OMG WHY are people so nasty!!!!!!

hey, i have been lucky that most my friends have been supportive of me. (4 weeks post op from a B to a DD) and i think that anyone who is so horrible to you after you have been through that is probably not a friend worth having. it is definitely a case of jealousy no doubt about it, but i think the best approach first would be to talk to them about it before you disown them as friends.

i mean saying ‘you’re just jealous cos you’ve got saggy tits’ is just acting the same way towards the people who are acting that way to you and being just as bitchy as they are. its best to at least try to rise above it first or use a different approach first… like the girl friend who was fatter but had big boobs to start off with, she is probably feeling really insecure (just like we used to) because it was the one thing she had that made her feel attractive because she felt fat next to her friend. she is obviously dealing with it the wrong way though but maybe if you spoke to the friends you cared about and explained the reasons for doing it (lets face it most of us dont want to look like jordan!) they would realise about you more and change the way they act.

my boyfriend was dead set against me getting it done originally, and it started to cause problems in our relationship, but when i spoke to him about it, he eventually was honest and told me he thought i might get new boobs have loads of new found confidence and run away with another guy! i gave him a bit of reassurance and explained that it was for me, not for other guys, and since then we have grown so much closer he has been so supportive and he loves them now! people act these ways because they are insecure themselves and if you actually care or like the person then the best thing you can do is talk it out. it wont work all the time but i reckon its worth a try… x

Hon, don’t worry, let it all just wash over you. Are you happy – I guess you are – so that’s all that matters. People can be jealous and don’t know how to react. Mine are 9 days old and changing every day. My 17 year old daughter (who told me she would love to get hers done when she’s older) said to me yesterday, “i’m not being funny Mum but they look huge and too big for your frame, if people were to see you they know you’ve had a boob job” Charming!!! But you know what, f–k them all. I love me new boobies and my new shape. It’s no secret that I’ve had them done but equally, it’s nobodys goddam business either. Be proud my darling!!!! God, sorry for the rant, just get so annoyed when I hear this!!! Al XXXXXX

hey all, im having my op on 14th may and to be honest i havent given other people opinions much thought. i want this done for me and thats that!!! Although after reading your stories about friends not bothering with u anymore, i can already think of 2 people in my ring of friends that will be dead jealous!!! and do u know what, F**k um lol. Yes it is a bit disappointing when all u want is for them to be happy for u, and that you’re still the same person u were before u had the op … but seriously why care about what they think when theyve turned on u … narrow minded people comes to mind. maybe its just time and theyll come around after a bit, but i say why waste the time and effort … it’s theyre wrong doing after all! x

these girls are all very immature..

just dont mix with the people like this, also girls get jealous if they see u showing guys and talking to guys about them … because the attention is not on them.. so maybe to try and reduce the amount of nasty comments, dont talk about them in front of girls and guys. Not being nasty, just suggestions hun xxx

in fact i am going to post my own question about this! as i think my mates are being very strange with me recently ! X

I hate jealous ppl!! they are def jealous of you!! its weired cos since ive had mine done! i swear my friends don’t bother as much with me as they used to! i dont know if its me being para or maybe they are busy, but they never ever text me anymore or invite me out !!????? the only time i go out is with my twin sister, and then some mates tag along!” but i feel like i am a nobody! and have no friends anymore! my mate texted me the other day, just to ask to borrow some of my clothes and my old chicken fillets! (which she never ever used to wear?? ) and thats it! does my head in too!! i cant be arsed anymore and just going to find new friends! cos my old mates are all users! and now i realise thety have never been true friends ever! X

I agree Poppy – the words Boob Job do often have a stigma attached to them, but I have been open about it too, and told people why I’ve had them done, perhaps a bit too open about it but it was really important to me that people understood why I had them done. Hopefully in the future tho, I won’t need to tell and people will forget about my falsies!
Charlottec – the girl you refered to was my friend, and yes, that was/is entirely the reason why she loved her boobs, and great! But, she is someone I thought she would understand better than most why I had them done, nothing to do with her at all, and I am disappointed by her reaction. If this is the only reason why she has altered our friendship, then I am saddened for HER and thought she thought more of me than “just her slim friend with a flat-chest”. I thoguht I had supported her enough to help improve her self-esteem (joined the gym together, went swimming together (a painful experience for me but I did it), encouraged her to go on dates etc). Sorry, turned into a bit of a rant there!!
Perhaps it takes something as monumental as this to find out who our true friends are, and where the shallow people lie…. x

