New dilemma!!!

Hi girls,

Just wondered if anyone had the same mixed feelings before their BA! I thought I was finally 100% decided to have a BA but with 10 weeks away am now starting to doubt it. I’m not telling people and I really don’t want it to be obvious afterwards that I’ve had it done, especially at work. Someone at work suggested that I buy a mega padded bra and wear that to work in Dec andthen when I come back in Jan people may not notice as much. So yesterday I bought a mega padded cheap bra from Primark which promises to make you 2 cup sizes bigger without surgery lol, Well I put it on and looked completely ridiculous like Jordan. my OH could not stop laughing and I was completely embarressed just in front of him let alone walking outside like that!! I’m now starting to question whether or not to even go through with it as they will likely end up even bigger than this as technically the bra made me a C!

My main reasons for wanting bigger boobs is for when I’m naked lol and when I’m in a bikini, particularly on hols, I would love to sunbathe topless. But to be honest for the rest of the year I’m quite happy with my boobs in clothes as feel they suit my frame……it would be nicer to have bigger boobs for going out in the evening but to be honest with a 15mth old I rarely go out anymore.

Really sorry for long rant, I’m sooooo confused now. Help!!! is this just nerves…..xx

Try to remember why you wanted them dine in the first place. I rarely go out now cos of work but I didnt want a ba so that I could say ‘hello boys’ on a night out, I wanted them for myself- so that even daytime outfits would look and feel nice. Even plain tshirts looked crap before I had my boobs done.

I’m not telling people besides a select few and am a bit worried about people at work noticing, but I’m gonna phase them on slowly with baggy clothes..luckily it’s winter soon lol.

My feelings are that life is too short and you’re a long-time dead for you not to have what you want here and now. If you can change something about yourself and it’s gonna make you a better person for it, do it.xx

That just totally hit the nail on the head dondon go girl!! I’ve had same feelings I’ve got 13 weeks yesterday and going through the same! X

i think its natural to have mixed feelings… since booking my BA, i have had simular feelings… I have a beautiful floaty top that actually looks good with no boobs… and i started to feel a bit guilty coz i thought the BA cost could of been spent on taking the kids to disney land or a new car… but, then i remember how having a flat chest has effected my since my teen years. How i have to dress around my boobs. How embarressed i felt in a bikini on holiday… like dondon said; lifes too short ~ you know that when you’ve had your BA, it’ll be the most fantastic thing you’ve done for yourself. xx

Thanks girls – I think that’s the problem dondon I’m starting to question if my reason is enough. We’re all booked up to go on our first family holiday abroad in June next year, I’m really excited to be taking our little boy on a plane etc for the first time but all I kept thinking about was sitting by a pool with my padded bikini on enviously eyeing up the other ladies boobies lol….the thing is I’ve always had these boobs but I haven’t always felt this way about them. In fact I’ve always quite liked having small boobies and only occasionally wished they were bigger. However since having my little boy I want to change everything, boobs, lipo on thighs etc but to be honest my post pregnancy body hasn’t really changed from my pre pregnancy body so don’t know why I feel so depressed.

Also sometimes I just wonder if I want to do it because I’ve been looking forward to it so much, researching it to death and because I’ve told a few people and stupidly feel like I’d be letting them down if I didn’t do it now….Ooooo honestly my head is a mess today lol.

I felt fine about things last week, its ever since I put that stupid bra on and looked ridiculous. xx

I have got my BA tomorrow and Even though ive wanted this for 14 + years i still have the “am I doing the right thing” but hell yeah I am. Im going through with it. Its just a natural issue all us girls have. You will be fine. In the end do it for you and dont worry about the comments. Bloody hell I get them all the timenow even joke emails sentto me with pics. They are just jelouse. xx

julieanne4 – thanks for your comment, I think you’re right its nerves kicking in – Imagine what I’ll be like over Xmas lol. I’m just dealing with all the guilt and stuff now, obviously it’s a lot of money and it could be spent in other ways but then I think my little boy isn’t lacking for anything. I certainly don’t spoil him but if he needs something he will get it….I think it’s also partly to do with the fact that I booked it for 4th Jan as thought I’d have saved enough to pay it off etc but forgot about Xmas/NY and everyones bday lol!! and now have to put about £1500 on a credit card so feel like that will also hang over my head in the new year.

Charlottepink – completely understand your comment re top, it’s silly things like that that I keep thinking of. Certain tops that look better with no boobs. Also doesn’t help when ‘friends’ keep saying ‘oh you do realise that you will look fat after!’ x

Julieanne4 – sorry hun forgot to say good luck tomorrow – where are you going? x

Thanks. Im at highgate. If you gain more confidence then youl be a better person so its a win win situation. You deserve it. xx Im a size 14/16 so not the normal for this but hey. Ive had 5 kids and lost 5 stone so I dont care. Im worth it. Ha Ha plus 2 of my daughters have had them done so why not me.xx

hi hun, i never had a problem with my boobs untill after my daughter was born and right up untill the minute i went down to theatre i was racked with guilt, i thought i should have been spending the money on her, then my mum said ”that child wants for nothing you have to do this for yourself or you’l regret it”.

mammy’s are always right as mine likes to remind me every so oftern lol.

best thing i ever did ive got so much more confidence i went on hols felt fantastic i take my little girl swimming now which id never have done before, so she is benifiting from it.

dont feel guilty put yourself 1st for a change you wont regret it afterwards that i can promise you xx

Mixed feelings are natural hun, I have my BA tomorrow and am really regretting it today. But it’s something I have wanted for so long I know when I am there tomorrow I will be fine. You are doing it for yourself to make yourself feel better and more confident. And if people really want to comment on your boobs after, then they are just jealous that they have not got the guts to go through with it. xx

debs30 – your mum sounds amazing! I think you might have hit the nail more on the head with me as my mum is dead against cosmetic surgery so haven’t told her and don’t plan to….if she does ever find out which I guess is a high probability in the future she will be so dissapointed in me.

julieanne4 – I’m at Highgate, who are you having? that’s great that you have two daughters who have had it done, must be very reassuring and FIVE KIDS bloody hell, I struggle with one lol. Who cares that you don’t conform to a size 8/10 you’ve lost 5 stone that’s an amazing achievement in itself!

