off topic–controlled crying?

my 8 month old baby wakes all night sometimes every hour, the HV and doc have both said controlled crying is the key, but it kills me listening to him cry, today is day 1 and he’s in his cot screaming, he was exhausted so i put him in his cot 30 mins ago, have been in at 5 mins then 10 mins later then 15 mins later, he’s showing no sign of sleeping, any advice welcome xxx

Hello hun, my son was exactly the same and is not 20 months and almost sleeping through, its so hard listening to them cry but it wont take long till he gets the idea, maybe some music would help, i had a winnie the poo one that sang twinkle twinkle as well as light up lights on the celing. you could also try stroking his face or arm to help him sooth or put a bit of clothing that smells like you in the cot with him may help xx

it takes time hun trust me it works, it prob will take about a week to see results good luck i know its hard but you have to persevere and stick to it xx

cheers girls,40 mins later and he’s asleep ) night time will be a challenge im sure, not sure my fella’s backing me 100% though, will be putting him straight!! lol,

xxx

Remember you rule the child, the child does not rule you. If they are not in pain and are fed, watered, clean and dry leave them to cry. Obviously not all the time because that would be cruel. And yesI have 2 kids, both that slept straight through from 6 weeks old. It’s hard but so worth it for both parties. Xxxx

hi hun i know how u fell i had 11 months of sleepless nites with my son he is now 15 months old. at 11 months i let him cry for ten mins n since then he has slept all night every night, i know its hard to let ur baby cry but trust me it works xx gd luck hunni xx

Hi I do know how you feel too. My 2yrs old just wouldnt go down before 10pm and then up at 6pm. I was listening to the Super Nany one night on TV telling a woman how to deal with the problem. She said “give me 5 days of your life to ensure the rest of your life is good” and I was like, yeah, right.

But needs must and I tried it. Took her upstairs around 7.45. 1st night was hard, but 30 mins in she was exhausted and so was I….its not easy hearing you little precious cry like that. 2nd night, 15 mins and by the 3rd night she was asking to go upstairs!

NOW, she goes up at 730 reads stories, talks to her toys and then 8pm lights out until 630am this next day.

Its hard but well worth sticking to it. They only create because its NOT there normal routine and then the new way becomes routine and then you get a little bit of your life/evening back.

Good luck, thoughts with you.

Sharron

hey well he slept for 20 mins, its a start i guess, fingers crossed for tonight! xxxx

Stay strong and keep going with it! Tell your bloke he needs to support you in every way! Having his support will help, just try and stay calm! I used to think, well, if I can still hear you, your alright!! Lmao! Try it for at least a few days Hun! Xx

i done this too..its abso horrific at the time but should only take a week and you’ll see it working! just dont lift him make eye contact or speak to him…i used to stroke my babys face tho and shhhhh him and rub his back and it settled him a bit, only took 4 nights for me..glad i done it coz he was up 6 times a nite for a breastfeed lol! good luck x

Definately do it, my daughter woke up every hour for a feed, but would literally drink half ounce then go asleep again, so she wasnt hungry. It was for comfort. I tried a dummy but she wouldnt have it. So I read up on the controlled cryin. It guaranteed to take 3 nites and theyl sleep through on the 4th. I didnt have much faith, but was so exhausted i d give anythin a go,. U have to do a bed time routine, same time every nite. Tea, bath book then bed, say gd nite, kiss etc. Leave the room, then depending on if they go straight asleep and wake up, or just dont sleep, u have to go in lie them down with no speaking or interaction wot so ever. Go in 5 mins later each time, 5, 10, 15, 20 etc. Its really hard to hear them cry constant for say 40 mins, but its the only way they learn. My ex couldnt bear it and on the second nite stayed at his friends! But just remember they arent in pain or in harm, they r tryin to control u. After 3 long sleepless nites and very tired days, on the 4th, my daughter didnt wake up til 8am. Shes 6 now and shes never woke up in the nite since! Gd luck, stick with it. Its sooooo worth it! xxx

ladies we done it! max always has the same bed time routine, dinner, bath, quiet time, sleep,he always goes down like an angel, but then would wake up from 10ish on wards, i knew he wasnt hungry coz he was only drinking an oz at most… so last night we all went to bed at 730, he woke at 1010pm and cried for 40 mins, checked him at 5 mins then 10 later then 15 later, didnt make it to 20 as he had fallen asleep, then he woke at 230am and only cried for 5 mins and then at 5am again and only cried for 5 mins, we got up at 7am!! feeling super chuffed with myself and him, feel like iv taken control again, thanks for all your support! have changed my profile piccy so you can all have a peek at my little monkey xxxxxxx

Woo hoo!! Good for you Hun!! He is a lil cutie tho!! It’s hard to resist when they look at you and you just melt! Lol! Well done! Keep going with it xx

last night he slept all night long may it last xxxx

Well done honey.xxx

Well done hunni, it is hard, i was fortunate my little girls slept thru the night from 6 days old, but we did have some night when she was 9 months, so kept a strict routine every night, put her down at 7pm and leave her. I never went in. First nite was 45 minutes. But by day 3 she was going down at 7, straight to sleep. She would wake 5am, i go in check her and lay her back down and leave her. One night she feel asleep standing up leaning against the cot. But i hate hearing her cry, but my hubby was strong, so he would make sure i didnt give in. xxx

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