Off topic- cyber cheating :(

Found out my fiancé has been going on a dating website, his profile says he ” wants to fool around n is feeling naughty”.

I had my suspicions months ago n he denied it, I finally hacked the account n seen he has deleted all the messages.

I don’t know wot to do, we’ve been together 4 years n have a 2 year old girl, we’ve done nothing but argue for months n this is the icing on the cake. Icant trust him, I cant bear to think wot else he’s lied about.

Plz help am I over-reacting? Xx

Your not over reacting at all! He obviously had all the wrong intentions when he created that profile what a dick xhugx

No your not over reacting,he will convince you he has done nothing wrong because he is just chatting,but if the situation was reversed he wouldnt like it,you can handle this in a couple of ways,1. to sit him down and ask him why he feels the need to do this,is he unhappy in your relationship and looking for kicks elsewhere,be direct he wont expect it,2. join the same site yourself snd add him as a friend,boy what a shock he would get,lets face it if its innocent there shouldnt be a problem you been on the same site,and I can imagine you would gain a lot more interest than he would,xxx

He admitted to setting up the profile but said he was just trying to find dirty pictures n that he’s done nothing wrong but there’s loads that still doesn’t add up.

I gave him bk my engagement ring, I don’t know wot he can do to make it up to me.

Help girls xx

OMG …. OMG …. OMG……. Babes – big hugs to you.. and for him I’m sorry he wud get a kick in the bollox, his ring shoved up his arse and a fuckoff tablet.!!! So sorry to be blunt… I wud have no man cheating on me. No way!!

Deedee ur a lovely person a lovely girl AND I bet my bottom dollar ur a fantastic mum – well frankly darling you deserve to be treated like a princess! xxxxxxx

Dont let anyone treat you any other way xxxcxxxxx

Wot I can’t get in my head, is it cheating? Ugh I’m such a mess :,,,(

I’;d be gutted if my hubby did that to me. I’d feel heartbroken. In my eyes the intention to cheat is there as he wants to fool around…. oh i will shut up sorry Dee x

Hiya hun, wherever it is its disrespectful, and hes obviously not thought about u or how ud feel. its very selfish. Its like hes done it to get attention from others to boost his ego and get compliments if you two have been arguing. i hate it when men are suck nob heads if we did that it would be oh what a slag, silly bitch! etc etc if he just wanted to get pics like he said he can just luk on the internet doesnt have to actually join a dating site.

Men are like kids as soon as somthing isnt just rite in the relationship they dont know how to handle it so instead of talking they do stupid things that just end up making it worse x

u gave your engagment ring back?! ugh id keep it lol. He has oviously done somthing wrong! deffinetly! would he like it if you was on a site looking at men flirting?? im sure he would go mad and wouldnt stop going on about it! let him no your really serious about it! so he doesnt do it again… or dont even give him a chance to do it again. say u want some space, make him realise what he’s missing!

Chin up xxx

oh honey this is grim …there are a lot of men who get tempted to have a nose about …if he wanted to look at dirty pics he does not need to join a site …i have been on dating sites and have come across a couple of married men …who lied about being married/engaged …i think they feel they need to see if they have still got it …but not actually go through with any thing …there is a rush they most prob get flirting with someone….but its still no excuse …if he wants a spark in his life then he should of turned to you and focused on you ….speaks volumes to how he communicates with you and i hope you tell him that ….did the arguing start when you were thinking of having a boob job….do you think he is worried …jealous even ….its still no excuse for what he has done …

just remember when you talk to him about this that you talk about what you know ….he lied about being on the site …has deleted messages(what they were about you will never know,but his actions do not bode well)that you two seem to be arguing and that what he has done has made you very unhappy you have lost faith and trust in him and you would like him to try and talk to you about this as if he cant then there is no going forwards …..you have a daughter together ,his actions have a knock on affect not just to you but also your little girl ..but men do think diffrently …when you are talking (and i mean talking not shouting ,dont raise your voice to his)he tries to blame you and put the fault on to you ,then remind him gently that he should of spoken to you rather than join a site and it is the fact that his actions are the reason that you two are having this chat in the first place.its not going to be resolved over night ,there will be no one word conclusion ,if he needs time to sort out what he wants then as hard and as horrid as it is then that is what you will have to do ….as until you know where you stand with him then you cannot move forwards either with him or without him …sorry for the ramble i feel for you …pm me on face book if you need a chat xxx

I’d hav kept the ring if it was worth anything but it was a piece of cheat tin from Argos that I had to choose myself.

