SHARING PICS – PLEASE READ….

Hi girls,

Sorry but feel like a little rant! I have been using this forum since May 2009, and found it really useful before my ba, to chat to girls who had already had their ba. I joined the Sofem forum as well because you were able to view girls pics on there, so helpful when trying to decide implant size, etc.

Now it is great that MYA have added picture sharing as well

It is a very big decision to put your own photos on here, as they are very personal. But i decided that i would, as i had found it very helpful when i was researching into my own ba. But… is it just me or have other girls found that you seem to get a lot of random friend requests from girls you have never chatted to on here? And when you accept them, and they obviously look at your pics, you never seem to get even a thank you! Just an acknowledgement and a thank you for sharing would be nice. So this is just a little reminder about manners really.

Don’t want to upset anyone…. there are some lovely girls on here that i have chatted to a lot, but it would be a shame to spoil a great forum.

Maybe it’s just me????????? Tammy x

No you should be suspicious! I have only emailed my pics to people iv spoken too and sent pics where not all boobs are exposed or my head on them. You just never know who is viewing them or where they will end up, n i have 2 kids at home!!

Would love to live in a world where you can trust every1 but u cant x

Totally understand what you mean, I haven’t had my op yet and get random requests. After my op I probs won’t add people I haven’t spoken to as it is very personal. I was nervous putting photos of my rice boobs on here lol. I do try and say thank you to those that share their photos with me, I may have forgotten a few so would like to do it again now – thank you! Seeing photos is a huge help and also hearing all your stories. xxx

No you should be suspicious! I have only emailed my pics to people iv spoken too and sent pics where not all boobs are exposed or my head on them. You just never know who is viewing them or where they will end up, n i have 2 kids at home!!

Would love to live in a world where you can trust every1 but u cant x

Totally understand what you mean, I haven’t had my op yet and get random requests. After my op I probs won’t add people I haven’t spoken to as it is very personal. I was nervous putting photos of my rice boobs on here lol. I do try and say thank you to those that share their photos with me, I may have forgotten a few so would like to do it again now – thank you! Seeing photos is a huge help and also hearing all your stories. xxx

Sorry for duplicate posts, I’m on my phone x

I completely agree girls! Before my op I had only been on this site for 3 weeks and requested a lot of girls who I knew had had op and wanted to see pics but I would always comment out of respect. I guess Im a little naive but Ive added pics with my face in without even a thought to who Im adding and Ive been getting requests by the hour. Im now on 90+ friends and I can only say that Ive spoken to less than a third. Most dont even aknowledge how personal it must be. Hmmm Im wondering if I need to be less trusting and remove some of these people Ive never spoken to? On the flip side, I know how important it is to see pics too but I guess a little appreciation goes a long way! xx

hi chery, yes it is a shame that you can’t just trust everyone I would never put a photo showing my face, you just never know do you. I’ve just checked my friend requests and there are 12 names on there that i don’t even recognise!!! I’m sure some of them are genuine girls looking into a ba, but you just don’t know. x

hi Belle, so even you’re getting random requests and haven’t had your op yet. You’re right, seeing photos is a huge help… think i’ll be more careful from now on. Good luck with yours hunni x

I am with you Tammy……

Just boils down to common courtesy really and a thank you goes a long way!!

Px

defoo feel the same me hun! i put my pre op pics on last wk (which iv been waiting for for 3months!) and i was soo embarased about them, but i new i wanted to put them on because people helped me on here and sofem like u say, wen ur doin ur research. but does pee me off how people randomly add and dnt send a message. they shud have made the site more like sofem so u have a password and people have to message u to get it!

i put a little status thingy on my profile saying if i havent spoke to u on the forum or dnt recognize ur name it would be nice to get a little message if u add me to have a look at my pics because they are personal after all. it helped because a few ppl took notice and were polite! xx

hi linzi, yes it’s strange isn’t it, as soon as you put a post on saying you have photos, you get loads of friend requests – but over half of them never actually comment on your post! Guess that’s life,,,, but manners cost nothing and mean a lot. Take care hunni x

Good for you chels, but its a shame you have had to put that on your profile to make ppl take notice. As ladypank says…. common curtesy to say thank you

Just hope this post will make ppl think about saying thank you more often. x

Hi girls, I think I have requested or added most of you as friends but i’m not sure if I have chatted to you all or commented individually so I just wanted to say how much I appreciate it. I have put a thank you message on here to say how much of a help it has been to me but it’s on my own update page thingy so not sure if you will all have seen it?

Anyway I really do appreciate all the advice I have had from you girls on here and it has been a huge help and reassurance to me to see pics of your fantastic results and to get an idea of what size I want. I think all your pics look amazing and I will be very happy if mine turn out as well so thanks to all who have added me xx

I agree. I’m happy to share my pics as it was so useful to me pre-op, but I’ve had so many randoms add me now! Though on the flip side I’ve had some lovely messages from girls which makes it all worthwhile. It’s nice to think you’ve helped, esp, when you know how nervewracking the whole process can be. Xxx

I know there are a few that i tried to message thank yous to and for some reason it wouldn’t send, but i did try to thank or comment on whoevers photo’s i looked at, if i did miss anyone i do apologise.

It really does help to view photos, when getting an idea of size etc and i appreciate everyone who has helped me.

I do agree its best to keep your head off and the photo system would be much better if it was like sofems. xx

I defo agree that it is a huge help for people to see pics and people will find their way best to share them. For me it is by email n it gives me peace of mind knowing my face aint on them. Plus the fact the people seeing my pics have all spoke to me first n asked nicely

To all of you ladies awaiting op good luck n to the rest hope all is healing nicely

xx

Hi Girls,

I know exactly what you mean…I think i may just delete mine now!

