Need advice ladies, men are stupid!!

I have been organising my friends 21st birthday night out at the weekend and we were gonna get her a stripper cos she loved the one we had on my mates hen doo. Anywho the boyfriend has gone mad saying i cant book it as its disrespectful to him and he would never do that to me and if i book it i will be moving out when i get back. He’s also still in a slight mood with me for getting hammered at the weekend (he is tee-total) He used to work the doors and he’s like i know what drunken groups of girls get up to with strippers….cos yeah im obviously gonna have my wicked way and run away with him!! Aaaaaarrrggghhh he’s doing my head in!! Am I in the wrong and would your blokes let you do this?? xx

aww hun!! im half with you, half not! if it was the other way around id bloody hate it! cant bare to think my bf finds ANYONE else attractive but me!! xx

Yeah i can sort of see where he’s coming from but then it is only a bit of fun and i dont think i would be that bothered if it was the other way round cos i trust him and I know he wouldnt do anything or run off with the stripper. No one else would be mad enough to have him for a start! lol. I didnt get spoken to for over a weekk after my mates hen doo. Just think yeah fair enough if its just about me but its for my mates birthday and i feel really bad cos ive had to tell everyone else no now and they were really up for it xx

there should be trust tho, it shouldnt matter if your on the streets with tramps or at a party of male models, he should trust you.

if hes worried about what you and the girls would get upto with a stripper, then he should expect you to be equally worried of what him a nd the lads would get up to with a stripper. so hes technically doubting himself aswel as you xx

oooh i wouldnt go that far!! not speaking for a week?? thats a little over the top! just go for it hun if its for your friend xxxx

I told him to go and get one for him and his mates! haha. It didnt go down very well and to be honest its not his thing. Cos he doesnt drink and never has all this going out thing is a bit lost on him lol. He just sees everything in black and white, theres no grey areas in his world, its so frustrating. He’s said he cant see the others boyfriends being ok with it, i was like erm actually they are cos its just a laugh. I wont be touching or anything, and even if the rest of them did, i have my own mind, i dont need to join in. He is 9 years older than me and sometimes the age gap shows, cant see myself winning this one though cos he’s so stubborn xx

Yeah not speaking to you for a week??! What the he’ll is that all about? He has some proper issues there! Xx

I’m afraid I wouldn’t have any patience for him and he would be long gone! Lol xx

Haha karen, he is paying for my boobies though and he isnt even bothered whether i have them done or not, so he does have his nice points. Just a stubborn streak a mile long! I get jealous too, very jealous but i think i just manage it better than he does, and i do trust him, im just insecure and i think he is too xx

Hehe! I’m as stubborn as they come plus no patience means I struggle with relationships at the best of times!! So don’t listen to me! Lmao. As long as you trust each other I can’t see where the problem is? Xx

We do which is why i dont get it?! I have male friends, go on nights out, go on weekends away with my friends which he is fine with so i dont get why this is such an issue?! He’s weird! lol xx

Thats not go on weekends away with male friends btw lol

Haha! I don’t get it. I really don’t understand men at al!! Xx

Me neither, and they say we are complicated!! Haha xx

tell him to get over it!! so he has never been to a strip club????!!!!!

god we all cringe knowing our boyfs in a strip club but i trust him with all my heart i know theres nowt in it. if i was to hire a stripper he would probably just tut at me then tell me to have a good nite. he needs to trust u and this is the issue. he cant stand the thought of u looking at other men! id still book the stripper and tell him to get over it mabee suggest he needs councelling haha im sure that would make him worse lol but ur def right to feel annoyed xxx

Amy you have a good man there payin for your Boobs! NOBODY is goin to agree with me here but Hes NOT Askin much! Respect hes opinion noway wouid i let my man see strippers i wouid feel disrespected! x x

Nope jodes not that im aware of, he’s not really a lads lad and doesnt bother with all that stuff xx

Hush you are the first person to say that to me and to be honest im glad you did. Half the group for this weekend have been saying just do it and dont tell him but i said no and if they booked it I wasnt going and if they did it behind my back then i would be going back to the hotel. Ultimately I know its a bit of fun but if its something he’s that unhappy about i should respect it same as i would expect him to do if it was the other way around, and at the end of the day my relationship is more important to me than a night out. He can be seriously hard work sometimes but I love him and wouldn’t wanna be without him. Soppy cow I am lol xx