Things have been bad for a while I think this is the straw that broke the camels back.

Thanks girls xx

im really against even my bf looking at porn or pics on internet cause of how i felt about myself b4 i kno sum ppl dnt mind., i used to go on my exs pc n find porn sites in the history n he wud deny it saying it must have been his brother looking..yeah rite! but even tho he knew how much it upset me he wud still do it. my bf now, i found he had searched for it etc and i had a big do with him and he claims now that he doesnt look, and when ive checked history when hes been in shower (hehe) ive not found owt, so if he does look at least i dnt find owt or kno hes doin it x

oh,. good thinkin, id make him buy u another expencive ring to make up for it and then do a runner! lol. only joking, but i wouldnt except him doing that, youve oviously lost your trust from him now, dont let him get away with it!! xx

I would do what Tina said hun………Join the site, if only to piss him off!! whats good for one is good for the other! Let him see how much interest you get. x x

Feel so sad for you. You deserve better! What a loser! He has a lot of making up to do! Xxx

hes a twat n u deserve better!!!! get rid, u and ur kid dont need a tosser like that in ur life. tell him u know and that if the shoe was on the other foot im pretty sure he wud be giving u hell for it… if he wants dirty pics then why not google image fanny or tits!!! hes pathetic and u can do so much better. be strong, be confident and tell him u wud rather marry a grubby old dog as its no worse than he is, except it wudnt cheat on u!!!! keep the ring as compensation and kick him out!!1 good riddence xxxx

If he was not doing something wrong he would of said ‘Babe, I am signing up to a dating website.’

When is that ever right?

I swear this happens more often than it should on this forum, people keep saying that their partners have been unfaithful etc. This really is awful!

At least now you have new assetts, I know my partners lust for me completely changed when I had mine done. So let him know what he is missing out on!

What a tosser!

susielicious: hahaha. google fanny and tits lol. put it blunt lol

Better yet surely he could ask you for dirty pics!

Still dont know wot to do girls. He said he did itbecause he was bored at work n wanted to find some dirty pics as he couldn’t get porn on his phone. But then why bother putting on a profile pic n saying u wanna fool around? To me it’s the same as getting someone’s number at a bar n sending dirty pics to each other. Porn doesn’t bother me but this is totally different. The thought of him talking dirty to other girls n getting off on it is making me feel sick. He’s still lying about how long he was using it for etc.

I hate him for this :,(

No wonder deedee he has betrayed ur trust and made u feel like ur not enough for him. Im sure we would all feel the same in ur situation. U either need to have a conversation and find out what he’s thinking and if u think u can put it behind u then fine but if not then it might be time to call it a day. U dnt wanna be paranoid everytime his phone goes or when he’s at work or on a computer let along trust him when hes out with his mates. Hope ur ok xx

You poor thing. I wd be falling apart. I’m already insecure. You’ll have to be brave and strong and talk it thru with him and see if you can make it through this. If he can help and make it up to you then maybe give him a chance? But you’ll feel fragile. If you and he can really talk it thru and resolve it then maybe you can have a fresh start and things be better than they were. He does owe you the reassurance tho. Be a brave girl xxxx

This is so upseting ‘(

You’ll get through it Deedee.

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Such a shit situation hun! Like anchovie said you need to talk things through but he needs to be completely honest about absolutely everything. You need to make it clear to him that if he’s not then you cant trust him, and if he is truthful about everything you need to decide if you can forgive him. I hope you sort things out, whether you stay with him or not you need to be positive around your lil one. Remember you always have us girls here if you need to chat xx

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