead of Holly and singing ‘working 9-5’ to me. Hope he doesn’t go weird afterwards, seems to be a bit of a common thing! xx

my boyfriend is really against me getting my boobies, he’s worried something will go wrong and he’s worried i’m going to be getting them out all the time and getting attention off other lads and he’s scared it will change me as a person, i keep explaining i’m doing this for me and to give me more confidence and make me that bit happier, not to get them out and be ogled at by men ! i couldnt think of anything worse to be honest, id much rather women look at me and think ‘shes got a crackin pair’ than men !

having said that he is supporting me, he’s going to book time off work to look after me after the op but he said he cant come with me on the day because it will upset him seeing me in a hospital bed (bless him)

he’s said he cant look at them after ive had them done and doesnt want to see them let alone feel them until they’ve completely softened/dropped etc (so about 6 weeks) and no sex during this time either ! ( )

at first he really upset me saying if i get them done he wont go near them at all and if it goes wrong then he doesnt know if he’ll be with me, im making him sound like a proper idiot hahaa but he was just trying to put me off, once he seen how much he upset me he got his arse into gear and agreed to support me

My husband was totally ANTI We fell out loads he begged me not to and even the night before the op he said its not too late to change your mind. I have had uplift ANd implants and even with stripes he thinks they are amazing. At first he didn’t look or want to touch but after about six weeks my boobs started to look and feel natural and he cd not get enough. Men are VERY complex. Women are much more simple. Give your boobs time. It’ll b ok. He sounds a decent bloke. I think he ll get used to it. Xxx

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