Amy spot on chick ur man is worth ALOT more than a night out! and if hes supportin and payin for ur boobs,he loves you an awful lot he respects u want the new boobies So honestly hun grant him this small favor x x

To be honest in a strange way i was hopin some of you ladies would back him up cos i think sometimes my mates just dont get why he has the opinions he does and they think he is a bit controlling. He really isn’t, if he was im pretty sure i wouldnt be getting a BA and im very independent but when you have everyone going on at you it just gets hard and you occassionally start to doubt things. Bad i know Relationships are give and take and you cant win them all, think i kinda needed to be brought back down to earth, thanks Hush hun xx

The problem with females is they tell eachothere What they think they wanna here! I DONT do that ever Its kinder to be honest xx When u look at it like this ur man doesnt want u to be around naked men thats VERY reason’able! imagein for a sec ur man was at a gentlemans club with big leggy ffcup blondes Its NOT that u wouidnt trust him it wouid just be very uncomfortable for you x x

And ur welcome hun x x

Well when you put it like that…yeah! lol. I say i wouldnt be bothered but in reality i think i would be on pins at home waiting for him, texting every 5 mins and then pick a fight with him when he got home lol. Its not about trust, just it not sitting right with him xx

Amy, I’m def not telling you what you want to hear…but never let anyone, man or woman stop you doing something you want to do…if he trusts you it really shouldnt be an issue. I had same things with my ex, who was also very generous, but there are underlying trust and insecurity issues goin on hon, and every time you adjust somethin you want to do its like sayin you excuse these issues. don’t!! just be reasonable but firm. his payin for your boobs is a separate issue!! sorry love, but you sound exactly like me a few years ago, til i left. not sayin leave of course but it starts like this and can get worse if allowed…nip it in the bud!!

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My boyfriend paid for my boobs and I was extra nice to him for weeks before my OP lol xx

Ask him if HIS been to a strip club/seen a stripper then u’kk have ur answer!! Xx

Agree with hush, we all have things that bother us for silly reasons. If this is important to him think about how important the relationship is to you versus having the stripper. You’d still have a fab time without one but if he’s worried about the stripper they’re bein paid to do a job, there are far more dangerous creatures lurking in bars! My boy is a doorman too so I get the same lectures but its just give and take x

Ive told my friends no and been trying to think of other ideas but a couple are on about booking one anyway. I said if they do im not going and to be honest im pretty upset they would knowing what a nightmare it would cause me and how stressfull the last few days have been. One of them has said they would go to another bar with me while he’s on cos she isnt bothered but i dont think thats fair. Gettin soooo stressed out now!! xx

It ain’t worth getting stressed out about Hun! If they are going to do it even though they know you don’t want to see it, it’s not worth you stressing over!! If you still want to go on the night out then go to the other bar with the others girls that don’t fancy it! Make sure all of the others know how you feel as well xx

Men always go to lap dancers ! (They might say no esp mine!! But I found a card saying purple door etc etc but says no no ) I used to work abroad I used to get so many men asking for pprostitues ! Esp brothels and mostly men with wives and your posh upperclass men ! X

Ps I worked as a mainline rep for thomas cook . I didn’t work for prostitues lol just people asked me for places when worked in hotel !

I agree with Hush on this one. My boyfriend used to go to lapdancing bars etc but I am totally against it when you’re in a relationship. Yes I trust him!! But I do not like the idea of him gawping at beautiful women with his mates. He knows how I feel and tells me that he is not bothered about them! I trust him!! So, I wouldn’t expect him to be happy about me ever organising a stripper. As Hush says I don’t think it’s alot to ask really; it’s not as if he’s a control freak who won’t allow you to go out!! x

Right on tracey the thought of my bf bein around naked women makes me feel ill ‘-C x x

Yeah me too! People think it’s cos we can’t trust em but it’s more a principle thing for me and I just think there is no need when you are in a relationship! To me, it’s like cheating! Rant over lol xx

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