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Need your advice more than ever…..

I am 32 years old (no children yet) I am 5foot 2 and a 34b – I have always disliked my breasts. To me they are quite wide but have no shape, I can’t wear boob tube type tops and hate them during sex!! They also sag to the side when I am on my side and look awful.

I went to see Mr Traynor last night and was so shocked when he told me I had “beautiful breasts” he said they were a good shape and suited my frame!!!!!

But I explained I wanted them bigger a D cup and he said “ok, you girls are crazy…….”

I am now worried tho as I was already feeling guilty about wanting the BA (mainly because I thought I should just be grateful for what I have, be grateful for my health) etc etc. Now to be told by the surgeon he thinks I don’t need a BA I am feeling even more guilty about having it done. Does any of this make sense??

Has he said this to anyone else, but you still went ahead?

I am thinking that perhaps he would say this to anyone who was more than a A cup?

Please give me your honest opinion advice ladies as I want them done but I am wracked with a horrible feeling of guilt!!

Thanks in advance xxxx

Hun he doesn’t live with them does he. I can understand how u feel and u r the only one who can make the decision. My hubby used to tell me I was fine he loved me they way I was but he could of told me that every 5 secs of every day it still wouldn’t of made me not do it. It’s the way it’s going to make u feel Hun. I felt guilty cos I do have children (girls) n thought what r they gonna think when older. But u have to sit down n really think about it for u. I also didn’t like mine when having sex, hubby never touched them, only when I was pregnant and they got bigger

Do what u feel is best for u Hun, listen to ur heart ull love it I’m sure if u go for it xxx

I can understand why you would question yourself but youve got to think there is a reason why you wanted a BA, and if you decided you didnt want to go ahead do you think you would regret your choice and go back to hating the way ur boobs look?

Im a 34b also, when i first went to transform b4 mya the surgeon ther said i had a good starting shape, but ive always hated the shape espesh when ther not erect! and when im layed on my side they go a horrible unfull shape! but he did then go on to say i was a good candidate for this surgery, so it was kinda giving me a complient then taking it away lol! end of the day only u can make the desicion but if its something uve really wanted you shouldnt feel guilty x

No, no no no no no! This isnt right. Ive been told the same, why are you getting them? Yours suit you, ohh your not gonna go too big are you?! blah blah…etc! But at the end of the day, not one of those people had spent a day or even moment in my own naked body, lookiing down, or looking in the mirror, or avoiding certain tops or bras that i wish I had the choice of, or feeling even awkward in bed with my partner, simply because THEY WERENT ME! People are so quick to pass judgement on situations that they have no knowledge about. YOU are paying, YOU are unhappy / lacking in confidence because of this.. dont listen to them. xx

^^^ was trying to say that too hee xxx

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I think everyone feels guitly in the run up to the op hun!!!

I kept asking my husband if he thought i was doing the right thing as i was a 34b too not completely flat had something i could work with!

But deep down me and my husband both knew it was something i had always wanted!!!! i had gone for a consultation a year before and nerves got the better of me and year on i was still feeling the same about my boobs so went for it and couldnt be happier now!

I say go for it hun just think about what you want not what any1 else thinks!!! dont do what i did and wait a whole year to still have the same feelings

go for it hun it will be the best thing u ever did

You girls have helped me so much xxxx

Tanitao2 – we could be life twins, haha!

Thanks so much girls xxx

staciejane – that’s it, I think if I do not go ahead I will not be able to stop thinking about it! It has taken me years to actually decide I want it done!!

What size did you have hun? xx

haha glad to have helped be happy in your choice, enjoy the excitement. No one knows you, like you xxx

I had 460s dual plane(partials) on tuesday and im feeling fab!

Honestly tracy id just go for it! I let the guilt get me and now i just think why didnt i get them done last year! (and i got married without them in may 2)

I saw mr dabernig and mario and the 1st thing they both said is that they were perfect! this made me feel bad again but they both said they were perfect as in the shape and nipples but quite flat!

If you dont do it now you’ll end up doing it later like me!

Have a look at my pics there a few on already there not huge just right for me once there settled i know there be fab!

staciejane you look fab, thanks for adding me.

