Off Topic – Pregnant Again :(

Hi girls,

Basically to cut a long story short I’ve been having terrible stomach cramps for the past week and I’ve been feeling really light headed so I thought I’d do a pregnancy test just as a precaution even though I’ve been on the pill since having the contraceptive implant removed and it came up positive this evening! I can’t believe this has happened to me again for the third time I was stupid to go back on the pill after all the problems I’ve had with it anyway Just can’t believe I have to go through all this again….having said that, has anyone been failed by the pill? If so what did you do about it? I really need a better solution…I swear to god at this rate I’m going to get my tubes cut! I’m absolutely devastated, this is just too much

Dolly, i dunno how to say this without being blunt but if you dont wanna get pregnant why dont you use condoms? If the pill doesnt work for you then maybe go on the injection? or just condoms an the pill?

I’ve considered the injection but my Mother says its bad for you. Your right though, maybe I should just start using condoms…but I just hate them so much! Maybe I’ll go for the coil next time…..I just never expected this to happen again! It’s not normal

I was thinking the same flicky. How does she no it bad for you dolly? Surely it’s better than keep having abortions x

Ive been with my bf almost 5 years an even though weve been together that long i make sure he uses one aswell as me being on the pill, im in no position to have a baby an dont think i could make a decision like that so the only way to get around having to do that is always be protected especially if ur not in a relationship, yeah condoms may sometimes be a mood killer but they only take a few seconds to put on an will save alot of heartache until your ready for a baby

Hey dolly I no so many people who have the injections including my mum and been on it for many years and they all have been fine x

Also you dont wanna catch any sti’s or std’s!

hun u deffo need 2 use condoms!! or go on the injection? if it was bad 4 u it wouldn’t be on offer as a suitable contraception for millions of women worldwide…

If the injection was bad for u they wouldn’t b aloud to give it to anyone. I am gonna b honest here but if u have fallen pregnant twice before and had to have abortions did u not learn from those that u wud do anything to not let that happen again? I have to agree with flicky1 I have also been with my bf 8 years and am not in a position to support a baby so ensure we use protection to prevent this. x

I’m on the injection and I’m fine. also agree with flicky1, I always use condoms with my Fiancé aswell as being on the injection, because I’m not ready for children any time soon x

At the risk of sounding crude, I just feel like sex with condoms is like doing it with a plastic bag

I suppose I’ll have to consider the injection then…this can’t keep happening! ;(

As for std’s I get checked regularly and only sleep with people I trust

Reiterating what Flicky said I’m in no position to have a baby…I would be a rubbish Mother and I’m only 19!!

Lol I’d rather have sex usin a plastic bag if it stopped me getting preggers lol x

dolly i can totally understand where ur coming from with the plastic bag!! ewwww they are horrible and i don’t really like using them, but they now sell the ultra light ones, which are very thin and they feel great using condoms has got 2 be better than aborting ur own child 3times?? @ the age of 19!! but hey who am i 2 judge x

plastic bag? maybe there wearing one too big lol na but seriously go docs an ask for a diff contraception if the pills not working x

I know it sounds silly but I just don’t enjoy it as much

Eurgh, I’m going for a spa weekend tomorrow so I guess I’ll have to deal with it on Monday and ask about the injection too! What the hell is wrong with me

Lol no its not that the condom is too big, this guy is works in porn, I just find them so yucky!

sorry to hear about this dolly hope ur ok. i have had a coil for 3 years and have never had any problems its great u dont even know its there and i have had the injection too. just rem if ur not ready to have a baby no pill or inj is 100 percent safe so always use a condom or second contraceptive. xx

the coil, the jag, implant, contraceptive patch, condoms, female condoms, the list is endless… I’d say the pill is got to be the most unreliable form…u can be sick, forget to take it then bang look what happens. I think you need to speak to someone about your longterm plans for contraception x

Thanks girls. I think my main options are the coil and the injection…or maybe both if they let me! I just can’t take this stupid drama anymore!

well i hope u make the right decision for you and don’t get 2 down about it chic x

I had a marina coil it was brilliant, you need to look after yourself honey, you can’t keep having abortions it may cause problems in the future when you are ready to have babies, a life is so precious, be careful.. X

I don’t think I’ll ever want kids but your so right natlou in case I want to! Silly me x

Why did u have ur implant removed? I have an implant and its been brill, no pills or injections no worrys and it lasts 3 years, I been on pill too and it made me really fat and go psycho lol, I say get the implant again, the pill is too much of a fuss cause ya only have to miss one pill or take it wrong time of the day, the pill really messes with your system, I’ve heard the coil is okay too x

My aunty had 2 wen she was younger and said she didn’t want kids, she met her husband Got married and started trying it never happend, even with 4 attempts at ivf. You never no Wot the future brings hun u may decide 1 day that you do want kids just be careful hun, have a good talk to the doc and find a method that’s going to be reliable for you x

I had it removed because I’ve been bleeding irregularly for the past couple of months and it was interfering with my sex life. I may have to get it again, but I guess I’ll have to talk to the doctor on Monday….a very nice lady messages me on here and said that I could be producing too much of a certain hormone which makes my body want to have a baby so certain methods of contraception may not work…eurgh, me of all people!

