Rejected friends requests

Over the last 24hours I have rejected 15 friends requests……. this is because

1. I have never spoken to them

2. No PM to say who they are or introduce themselves

New gals pls realise that our pics are personal to us – i do not mind adding anyone or letting ppl look at my pics but pls having the respect and courtesy to at least talk to me before u even add me……… think of it this way “would u show a stranger pics of ur boobies”??? NO!! Well dont expect me too….

Given recent events on the forum i am very sceptical about who sees my pics.

I agree w cuks. Some people on here want there ba to rEmain private and not just public property. We like to monitor who is looking at our pics xxx

Agree xx

Agree cuks…but u know what grips my sh*t…ppl deleting you wen u say something that isnt **** kissin or when u laugh at something funny.xxx

Thats a bit sh IT too hun xx

yuh huhh i agree totally x

I agree and i have also had quite a few without messages too and accepted.. But ive decided i am not going to accept unless i get a message or know them off the forum. I havnt got any pics on as yet as i am pre op, but i think its decent manners.. I always send a message first..

You fab girls are allowing us to see very private pictures.

Good shout cuks….iv had people sat in my request box for weeks…can’t even be bothered ignoring them now cos they only re-add you again! And ticky you are so right, if people can’t take honesty then they shouldn’t ask for it xx

I agree cuks. It’s really annoying. But like I said to you girls the other day when I uploaded my 6/7 week pics I got 10 requests in 1 day. Pm us first girls. Xx

Cuks and Ticky i totally agree with your comments!!!!!!

i agree cuks hun……i have 18 request that i need to delete xxx

I don’t even look ay them anymore to be honest, so of somebody doesn’t pm me I don’t even know they have sent a request!

Totally agree, it’s very personal and a simple pm out of courtesy doesn’t take 2 mins x

agreed, however even a pm can be fake. My trust has gone mega out the window and I will be deleting a few people before I put my pics up at the weekend. You are always going to get some sly ones that slip through the net though. xxx

i totally agree with u girls that it would be best having a message first but u know u can always decline a request so thats a good thing, my op is in a week so i personally wouldnt want any stranger taking a look at my boobes lol it is a private and personal thing xx

AGGREED x

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I agree. I cannot wait to get my pics up to hopefully help other girls to decide,

like everyone on here has helped me, roll on May 2012

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Don’t blame u ladies, recent events make anyone doubt their friends list and when people ask to are ur boo bie pics then at least say hi! I always PM and that is something I learnt almost from day one on here. I am pre op but in 4 weeks time I will be adding my pics. I’d like to think the people I show them to are sincere and genuinely interested in my results and not one to abuse me at a later date.

Most of u ladies on here are lovely and make me feel at ease about my BA. To see the fab results u all get gives that added reassurance. Thanks lovely ladies xxx

Big big SORRY I might of sent friend request to couple of the girls really really didn’t mean to offend I think I hot a bit excited when first found this sight and was being dumb to the politics of how it works … Massive sorry once again x

Have had same thing but not as many requests, and I deleted them, and also some who added me and then I haven’t heard from since. I always try to re-email to keep up to date with my friends too rather than leave them in my pile but unfortunately a couple of people who I did speak with have deleted me. I am just going to make sure I keep my number small for when I have my op and post my pics, so I can help girls as much as my friends have helped me. A PM goes a long way!

I totally agree, i have had a rough time as it, and so if you dont email me, then im not adding you. xx

I have my pictures set at private,this means I can accept every request,some people log in,excited that they have found an online community to support them during their journey,I agree it is polite to send a message first,but what about the ones that have no confidence at all,to scared to even message,do we just ignore them girls, and make them feel even worse than they do already,I agree that your pictures are personal to you,and it is so good of all of you to take the time to show people how breast augmentation has changed your look,and how confident and happy you are,please do not be too quick to hit the decline button,a few months ago this could have been you.

I know some of you will have had the confidence to message first, or get involved on the threads and ask permission for adds that way,but not everyone has that confidence.This forum is a godsend every time I log in I am amazed at the amount of support you give to each other,I am so proud to be part of your little community.