This sounds really bad…but I have met 2 transvestites on here as well which I find a bit strange…just shows anyone could be on here (really dont want to be mean) xx

im the same, i looked at my friends list and i had nearly 200 friends and only spoken to less than half. im up for sharing my pics but a msg first or after would be nice. i have just gone through and deleted ppl i havent heard of or seen posting on the forum x

I usually just say added u hope u dnt mind! most ppl ive added have had a similar starting size to myself so just good to get an idea for sizes, totally understand tho about there maybe been randomers on here just luking for wrong reasons, ther r sum weirdos and u cant trust every-one!, does any-one have problems with the private message setting tho? been times ive tried to use it and its said failed or summat! x

Hi all, this is exactly why i haven’t put any photos on here, the decision was either to only friend 5 girls or to just keep my photos on sofem where they are passowrd protected and i can choose who i give the passowrd to.

The girls on Sofem have all been very polite and thanked me for sharing and made really positive comments, however it only takes one not to say anything and i become wary again.

We are all very happy to help pre op girls as we also needed the help in their boat but girls will stop bothering if you don’t at least have the decency to say thank you.

Also with mYA you have no idea who from your firends list has been looking, i find this very disconcerting!

I agree, manners cost nothing. But what I have also found is that this website is quite difficult. For example, I find someone on the forum who is of similar size to me and they say whether they’re having unders or overs and what size etc and I think, I’d like to see how theirs have turned out so I send them a friend request. When they accept the request and I see their pics, I then can’t remember which size etc they said they were and have to hunt around again on the forum to which conversation it was under. Perhaps I haven’t fathomed this website out properly yet and there’s an easier way.

I am pre-op and I’m going to put before and after pics on and, to be honest, if I don’t get thankyou’s after friend requests, it doesn’t really bother me. At 36 years old, there’s more important things to worry about in life! And I’m more than happy for anyone to see my pics – I can’t wait to show them off.

If there are any perverts on here then I’m sure there’s far better websites they could be wasting their time on to look at boobs.

I think it’s such a shame to have to be suspicious of everyone but im also pre-op and i’ve had alot of random friend requests without even talking to them first. Anyone that I have requested I always ask 1. If it’s ok to friend request them and 2. I ALWAYS make sure I say thank you. I know it can be a nightmare to remember what forum topic they were on especially if they don’t except straight away but then when they do I will send a 1 to 1 message. This forum has helped me out so much with info, pictures, sizing etc that I wanna put my pics on after i’ve had mine but my bf won’t let me as you never know who’s looking and if they can copy and paste the pictures to somewhere else. Horrible to know I have to be so wary and not help the girls in the future like you girls have helped me! x

I agree with u tammy I think it’s great all u post op girls can share pics as I haven’t had my op yet n it is so so great n helpful to see peoples pics n hear their stories! I try to always ask someone if it is okto request them n if not them comment n thank them….. But everyone is human n sometimes people forget so….. Here’s my thank u to all u girls out there who have added me or let me add u u have been so helpful to me to get to this stage!! Now I just can’t wait till 27th April to join all of u!!! Xxx

Thank you for all your comments, and private messages that i’ve been sent too. I was having a funny 5 minutes last night when i posted this, just felt slightly frustrated at the lack of thank yous being received. I’m very happy to help genuine girls, because i was helped myself during my research stage.

The post was just a gentle reminder about thankyous, and i hope nobody felt offended.

This is a fantastic forum, let keep it that way Hip hip hooray for boobies xx

hi girls iam quite new here but i just wanted to say that your all great, yes i have seen some peoples pics and it really helps , and i allways say thank you and make a comment it dont cost anything to be kind.

but yes you do have to be carefull off showing your pics to wierd men lol xxx thanks to all

hey ladies.. ive sent msg’s to ppl i can to say thankyou but sometimes it doesnt let u send them but uve all helped me so much..

only 3 weeks to go 4 me and not even nervous anymore xx

Completely agree with this 100%! I added very few people when i joined the site, and probably spoke to about 10 of you lovely girls. The other 50 odd i’ve never spoke to and only added me after i added pics. I’ve just deleted all my pics now cos the thought has actually freaked me out a bit.

It’s funny because i was saying to a guy friend of mine the other day about this forum and how much it had helped me and I said i’d put my pics on here and he basically called me stupid lol he said, do you know how easy it would be for guys to go on there just to get pictures.

It’s definitely made me think twice.

This is a good post for anyone who is considering adding people they haven’t spoke to – well done Tammy for bringing up a bit of a taboo subject xxx

it is a cause for concern isnt it to get around this i’m going to make sure all my pics are from the neck down as i wan’t to help as many girls as possible but i don’t want to be taken advantage of by internet weirdo’s xx

I apologise if I haven’t thanked anyone for “the add”. I am going to put up pics of my previous BA and then the next x

Im sorry but alot of the girls in this post have requested me, looked at my pics and not responded. Double standards??? Let it go it not worth the hassle x

Hi Ladies,

I really do agree with all the above. I have been really greatful for seeing pictures prior to my Op ( 3 weeks to go and counting!!!!!)(also trying not to look at bikini’s yet). The pictures have given me lots of confidence for the new look! Thank you to the two friends that let me have a peek!!!Still getting a bit nervous and nearly cancelled op but have just ordered bra’s MACOM…..Will share photo’s once done to a discreet crowd to! Tazha x

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