parents!! agh

Hi girls I really want mine doing and do still live with my parents so I wouldn’t be able to hide it from them but I’m so scared about telling them as I know they’ll only think I want to do it to be tarty or whatever lol if you know what I mean! And I’m scared they won’t support me! But its not like that at all help pleasee galliess ! Xxxx

Mine were not happy with the idea and tried to talk me out of it, but once I explained to them just how much I hated my boobs (whilst getting upset whilst even describing it, lol), they were a bit more OK. Then once I actually booked in and told them I am definately going ahead with it they were much more supportive after trying to talk me out of it lol. Now I have them done and they are so happy for me and have noticed a massive changed in the way I am I also live with my mother lol xxx

It’s difficult. I’m 34 and live with my husband and my parents still went up the wall! My mum had a lump removed nearly 40 years ago which turned out just to be a cyst but the scar always bothered her. She didn’t understand why I would put myself through it – especially as I had what looks like a decent pair of boobs in a bra. I’m 5ft 2, size 10, 34d (but empty).

I talked with her and explained that I was doing it for me and that the operation (uplift and implant) would make ME feel better. I wasn’t doing it for anyone else. I also showed her this website and some photos of the scars on some of the other girls. I think she felt a bit better after that as although she still told me she disagreed she has been much more understanding

On the day of the op she sent me a card saying she was thinking if me and since the op (9 days ago) she has helped me with food and house chores etc. Think she has been surprised at how they look as I haven’t really gone much bigger if at all, they just look full.

They may be cross at first but let them get used to it. Maybe even writing to them might help so they have time to get angry while youre out the house!

Hope this helps!

hi lauren, i felt a bit like you so didn’t tell my mum or dad until last minute, even though i don’t live with them! ( also theyre separated) when i mentioned it to my mum a week b4, she said u don’t need it, your fine as u r etc. but the day b4 the op she said your just going to attract fake and artificial people! i explained to her that im a decent person and don’t dress like a tart so am sure that won’t b the case. it upset me at first but i thought she’ll realise when she sees. i mentioned it to my step mum as knew she’d tell my dad, and he rang me 2 days before and said good luck with the op! anyway i got it done and with my clothes on people have said they wouldn’t have known if i hadn’t of said. my dads been great, i can talk to him more than my mum. anyway, soz to go on but i know how u feel, i got it done and am glad i did, so u should go with what makes u happy! xxxx

Thankyou everyone !! I suppose the only thing I can do is explain to them how I feel and see what they say! Xxx

Good luck chick x

Let us know how you get on babe xx

i live with my GRANDPARENTS !!! im so scared at telling my grandad as were really close and dont want to talk to him about it plus he will moan and mym nan will haah. ive told my mum she was fine but i dont think she took me serious xxxxxxxxxx

Hiya i know what you mean, im a parent myself and dont live with parents, but my mum still tried to talk me out of it, but once i explained how upset i was about them and how its effecting me she began to come around, im booked in for next month and shes still not happy about it, she said she doesnt want to hear a single moan about it! (so hoping it all goes well for me) as shes the i told you so type and wont let me live things down. my dad however knows nothing about it (as he and my mum arent together) but her fiance knows hes absolutely livid with the idea, but doesnt talk to me about it.

best of luck hun

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Thankyou a lot everyone its good to know people are in the same boat as you, will let you all know how I get on and hope everything goes well for all of you too ! Xxx

Im saving up at the moment and wud like to book my first consultation soon… And i still havent managed to bring it up to my mum and dad… I fink my dad will be horrified that i wud spend that much money on boobs.

I slightly mentioned how i wud like a boob job wen they casually got mentioned once and he my dad blurted that i was fine just the way i am!!!!

Well dad, ur gunna say that as u dont want to associate boobs with ur daughter… and im a huuuuge daddys girl.

Ohhh i dont live at home, i moved out 3 months ago with my bf.

And i no my dad will be like, is it ur bf thats pushing u into it….. NOOOOOOO!! i wanted one waaaayyyy before him!!! Uhhhh!

Im still plucking up the courage to even mention it agen x

Glad im not the only one too x

I’m booked in for September, I don’t live with either of my parents but i’ve told my mum. I don’t plan to tell my dad but he’ll clearly notice and might say something but maybe not. At the end of the day it’s your body, if you are unhappy and are able to change something then why not. Not everyone understands, but maybe if they put themselves in your shoes they would xxx

i could completely understand though, if my daughter (when shes older) said she wanted one, id be hmmmmm not sure im happy with this (as mums do lol) but seeing as though im having one i cant really be unsupportive….however i would need to know that shes thought it through thoroughly and understands the consequences if things go wrong etc……but our parents are a little bit more old fashioned then we will be as things have changed ALOT!! (no disrespect)

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hey girls,

im 22 and have been living overseas for nearly the last ten months now. My parents never knew i was thinking about a ba because i never thought it would be possible(cost nearly triple in australia)..when i found out that it was so much cheaper here i decided i had to tell my parents. I put it off for a while but finaly decided to make the call. i was scared that they wouldnt understand why i felt i needed it done. But they couldnt of been any more supportive in the end they wished they could of been here with me and just told me to be careful & dont rush into it………they were surprised at first but there just excited as me now becuase they know what it means to me…………

Hi!

