Parents unhappy with my decision to get the op.

My mum & dad really aren’t happy with my decision to have a BA.

They’ve said that I can get it if I want, but it’s just so obvious that they aren’t going to support me.

I understand that it’s hard for them accepting that I’m going to be getting major surgery, but I just want them to support me.

I’m finding it really difficult to make them understand that this will make me happy, and that I have been seriously thinking about this for quite a while.

They think that I’ve just suddenly thought one day “oh I fancy having a boob job today” when that isn’t the case at all.

Has anyone else had this problem? What did you do to calm the situation?

I really don’t like the idea of having this op when my parents don’t want me to have it done. I’m just so excited about it though, I want their blessing

Hey

I had this problem too. My Mum and Dad were very unhappy when I ‘broke the news’ that I was thinking about having a BA, they were quite angry in fact! I was so upset that day, and it really put a downer on everything. BUT, in time they came around to the idea. I told them about all the research I had done, and how unhappy I was with my shape. It just took a while for the news to sink in. Don’t forget, it will have been a massive shock to them. Once they mull it over, and have more time to reflect, they will realise it isn’t such a crazy thing to do. My mum wrote me a letter soon after our first discussion, and said that all they want is for me to be happy and that I have their support if it’s what I really want, and even offered to take me shopping for new bras once I was healed! I am now 5 weeks post op, and my Mum is really impressed with the results, she’s even thinking about having a facelift with the same sugeon!

Honestly, they just need time to get used to the idea.

Hope this helps.

XxxX

Thankyou very much

I think I’m going to wait for a good moment to talk to them about it again, and tell them exactly why I want it done and all the research I’ve done.

Mum is slightly more understanding, it’s been my Dad who just doesn’t understand at all. I was absolutely terrified of telling him!

I hope they come round eventually, as I want it done quite soon!

Are you pleased with your results? Who was your surgeon?

xxx.

Hey hun,when I told my dad he wasn’t impressed either.he had known 4 years that I wanted 1 but neva thought I would go ahead an get it done.I’m now 1 week post op and my dad is fine.I realised that it wasn’t the fact that it was the ba it was the whole surgery and bein put 2 sleep that was worryin him.in time hun they will come around even if it is after ur op xxx

Hey rachael. That’s good that he came round eventually.

My parents were the same, they didn’t actually think I was being serious about it. They’ve only just realised that I’m actually going through with it.

I think it’s the surgery that is worrying them too, and the fact that I’d be putting my body through quite a lot.

xxx.

aww sorry to hear that your parents are fussing about it my mum was cool with the idea and I kept it a secret from my dad up until a week or 2 ago when my mum sort of HAD to tell my dad coz he seen a bank statement of mine….I was SO scared to tell him and scared about him finding out but when it came down to him finding out from my mum all he said was “Well aslong as it helps her confidence”, you could imagine, my jaw DROPPED when I heard he’d said THAT, I was like Holy shit….I shoulda just said AGES ago.

If your parents don’t support you then ultimately they’ll be the ones to miss out, surely they have done or WILL do something at some point that you may not be happy with but would you support them even if you didnt totally agree with it? It would be really selfish if they didn’t support you because of their own hang-ups about it, because ultimately, you’re doing this for YOU and it’s not easy to make a decision like this in the first place and you’ll go through allot, emotionally AND physically and knowing the people closest to you dont support your choice can only make you feel worse.

You’re a braver girl than me anyways chick, by telling both your parents i mean <3

Wow, that’s so great that both your parents were cool about it! It would’ve been lovely if mine had been like that, I wasn’t expecting it though.

They do know that I’m gunna be getting it done even if they don’t support me. I’d just feel so much better if they were there for me. I think they will come round, even if it does take a while… I think they’re still in shock to be honest.

I’ve got my close friends supporting me anyway, which I’m pleased about

Although it’d make it even better if mum & dad could get there too.

xxx.

what age r u hun?

I’m 19 in February.

lol i just turned 20 15 days ago lol

When you getting it done?

I haven’t booked it yet, going to be booking it this week.

Hopefully in March or April

When is yours? Or have you already had it?

Im having mines done at the start of June in Glasgow with Ben Chew, he’s awesome!

Ooo lovely, good luck babe!

Mine’s in London with Dr Adamo

what size r u now/hoping to be?

I’m a 32A, wanting to be a C/D. Am having 260cc overs.

How about you?

im a 34A and I’ve currently chosen 470cc overs, but maybe going to ask to have 525ccs instead, having moderate profiles implants. hoping to be a D at least.

Wow, it’s crazy how two completely different sized implants would get us both to around a D, lol.

I know it’s all about height and weight etc aswell, but it still baffles me.

lol yea, and the profile implant u get, I may end up as big as an F, but could be as small as a D

It’s all so confusing, lol.

lol see tbh it wouldnt be the end of the worl if i ended up an F, coz A. you never look as big as you measure and B. I’d rather go a BIT bigger just to make sure I dont end up as little as a C, coz I wear a padded C cup bra and I still look shitty with C-sized boobs

That’s what I’ve been thinking, I’ve been deciding between two sizes and still haven’t made a final decision, lol. I really don’t wanna end up disappointed.

I couldn’t imagine myself as an F, haha, I don’t think I’d want to go that big!

I doubt ill be an F lol probs D/DD/E onea them

Im 22 and really worried about telling my.mam sad i know lol!!!

