Saying Thank you

Maybe it’s just me, I’m a mum of two, 33 and like to think i have some manners which is why I will always say please and thank you.

There has recently been a thread which has been completely hijacked with girls complaining that they were expected to say thank you for being shown another girls very personal photos.

Why is this so hard??

Surely when you have taken the time to click on someones profile, looked through their photos, you can at least take 10 seconds to write thank you.

It makes me sad and quite honestly quite cross that this is the attitude of girls on a forum which is designed for us to help each other with what are life changing decisions.

Please have some common courtesy girls or you may find that everyone takes down their photos and refuses to answer your questions, why should they!!

OK rant over

i agree! x

Thank you ros for posting this, I’ve been feeling very much the same as you. I have been disengaged lately because of the recent controversy and I’ve been in two minds as to whether I want to take my photos off. It’s only that I’ve made a few close supportive friends on here who pm me daily and who have had complex ops similar to mine that I’ve kept my photos on. xxx

Yep, I agree. I have said it before and will say it again, putting photos of yourself online is very personal and saying thank you is only polite.x

When i first joined i got that confused by all,the boobies i didnt know who to thank lol! Im very greatful,to the girls that have let me look as thats how i decided on size x i do say thank you now ive got the hang of the forum x

I feel quite bad now as I have like 125 friends and no doubt i haven’t thanked them all but I would like to say that I truly value and appreciate all the help and advice I’ve recieved. I haven’t looked at all my friends pics sometimes I just add girls if I like what they say or they make me laugh etc. Pics are a huge help and that’s why I’ve added and will keep adding them now that I’m post op. I try my best to be as helpful as possible on here and I hope no ones perceived me as being rude. x

Hi Khanni, I’m sure they haven’t thought you rude, you always seem lovely to me.

It wasn’t the fact that they hadn’t bothered to say thank you perse, more the fact that they felt that they were justified in thinking they didn’t need to say thank you.

Makes me feel old, the youth of today!! lol

I have to say i’m very much like hush, when i joined i added that many people to look at photos and saw that many boobies, i cant remember who i did actually look at and who i did thank and who i didnt (the problems we had with the forum didnt help either), but i appreciate everyone who let me look and although not many at the time we’re uplift it was a great help to get an idea of size. Everyone on here has been wonderfully helpful and i think the attack from the other thread was uncalled for. xx

Ive deleted my photos now as i refuse to be treat like shit for what i belive is correct behaviour. I wont be accepting any request either anymore as you just cant trust some ppl….Although its been made clear that some arnt bothered. I never asked directly for a thank you either! Oh well, theres always a few.

Saying thank you takes less time than looking at the initial photos 😡 It should be your first natural thought. Its upsetting that these ppl dont think this way…i understand if its a genuine mistake but to belive that manners are uneccessary is absurd!

Thank you to some of the girls in this post for your support….your gems xxxxx

I’ve looked at lots of pics and I’d like 2 say thank you aswell cuz I to have decided on wot size 2 go for after looking at other girls pics. Ill have my pics up next week and its not rly a thank u ill be after, more of honest feedback xx

Aww ticky its a shame u have took them down hun u have been polite and extreamly helpful to me chick xx

iv stopped accepting friend requests too, not because of the lack of thankyous but the lack of even speaking to the girls who add me….I almost always at least complimented on the girls new boobies or spoke to them before I added them and said thankyou on occasions probably not everytime though, but I at LEAST spoke to them and stuff and actually genuinely SHOWED an interest in their well-being and their happiness with their new boobies. Im not looking for a thankyou in particular but just to be spoken to in advance would be nice and/or feedback on what the girls think of them lol

the main reason i feel this is becuase its SO easy for a pervy man to make a MYA space account and add u as a friend and look at your PRIVATE pictures….I think ill be taking my pics down soonish

Bexie, this is one of the reasons I didn’t add any on here, I didn’t like the way that anyone could look without you even knowing, they could be going back to look every hour for all you knew.

hi ros, I did put a post on here last week about this as i felt very frustrated with the lack of acknowledgements i was getting, and random friend requests from girls i had not even seen posting on here. I very nearly deleted my pics too. I have a Sofem account, and much prefer their password protected albums on there. Maybe it’s worth a suggestion that MYA can password protect our albums on here too?