I think we are similar before but I guess mine are slightly fuller but a bit flat on top. You have inspired me, thanks so much for replying to my post xx

aww im glad hun xxxxx keep us updated on how it goes xxxxxxx

I will keep you updated, thanks xx

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I put this off for about 6 years iming and ahhing because im a 32B so yes have something but never been able to wear the tops iv wanted to always been self consious and covered up and it does affect your sex life for sure, I have been feeling so guilty not that I want it done but over the money as I keep thinking well that could go off the mortgage but you gota do what you gota do,I just cant live with it any longer, Good luck hun xx

Mr Traynor said similar to me. Not that my breasts were beautiful, he said I was crazy! I still went through with it though because I had an imbalance in size.

I like Mr Traynor – you have no pressure what so ever to book up when you see him – he says it like it is. Did he give you sizes etc? Because if he really didn’t think you needed a BA he would refuse? It’s normal to feel guilty but at the end of it all you’ll be so pleased with your new assets. X

Not that I’m saying you “need” a BA – that was worded wrong, I didn’t mean that in a nasty way! Still groggy from the painkillers and lack of sleep last night!! X

Petite Snowball – don’t worry I know what you mean. Don’t get me wrong, he didn’t say he wouldn’t do it just that he thought I was mad and that there was nothing wrong with my boobs! He didn’t really recommend a size to me tho and I expected him to?! He sort of said between 260 and 380 but that is such a big difference isnt it!

Have you just recently had your op then? What did you have? xx

My surgeon said that to me but I was a 32a. Didn’t stop me though, Still went ahead. It’s to please you at the end of the day and you shouldn’t feel guilty for wanting to feel better about yourself!!! xxx

I’m going through the same thing! has taken me years to decide about having them done. I’m a 34/32B. a good gel bra and they look ok, but like most have said i avoid some clothing. I had a tummy tuck 5 yrs ago cos i didnt like my belly poking out further than my boobs. i have a flat tummy now but still not happy with my boobs. Having children etc. This guilt feeling is what is putting me off. x x

I’m going through the same thing! has taken me years to decide about having them done. I’m a 34/32B. a good gel bra and they look ok, but like most have said i avoid some clothing. I had a tummy tuck 5 yrs ago cos i didnt like my belly poking out further than my boobs. i have a flat tummy now but still not happy with my boobs. Having children etc. This guilt feeling is what is putting me off. x x

I feel exactly the same, I can put on a super padded bra and have a good cleavage so I should be grateful but after about 15 years of wishing I think I’m just going to go for it!!

I think you should do it, everyone on here seems so happy and don’t seem to have any regrets xx

Tracy – take it from another Tracy, us girls are never happy with what we’re born with and my hubby keeps telling me I don’t need them done because they are perfect as they are (more than a handful is a waste blah blah).

I am sure he is right, I’m a 34b and they are fine, nothing wrong with them. But why should we settle with ‘okay’? What’s to stop us from making them absolutely fantastic!

Just think, wearing a boob tube without a bra, or a strapless dress, the bikinis which never give you a cleavage and of course, the t*t f*ck you were never be able to do lol (hubby has mentioned this one of course)!! 😆

now thats funny tracyface pmsl

But of course you are right. think it is great to hear this from other people. I dont feel so alone. x x

tracyface – oh yes the other half’s say they love us as they are but Im sure they won’t be complaining afterwards either 😆 – made me laugh tho.

You girls are fantastic – I knew coming on here would help put my mind at rest, and it has I AM GOING TO GO AHEAD WOOO WOOO WOOOO!!

Jamber – pm me if you want to chat anytime xx

Hey just think if n when u have ur op ur never really gonna see the surgeon again after maybe for a check up but that’s it. Who care what the surgeon thinks, not his body xxx

Hey Tracey

I got that too why are u getting a boob job u already have boobs etc etc and I thought to myself it doesn’t matter If I have boobs or not surgery isn’t there specifically for people who are really flat chested it’s for anyone that feels unhappy with them regardless!

At the end of the day I just thought to myself “fck u all” lol and went and done it.

I want to be able to wear bikinis etc and not feel embarrassed or inadequate to anyone else.

Go for it, u deserve it xx

Thanks lisadd xx

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