Yeah ive been dead open with people and ive literaly said ive had this done because i had two different sized boobs and i was desperatley unhappy with the way i looked and its for me too feel good about myself.
But most people here the words `Boob job` and think of you as a Jordan wannabe straight away, not that you could just be a normal average person who is deeeply insecure and self conscious about the way they look. And like people have said if it was anything else wrong with your body that you decided to get sorted out with surgery people dont judge you as much.
Im so happy with my new boobs and i may even go bigger, i wouldnt tell anyone though! At the end of the day im an adult and its my body if i want to do something that is going to make me happier then im going to do it if people like it or not.
My boy friend was also dead against me getting it done and didnt even like me talking about it, he just couldnt understand why i would put myself through it all just for boobs and now he loves them and i think he happy because im happier too.
You girls are amazing thanks x x x x x x

I had my BA last tuesday and its taken me 4/5 years to finaly go through with it and im sooooooooooo happy ive done it, last night i was at my sisters just having a chat she had some people round mainly lads and everybody wanted to see my boobs so i showed them (in a bra and a vest top)! and her friend was there who had natural 32e boobs and she was so rude towards me i was on the verge of slapping her! Since having my BA i have had loads and i mean loads of nasty little comments (mainly behind my back), people have started calling me jordan, tits, jugs. Im realy fed up of it now im so defensive over my new boobs i dont even like talking about them in front of people.
Has anybody else had similar experiences?
Id understand if i was walking round showing them off but i was wearing a baagy hoody yesterday with it zipped up to my neck!
Men seem to be more understanding than women and are more intrigued by the whole thing, women on the other hand have just been so damn rude towards me!
Next time i have surgery ill be keeping it to myself.
Im so glad i have this forum to talk to people on, i think i would have went crazy if i didnt. x x x x x

Thanks girls, your comments are lovely!
It just annoys me how people can be, you are all probablys right its probablys just jelousy!
I love my new boobs and i feel like a new person after having it done its done wonders for my confidence! Lol going to try my best not to care what others think!
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One word-jealousy!
I’ve had mainly good reactions to mine, but had two close friends who are so jealous they never even asked hw op went and won’t even talk about it!
On nights out is the worst really, I’m very slim (size 6), 21 years old and nw have 30e, long blonde hair so get called barbie, jordan etc which sometimes is in a complimentary way but some woman say it in a bitchy way!
They don’t realise how long it took us to save and the courage it takes to go through with it!
And friends with naturally big boobs hate it as attention isn’t on them as it normally is!
Just enjoy your boobs and ignore the comment
Xx

come on we will all stick 2geva

y are you bothered what ova ppl say there just jeleous just stick ur chest owt and say fuck u. thats why you got them done isnt it 2 show off your new boobs. bee proud xxxx

Its such a shame that women judge other women by the way they look, and perhaps if we were all a bit honest, our boobs wouldn’t have been such as issue to us if the society we lived in didn’t judge by looks… I have one friend who is the same height as me (5ft2), same name and we’ve known each other since we were about 5. However, we have very different body shapes – me, slim and flat-chested, her, curvy and big boobed! She was always going on at me about how slim I am (genetics, nowt else!), but knew I hated my boobs so woudl often make issue over her big uns! Fine, I was pleased she didn’t have the hang-ups I did so I let the comments ride. But, ever since she found out I was finally getting a ba, she has been really off, almost spiteful with her comments. So what I had to pay to get the body I wanted?! I’m not that proud about it but I had no choice! Other people’s jealousy is often linked to their own unhappiness, but if they won’t address it then don’t let them get to you, its not your problem. So chin up chicken, keep your head held high as it’s your life, not theirs!

I’ve had the same Poppy. Have lost a really good friend due to jealousy because I had mine done a bigger size that she did!! To be honest it makes me more determined to wear booby tops and stick them out as far as I can. All insecurity and jealousy from small minded people. x x x

i get this all the time as well hun….but i’ve go to the stage where i’d rather not have them as friends anymore!! i already have very little self confidence, and getting my boobs done the first time round helped me a lot….until all the b*tchy comments started lol!!

the best ones are when i’m walking down the street, esp in the summer with a little t shirt on, and the guys stare at me….whilst their wives either glare or make remarks loud enough for me to hear. i just smile back, stick my chest out lol and think to myself ”its only jealousy & insecurity making you feel like that……just cos you’ve got saggy t*ts!!”

maybe i can think like that cos i’m a bit older than most of the girls on here, and now i’ve got to the stage in my life where i dnt give a damn what people think of me!!

its pure jealousy poppy…..you’ve got fantastic boobs, they’ve cost you a lot of money and pain…why shouldnt you be proud of them?!!

Yes had similar experience i put it down to jealousy way i see it if they don’t like em don’t look an if they don’t like me enough to understand why i did it then they not true friends i look good an feel good am seven months post op now an only just getting used to my lovely figure still buy clothes for a flat chest lol men in my life love them an are very supportive especially my gay friend who helps me clothes shop get them on show girl your worth every penny you spent an im sure you look fantastic you go girl x

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