If you are unsure set your pics to private and only allow viewing by request.xxx

Yes that’s a fair comment Tina. You re always very wise and sensitive xx

i add everyone who adds me, im not bothered about who sees my pics because to me they are only boobs, you see the same in lads mags or page 3 or even down the beach in the summer, i think this is def a personal choice and opinion and girls should respect each individuals opinion on the subject, so if someone ask for a message first then people should be understanding of that its just basic manners, i dont think being confident comes into sending a little message to say please and thank you. xx

agree with nikki ^^^ xx

I personally disagree with you on this one Tina x

its not like the forum is a face to face site, these girls are behind their phones/laptop so they have no reason in not being confident in themselves to send a PM or post on the forum.

What Cuks is asking for is a bit off respect and courtesy for others and their privacy, friendliness which i agree with! x

Everyone is entitled to their opinion I respect that too.

personally, to avoid this… i always see who posts on the forum. i recognise a few regular posters now and so believe that someone taking so much time to wtite about specifics of BA is pretty much as safe to add as anyone else. As said above, they’re plenty of pics of boobies on the internet already. it’s not like this forum is unique. If you’re worried, just don’t show your face?? xx

or, the bottom line. don’t post your pics if you’re that concerned. But, seeing other BA’s does help so many people. It’s helped me feel comfortable and confident in the decision of timings and sizings… you’re a great bunch and want to thank you all… theres no way any of my friends or family would put up with me talking of boobies so much lol. love to all. (even the freaks lol)xx

I can understand both sides, as u dont know some people motives for adding u. One person added me and it was a bloke asking me for a date!! i deleted him and havent heard off him since lol but i think people get caught up in the bubble that the MYA forum is because everyone feels the same way you do..and its nice to be able to chat to people who understand the way ur feeling etc, but also uve gotta be careful, dnt put up pics of personal stuff if ur easily offended by people but on the other hand it would be nice for people to ask to add u, i’m laidback so i dont mind anyone who adds me, just as long as ur not a weirdo lol xx

thats the thing tho x if you have never seen the Name off the person who has requested you then you are wary x its always nice to have a PM with the request x

I think that if people feel the need to friend request every ‘newbie’ on the forum then that’s up to them! Personally I will only add people I have spoken to before and if I request anyone I always message them first! I’m 7 months post op now so don’t actually need much advice anymore BUT having said that I will always try and offer advice and support to anyone who needs it, a message goes a long way x

Well I got deleted by 1 girl even after I sent her a big long msg being nice and saying I understood etc just because she was getting some stick off other people and even then it wasn’t really giving her stick they were just being honest!

It got my goat as we were already ‘friends’ on here and then I get the cut because she doesn’t like others opinions.

I’m having my BA in 13 days and will be putting my before and after pics up and would ask the same as the other girls, please just msg me first and I’m more than happy to accept your request, I won’t ask for complements or feedback when I accept the request but if I don’t ask for your opinion then please don’t give me negative feedback as I am doing this to build my self confidence and as long as I’m happy with the results and don’t need people making me question myself. HOWEVER if I post topics asking for opinions please feel free to give menfrank and honest view even if you think my bo obi es do look awful and I have wasted 4 grand as I won’t ask if I’m not prepared for what I might hear x

Well said Emma x

Me too Emma. Xx

totally agree emma love your comment xx

Its all hush’s fault lol x

As if hush lol…don’t be silly xx

It was because of the honest Comments i made x x

Hush its always you fault your top bitch but thats wat we love about u dont suger coat stuff like some people ur onest theres needs to be more hushes in the world lol xx

Spot on there nikki….if people ain’t got the balls to speak the truth then stuff em….honesty is the best policy….we love ya hush xx

Thank you girls i love you both x x Im in a dreadful mood tryin to nurse my little blackmoor fish im certain he will die ‘-C I know its just a fish but ive had him since i was 20 x x

Awww poor little fishy xx

Awww hun sending love to your fishy, a pets a pet weather it be a dog.cat or fish, hope he gets better xx

Thats the only time you’ll see me upset over pets ‘-C xx

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