Beckie90 that’s so bad! But it’s going to be a looooong time before I can even think about having kids. I want to be a lawyer, so I’m looking at 6 more years of studying and after that I’ be concentrating on my job…no time for kids, they’ll just hold me back. I just don’t know if I could deal with the drama of not being able to drink or smoke for 9 months and getting chubby, I just don’t think it’s for me. Your right though, never know what’s round the corner, but I really dislike relationships so I don’t see that happening anytime soon! (hopefully)

Thanks again for all your advice and support x

Might sound a bit dirty n the boys might not wanna do it but dont let them come inside you get them to pull out and do it on tissue or on your boobs or something, that alone isnt 100% reliable but if you carry on takin the pill the chances of getin pregnant are very slim, my boyfriend wont let of his liquids go inside me cause his worried about getin me pregnant but that methods worked for me for a year and a half lol xx

im a young mum (well i was 21) i got pregnant on the pill… twice. Didnt have a clue about babies, didnt like kids, never even held a baby before, hated dolls as a kid. Was terrified Considered abortion both times but couldnt do it and now im so glad i didnt. When they were born the feeling was unbelievable, no word of a lie its like winning the lottery 10 times over u feel so proud and it never ever goes away, what to do all comes natural. My first daughter possibly saved my life and my son is the real equivalent of stewie griffin lol. I lost my dad to cancer in jan and it absolutely devastated me i do not know how i wud have carried on it was my kids that kept me going. I was his only child he loved me n his grand children very much and im so glad now that he got to meet them. My kids want for nothing, im on my own and i get no help from anyone but my kids get more than alot do that have big families… who needs a man. There dad was a horrible violent tosser and the biggest regret of my life and im well shut of him now but i did get two absolutley brilliant healthy children they always seem to be happy and behave well i wudnt swap them for all the money in the world I am so proud and i never thought i would but ive found someone else who i really love and get on well with, he works away alot but when hes home hes brilliant with my kids. Ive got the mirena coil now it is very effective. Id love to have another baby one day and worry about not being able to if i dont soon as ive now only got one ovary but dont want anymore man complications. You will know whats best for you and make the right decision xx

Subaru that’s a lovely post and yes u r so right. My kids are my world as well but I had them when I was 26 and 30. I had an abortion at 16, which I don’t regret I was far too young back then and had no interest in kids. I learnt my lesson though I will never put myself in that position again. Dolly I work in a Solicitors I’m a legal exec and we have 5 solicitors out on maternity leave at the moment lol! U can have a career and kids in this day and age although I know u r not ready yet at 19. I was 25 b4 I had any interest in having them at which point I’d been in a stable relationship for 7 years. I want my fella to have the snip now lol but he wont! x

I was on the pill when got pregnant with both my son and daughter, was only 18 when happened with my son (19 when finally had him) then fell pregnant again while on the pill at 20 (had my daughter when 21). I never even considered abortion (not judging just my choice) as had/have an amazing partner and knew I was ready. My kids are the most precious thing in my world bring the best happiness could ever imagine.

But I do now use condoms and we’ve been together 8years to stop the risk of pregnancy, yeah is a mood killer having to stop for him to put it on but it’s what worth it. I would love more kids but want to give the two I’ve got a great life without being financially stretched. Xx

I’ve been on the injection 3 years now. Never bled since my 1st one and don’t get pmt. it’s amazing. Can’t quite believe u have already had 2 abortions and not sorted it out before. Go to your gp or family planning and get something more long term than the pill that u won’t forget about

I didn’t forget though, I was taking it properly I have a reminder every single day for me to take it….eurgh why am I so fertile.

Thing is girls, I’ve always been given everything and anything while growing up; my parents gave me an amazing lifestyle and there’s just no way I can do the same for any potential children. I just don’t think it’s fair and I know the guilt would never leave me

sorry to hear that ur pregnant hun im only 21 n have a 21month old son n i can honestly say hand on my heart he is the best things thats ever happened to me, NOBODY is ever really ready when they start thinking about children u just learn to deal with it babes. do consider ur options carefully with this one before u dive straight in to abortion hun. And if u decide abortion is ur option i hope u find a form of contraception that will work for u in the future, good luck hun xx

I didn’t forget though, I was taking it properly I have a reminder every single day for me to take it….eurgh why am I so fertile.

Thing is girls, I’ve always been given anything and everything while growing up; my parents gave me an amazing lifestyle and there’s just no way I can do the same for any potential children. I just don’t think it’s fair and I know the guilt would never leave me

PS @liz31, my dad owns a solicitors and I never used to see him….still don’t when I visit home ;(

sorry ur pregnant hun, im 21 an have 1 21month old son, n i can honestly say hand on my heart he is the best thing thats happened to me, NOBODY is ever ready when it comes to children u just make urself its part of growing up. please please look at all the options before u dive into abortion again, if abortion is ur option then good luck finding a contraception that will b good for u xx Its not just the fact that ur gettin rid of possible lifes its for own health n sanity aswell babes i can only imagine that going thru an abortion may b quite stressful n upsetting x dont keep putting urself thru it x

I would say Defo try the coil hun! Everyone is deifferent how they react with different methods of contreseption I personally went up 3 dress sizes in three months on the injection and bleed everyday so soon came off that I then started taking the pill but would forget to take it at times and fell pregnant with my daughter who is now 7 I’d only been with my husband for 3 months when I fell pregnant and was only 21 so was scared and he was pushing for abortion but thankfully I couldn’t go through with it, it’s just not a option for me but I don’t judge anyone who does have them. Xxx

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