I haven’t been on here for a couple of days, but having just read thru a lot of the recent posts, there do seem to be more thankyous going on now x

Hi tammy, I did put something on the MYA pic sharing thread at the top about passowrd protection but there’s been no response.

I know that sometimes people forget who they’ve talked to and who’s photo’s they’ve looked at but what made me cross was the attitude from some that they didn’t see the need to say thank you, I know this causes a lot of upset on sofem too so hopefully these grils will understand the importance of manners now. x

hi Ros, i’ve just added to the MYA thread too!

Yep know what you mean, Sofem has also had its problems from time to time

Maybe we just need to keep posts like this near the top, as a gentle reminder about manners x

I have sat and watched as things have unfolded. I think it has all got a little out of hand and a bit silly. I am post op, but still like to see pictures of people who have recently had theirs done as I am unhappy with mine. Have found great support from everyone, including people in said argument. At the end of the day most have us have gone through this procedure or will be at some point. To be honest most people on here dont include a head shot and if there were pervy men they will never know who we actually are, seems like a lot of hassle when there is a lot more interesting stuff for ‘them’ that is easily accessible. For example I can put in breast enlargement in google and it will come up with thousands of pics of people that have had it done with their stats etc. I just find this site nice to actually talk to people and know that they have been through the same thing, I have had some brilliant advice and enjoyed reading peoples post op stories. Those that have spoken to me via pm know that I am unhappy with mine, yet I willingly accept most people as I think it is good for you girls to see as much as possible. It is nice when you get a comment or a thank you, yet I dont expect it and I know when you are a newbie, you may add a fair few people in one go and forget who you have added and seen pics of.. I understand. I was once there myself. I wish I had have found this site pre op. maybe then I could have made a more informed decision about my breasts. Instead I am unhappy, I know things would have been different if I had have spoken to a few of you guys first. But if everyone starts deleting pictures and not sharing then there is no point for this site, an it would be a real shame to lose what we have on here. For the most part honesty, opinions and sone damn good advice xxxx

Hi Kutri, I can see where you are coming from but disagree that there would be no point for this site if the photos aren’t on here.

I have been using this forum since September and it is only in the last two months or so that there has been the facility to photo share or even to have photos.

Even without this the site was always very friendly and helpful and for me that support is much more important.

I don’t want to be using sites where there are personal attacks on other girls because they have a varied opinion or ask to be thanked

Hi Ros, I only started using this site 2 months ago, so assumed the photos were always a part of this site. But I agree even if there were no photos I imagine everyone would be as helpful and supportive which is great. I think the photos just help with regards to size, look etc, I have learnt a lot from looking at other girls photos. And really appreciate everyone one of them that has let me see them.

xxx

I think the addition of pics to this site was definitely a good one – I personally wish they’d been there when I was pre-op just to give an idea of what to expect.

As for saying thank you, I think I posted somewhere the other day – it is nice to get a thank you or comment but I don’t see it as expected. I’m sure we’ve all added people to look at pics and not said anything to them once we’ve had a peek, I have a child and sometimes have to suddenly nip off, by the time I get back to things I forget what I’ve said to who and why I was even looking – they all pretty much become a blur. x

I know what you mean Kutri, I use sofem as well because that used to be the only place for photos, I found it really helpful, especially those that were longer post op so you can see how the bbobs look when they have settled etc.

Do you mind if i ask what you are unhappy about with yours? Are you planning on having further ops to sort it?

I agree Em, definatley a great addition to this site, and I so wish I had found this site pre op (photos or no photos) lol! Never heard of sofem until I cam on here. Which is probably just as helpful.

Dont mind at all hun, I have no issues with how they look and feel… just really disappointed with size. I wanted atleast a D and when I got measured I was measured at only a B cup, was gutted as you can imagine. Especially by the way I was treated by the bra fitter. I think as they have settled they are about a c, but I dont fill out the cup properly. I’m meeting with my surgeon in march to discuss things, so shall see what happens xxx

Gosh, that’s quite a difference from what you’d requested then!

Hope you get it all sorted xx

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