I had the same problem, and as my mum is a nurse who works in surgery and seen BA done first had i was really worried about telling her as she’s very much “don’t ever have an op if you don’t need it” but after i explained why I was getting it she’s been really supportive. Not told my dad, I dont think he need to know! My sister was a nightmare when I told her thou! She shouted at me saying I should be happy the way I am and assumed I was doing it as a dumb blonde younger sister, but again after telling her how unhappy I have always been with them she understands a bit better.

I think it’s really important you don’t hide gettin it done, just be honest with them and they will support you. It would upset them more if they thought you couldn’t have told them before the op.

good luck chick

I’m worried about telling my dad and my sister, particularly at the moment – was thinking of taking that same approach as when I got my tattoos and not telling them until after.

My dad freaked out when I had my ears peirced!! and my sister (who is 6 years younger!!) will just be nasty and shout at me, my bf knows as he will be the one coming with me and looking after me but I am really aprehensive about telling dad & sis – especially as my dad is a financial adviser he will think it’s a lot of money to spend – but I want to spend it!! I hate how I look, I feel like a boy! I just want to change one thing so I can be happy – I know he’ll freak out.

My bf has asked me when I am going to tell them, he thinks I should do it before I get it done or as late as possible (I said like on the car journey to the hospital Ha!)

It is tough Lauren, I’m in the same boat as you I think xx

hotchilli, I would tell them. Does your dad need to know how much they cost? When people ask me I just tell them they cost enough and leave it there as it’s my buissness what I spend my money on, I did earn it at the end of the day lol!

If your sister is nasty about it (I had a bit of a shouting match with mine too when I told her, her response was “OMG WHY ARE YOU DOING THAT YOU IDIOT! YOU SHOULD BE HAPPY WITH WHAT YOU GOT!”) explain the best that you can why you want to get one. I think alot of people judge and think all boob job’s are for is the glamour world and to attract men, but if they already have great boob’s they will never know what it’s like, I’m sure there is something about herself she would like to change if she had the chance. My sister still thinks I’m an idiot, but you know what, not her life or boobs (and she lucky enough to have perfect curves!)if anything I’m looking foward even more now, so when I show them off she will be jealous

Thanks sarah

I might tell my sister tonight my dad can wait until the last minute haha! He’s a control freak so he’d ask how much it was etc. regardless of the fact it’s my money and I earnt it – he’d have a go about how I’m always in my overdraft etc. but it’s not come from my account it’s come from my savings!! bah!!

Just want it done now, I’m so excited but nervous as well – when are you having yours?

good luck

I’m getting mine done in October as I had to fit it around work, the excitment is already starting god know what i’ll be like closer to the date lol!

Oooo at least you have a date booked! I’m excited and I haven’t even seen my surgeon yet! Ha! I have that booked for the 9th August – I probably won’t be able to get it done until some time next year

Are you counting the days yet? I would be haha

It’s not offical till payday next week lol! not counting days yet but good idea haha!!

hi hun, my mum was ok about it, i never told my nan about it, my mum phoned her after my op and told her lol. she went up the wall when i mentioned it about a year ago so i decided i could do without the grief, anyway since ive had it done she totally changed she told me she doesnt like it but if it makes me happy then shes happy, she brought me flowers, had my daughter for me to recover and was always sending food over for me. this week she said how lovely they look and apoligised for her original reaction.

your parents might surprise you, exsplain how it makes you feel im sure they’ll support you even if they refuse to at 1st, at the end of the day your there daughter and its a operation no parent wants to see there child go through it your perfect in there eyes so they will find it hard to accept.

good luck with your journey and i hope everything turns out well for you xx

im in the same boat lauren and hotchilli, wondering wether to get it done and then fess up cos i look big busted in a bra!!

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Sorry everone only just got back online coz I’ve had concussion the past few days and wasn’t able to use computers !

I will probably just sit my mum down soon and explain how I feel. I’m sure shed want me to be happy sooo.. My sister will shout at me too lol but she’s got perfect curves so I guess she wouldn’t understand how it makes you feel!

I hate all that stereotypical stuff like people thinking you’re a bimbo and what not! Ah well

Hope everythings good with you all xxx

I was in your boat 10yrs ago xxx….mom was a nurse and I had the op at the private hospital were she worked .but I told her and she came out with all the reasons not too.but I just stuck with my choice regardless of what she thought ..get some pictures of the size you want and do show them pictures of scars ….say to them you would like them to be there for you ,but you are an adult and they cannot make the choice for you xxxxx

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