Kirst78 – you’ve got this far don’t regret the decision now lol. Good luck for tomorrow, are you also at Highgate? x

Thanks hun,Yes I am at Highgate the same as Julianne, I am having Marian Grob.x

Oh my friend is having her on the 10th Jan – how exciting, I have heard really good things about her. I’m due to have Mr Adamo on the 4th Jan at Highgate x

I will add pics as soon as able and you can see her work then lol. January will fly by and you’ll be having your op before you know it 😆 x

Missy I know exactly the big padded bra’s your talking about in Primark…big word MAXIMUM going across the hanger ya?!!

Well here the story with them…

I have been wearing them bra’s for the last year (thats how long they are in primark) but wearing one’s nearly as big for the previous 7 years with my 245cc implants.

I then went to get my 485 implants and my surgeon promised me I would look bigger than I did with the Maximum bra on.

That was not the case, I am smaller!

But if you are not used to wearing those type of maximum bra’s they can feel like you are huge and they have alot of side boob but they are not anything like what implants will be so don’t worry.

I reckon you are a good candidate for implants because you are not trying to achieve ridiculous over the top size like me and maybe a few others on here so you will not be disappointed with your results afterwards and wishing your got really big implants and like me out buying more of those Maximum bra’s in DD/E now to look like im a G… oh the madness of it all!!!!! lol

Relax hun, you will be beautiful and will be wearing nice light material bra’s after your BA so wont be looking like the MAXIMUM effect those bra’s give.

My boyfriend always says I tricked him when we met coz I was wearing those maximum type bra’s…little did he know there were 2 fried eggs underneath!! hee hee

So don

laussie – that is exactly the bra I bought, honestly my boyfriends eyes popped out of his head! Its funny because I put it on and then thought ok I’ll go outside and wash the car and see how they feel and I forgot about it within about 2 secs lol (probably as padding is not as heavy as implants!) but then I kept catching sight of myself in the car window and literally looked like Jordan, christ knows what the neighbours must of thought! lol.

it has made me think if I do it perhaps I should just stick with the 275’s that will give me the perfect C?!?! I just keep thinking will they be too small. He said I could comfortably go up to 365’s which to me sounds huge and so many girls are saying to go with the max they offer and I know you were telling me that your first implants just felt lost inside your body after the skin had stretched.

This is all so confusing, really don’t want to get it wrong!! xx

Hi hun,

I’m exactly the same. I’ve wanted them done for a decade and have finally decided to take the plunge. i too hate being topless and wearing a bikini as it takes me out of my comfort of gel bras, and the gel bikinis I’ve found are awful, tacky looking.

I’m due to have surgery on Nov 8th and I’m proper scared, one minute I’m like woohoo can’t wait then next I’m like “what am I doing” and cant decide between 2 sizes (340cc & 365cc HP I’m currently a 32c) as it’s my fear to wake up and them be ridiculously big.

However, how I’m looking at it it is that I don’t like them as they are now, so they can’t look any worse, I feel I have a boys chest atm so surely after the op atleast I will feel more feminine and not have to live in gel bras.

I hope all goes well for you, can I add you??

Hugs Jo xx

Wow Nov 8th, where and with who hun? not long now then!! I know exactly what you are saying as I keep saying the same thing, I’m not happy now when naked/holiday etc so surely it can’t be worse – fingers crossed!!!

No probs with adding hun, good luck with your op xx

I knooooow!! It’s come around sooooo quick as I went for my initial consultation back in June, but wanted to get my holiday out of the way first before the op to give the scars plenty of time to heal.

I’m having the op at Highgate with Dr. Chantrasak and booked in as a day case and staying at a nearby hotel, am lucky as my best friend is having done the same day also with Dr. C eeeeek!!!

Same question to u hun, oooh and just added you xx

O crampy can u let me no how it goes at highgate as im avin mr c there in december! xxx

Just accepted you hun, I’m at highgate with Dr Adamo on the 4th Jan – 10 weeks to go….I had my initial consultation in April!!! so although 10 weeks prob sounds alot to most people to me it feels surreal that it coming around so fast.

No drinks for me over NY or my bday on the 3rd lol!! you are really lucky that you are on the same day and the same surgeon as a friend. My friend is having hers done at Highgate the following week but she is using Dr Grob, would have been nice to have been in together. I feel a bit like the guinea pig going first lol xx

awww bless you!! I almost went with Dr Adamo, he seemed a lovely guy, it was a toss between the two!

Ahhh be the guinea pig hun, that way when ur starting to recover your friend has it all to come and will wish she went first haha!

Wow, you’ve been waiting longer than I have!! exciting times!!

As for drinkys I’m sure you will make up for it after the op that way you can have 2 new year bash ups xx

oh and kerry, wil do hun xxx

yeah that’s true!! so excited and nervous already…..have you bought any Macom bra’s? am thinking of buying these soon as just can’t wait lol, 15% off if you put mybreast in the discount code xx

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