Anyway dont actually know how to tell them. My mam is totally against cosmetic ssurgery!! So it worries me to tell her!! How did you all do it? Any help would be great xx

I sat down with my mum and said something along the lines of “Mum, I’ve been thinking about doing something for a long time. And the thing is, I want to have cosmetic surgery”

We then had a very brief conversation about it where she was completely calm about it because she wasn’t taking me seriously. I first told her nearly a year ago, and we’ve only just had a serious conversation about it! My parents have now realised I’m serious about this. I know that they aren’t happy with it, but I’m hoping in time they will come round to the idea.

Try not to be too worried babe, even though I know it’s scary! You just need to pick the right moment, explain it to them, tell them about all the research you’ve done, and let them know that you’re serious.

If they go off on one, tell them how the surgery will make you happier and more confident. Let them know that you really want it done, and how you feel it will improve your confidence.

That’s what I did when they asked questions about it.

Good luck

xxx.

When I went to tell my mum I just started crying like straight away, that basically sealed the deal for me lol. think it made her appreciate how much I wanted it

I think that i will prob stary crying it upsets me to.think my mam wont support me. She will try all sorts to talk me out of it and im really wanting it sonw. Its booked and sortedso no going bk!! X

aoifex- thanks hun. I mite ask my step dad to meet me for coffee and tell him he supports me loads. I know this sounds nasty but my mam has no boobs either and always moans bout it so i think deep down she will be happy that im.doing it for me but jel at same time that she didnt habe the opportunity when she was young. My ops in march on 23rd im gonna wait till afta xmas to tell her. As dont.wanna spoil anyones xmas at home. I live with my bf so dont have to see her everyday and get grief. My bf.thinks im.worrying bout nothing as he thinks my mam will be.ok. Will keep u updated!! I hope ur mam and dad come round soon im sure they will. When is ur op??

If ur on sofem my name is the same.

(appols for all the. … Cant use my.new phone lool.xxx)

Love x

I cry like every time we talk about it! Just because I want it so much and they’re not completely backing me.

At the end of the day, they can’t stop you from getting it, even if they are against it. It would just make it so much nicer if they did support you.

I think that’s a good idea about meeting for coffee.

Your mum might actually understand because of the fact she doesn’t like her chest either. I said something like “imagine if you were so unhappy with something about you, wouldn’t you want to to change it” to my mum, and cos she’s a woman she could relate to me.

I’m booking my op tomorrow, and I’m hoping I can get a slot in March or April

xx.

Wooo get 23rd of march at manchester be my boob buddy lol im so excited. Im sure our parents will come round eventually xx

My parents won’t come around either, they just say I’m being ridiculous n don’t need one but I’m only 32a n look near enough flat chested without a padded bra so lord knows I need one! Lol. They just don’t understand how much it gets me down and how long ive been wanting one. They’ve been saying at least wait until I’m 21 but I can’t see them changing much in 1n half year when they’ve been the same since I was at school

They won’t come around at all tho and it’s really getting me down, so I know how your feeling! Are you just gonna go for it anyway aoifex? Xx

xmercedesx, my parents are the same, they want to me to wait until I’m abit older. But there’s no point because a few more years isn’t going to change my mind.

Yeah I’m just going for it. They can’t stop me, and it’s my choice. They’ve done & said everything they can to make me change my mind and put me off it. But I’ve made my decision.

Just explain to them how much it gets you down, and try to get them to see it from your point of view.

xx.

Yeh think I’m just gonna do it anyway, I’m defiantly doing it fOr the right reasons and it’s not like I’m going ridiculously big, would just be nice to actually have some boobs so I’m looking at either 260s or 300s. The only thing is my pc was saying something about me not being able to get the finance myself and having to use my dad for it which he obviously won’t lol. And my boyfriend has bad credit rating so there’s no chance there

How are you funding yours? And what surgeon yu going with? Xx

I’m having 260cc’s with Dr Adamo. I’ve heard such great things about him, so I feel very confident with him.

I’m paying for it myself as I have a savings account which has just the right amount of money in it. My dad said there was no way he’d pay for it, so I have to do it all myself.

How come you wouldn’t be able to get the money? If you can’t you could always ask your dad and pay him back maybe? Although that would be asking a big favour of him!

xx.

Yeh I’ve heard good stuff about him too. I’ve seen Marion grob n liked her but think I want to have a consultation with Gary traynor aswel. She said because I have no credit rating I wouldn’t be able to do the finance, and I’ve already asked my dad if he’d do the finance in his name and Id just give him the money every month but since he’s so against it there was no chance. I think I’m gonna save up the two grand, pay that then I should have a better chance getting the finance for the rest! Youl have to let me know how yu get on with it though! xx

Ahh I see. I hope you can get the finance babe! The more you can get the better

Oo I will, I’ll be posting all about it on here xx.

to be honest i think u should wait until you’re 21 as women don’t stop growing until then. i was flat chested all through school and got teased for it and really wanted a boob job but my mum kept saying wait till you’re 21 wait till you’re 21 and they grew a little i’m a 34A/B. and at 21 i became a lapdancer and that built up my confidence soooo much that i never got surgery the fact that men didn’t care how small i was made me feel so much better. however now i’m 28 and still a 34A/B i am going to get a breast enlargement not for anyone else but myself as i just wanna know what it’d feel like to have larger breasts i’m only going up to a D so nothing crazy big. Anyway i just mainly wanted to say that waiting till you’re 21 is a good idea as u may grow some plus you’ll be mentally more aware as to wether u want it or not.

Hey im 22 and have the same.size boobs since i was 10. Haaa. Anyway its ur bodies ur choice hunnis?! Get urself a credit card pay petrol things like that on it and pay it off every month to get ur credit up. They wont give u much to start with but they will keep upping ur limit. Im going with gary traynor cant wait!! I really liked him at consultation and havent seen anyone else. Xx

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