So angry/upset, don't know what to do.

I’m booked for my ba for 11th may and I’m going to be bridesmaid for my brother on 2nd June, but my brothers now asking me to move my date as my future Sis in law doesn’t want me to have them done before her big day as she’s insecure (she already wears a d I don’t even fit an A). I’m so upset really don’t know what to do xx

this is for you and how u feel go for it !!

you shouldnt move it if you dont want to hun!! it has nothing to do with her ,her insecurities arn’t your issue xxx

what the hell! This is insane!! I’d get them done just to spite her lol.

No on a serious note that is so unfair to get you to delay your op when it seems like we wait a lifetime for it to finally come round!! Don’t change it hun xx

That’s what my hubby said, my brother said he doesn’t care but is looking out for his fiancé. He’s the closest person to me in my whole family and don’t want to lose him. But can’t understand why she’s doing this to me, I asked her directly and she said no and now she’s hiding behind my brother. Feel so torn xx

everyone love spite haha how dare she ! haha

thats mad, dont listen hun its not as if your gonna turn up at the wedding with them on show, i personally think shes being childish xx

all eyes will be on her any way whether youve got boobs or not huni jesus she should be happy for you like you are her!! im sure youve waited long enough to have your boobs done why should you have to wait even longer? go get your boobies huni xx

cant believe im reading this! thats so unfair .. dont change it just to please her! xx

Don’t change it hun your doing this for you, and to make you feel good, do it, Think bout yourself, cause its quite clear that all your future sis in law is just been selfish, its so so pathetic. Go for it and have them done xx

awh hun after everythin you’ve been through to get it moved closer i think you should still go ahead!!! if your future sis in law is insecure thats her problem not yours! i think she’s being really selfish asking you to change dates especially if she knows how important it is to you!! just go for it luv, stuff what she thinks, just tell them you rang to get a later date and there is no availability for another few months and your not prepared to postpone it that long!! good luck luvi, let me know how it goes xxx

Thanks ladies, just don’t want my brother to hate me. I’m a person who likes to please everyone that’s why I asked her before I booked that date as told her didn’t want to upset her and she said was fine. I’ve wanted this done for years and has taken me long enough to get the money sorted for it. Now wishing I’d never even be asked to be bridesmaid because I’d bought a dress and heels (when was with her) and said would wear it in the evening as bridesmaid dress not great and having to wear sandalls underneath it

have a word with her, explain about how crap you thought your own wedding pictures turned out from being pregnant, and that you are doing this for you, and if at that point she doesnt understand, then tell her to stuff herself. your brother should understand your feelings if your so close to him.

and if push comes to shove, put your op back, let them have their day, then book a marriage blessing for yourself and your hubby, and go all out for that xx

*and she’s now saying I’m not allowed to get changed in the evening either xx

they cant hate you for being happy?? its not like when they have ther first dance your gunna strip your top half off and flaunt your boobs on the dance floor while swinging your flowers round your head i think shes just being silly!! xx

Oh tell her to p*** off shes been really childish bout this its insane, its her wedding day 4 christ sake why is she so botherd about other people out doing her, you would Think she would just be Happy enough knowing she was marrying some1 who she loves, but quite clearly its all a competition for her xx

I’m not getting boobs to put them on show at all I’m a mum of a 2 and 4 year old this all purely for me as am flat as a boy. Want to feel like a woman again for mine and my husbands sake. She saw me try the dress on and even with a strapless bra the dress say round my waste as have nothing what so ever to hold it up x

well said beckie!! totally agree! xx

yeah i agree with beckie she’s being a total child!! sounds like it wouldnt matter when you were having your boobs done she wouldnt be happy about it xx

Beckie my brother loves her so much he’s upped the starting budget of 10 grand to over 20 to give her what she wants and he’s only on a shit raf wage. Her sis in law is aLso a bridesmaid and a size 16 with natural f boobs so wants me to stay the one who has the smallest boobs. X

That is shocking! If I were you I wouldn’t budge and I would wear the tightest push up bra I could find on the day and have my boobs in my neck

Don’t let her control your life! xx

If I were you I would play her at her under-handed game. Put on your most sincere apologetic face and say that you tried your best to change the date but couldn’t or else you’d lose your deposit. xx

But its something that you want hun, you shouldn’t have to put it back just because she wants you to be the one with small boobs, I’m sure your brother won’t fall out with you if you go ahead with it, just do as bek says tell them the next date would be in august as surgeon is fully booked up for 3 months and you don’t want to put it back that long xx

That’s so insecure just do it anyway!!!

hey luv, i had the same issue but it was my sister asking me to delay it as it was her wedding!! i felt soo hurt and upset by her asking me to do it.

she felt that she didn’t want me 2 be poorly on the day and also because of the bridesmaid dress would need altering as they would not no exactly what size would fit me as she paid £400 on my bridesmaid dress!! i was absolutly devastated and choose 2 have my op 3 weeks later than planned.. i love her soo much and would do anything for her.. my op is now in 9 days and i cant wait! i made her happy by not having my ba untill after her big day, but i will always look at the pics and think i cud of had my boobies!! ..xxx

dont let her spoil your day by postponing your op hun like you said your doing this for you!! if the shoe was on the other foot would she delay her dreams for you?? xx

Haha I love it Dolly! I agree with the girls, do it for you! xx

Danielliiee if was on the other foot I wouldn’t even ask her to there’s just no need. When I got married my wedding was about marrying the love of my life father of my kids, completely our family I would of got married in jeans couldn’t of cared less (and my bridesmaid did look hotter than me she’s like an Alex curran lookalike) but so what my hubby was marrying me x

exactly hun she needs to realise that marriage is sacred n theres more to it than one day what does your hubby think? xx

exactly hun she needs to realise that marriage is sacred n theres more to it than one day what does your hubby think? xx

Hubby said he’ll go mad if change my date because of her, we’ve been together since was 15 and from day one has known about my boob issues which has affected us for 8 years. X

I’d do what LK said. Tell her you’d lose your deposit. I’m sorry as its your family but this is ridiculous! And I think she’s made herself look incredibly silly and should be embarrassed. Don’t move your op hun, it’s stressful enough without having to fanny about getting a new date. Xx

I thought iv been having it bad bless ya huni, its not nice, i would say sorry too late its booked and nothing i can do or i loose my money and what you have just said about it the fact of who your marrying i would say this to both of them! good luck hun xxx

i agree totally with ur hubby he obv knows what this means to u so instantly means alot to him to see u happy dont change your date huni if u dont want to, you sound like youve got a very supportive family make yourself happy hun n really hope it all works out u sound like a really nice person dont let her spoil this for you xx

Wouldn’t think ahe’ll be 31 in June ay I’m 23 x

I would also do a mega Jordan pout in every single photo too haha! 😈 xx

Hahaha dolly that made me laugh x

Yayy! Chin up girlie xxx

PLEASE PLEASE dont listen to her! I have a PAIN IN THE ARSE like that in my family! IGNORE her! What a jelous cow! the person im talking about cried at her OWN wedding because people were taking photographs of the baby who was her flower girl! THESE SORT OF PEOPLE NEED TO GET A GRIP! LOL. you bloody well enjoy them hun.! x

Shes blatently hatin! have a word with her an say youve got your d cups already an now its time for mine lol ur bother will understand, take a push up bra an keep it in ur bag an if she gets funny with you during the day then go toilet an put it on an give her a lil wink! hahaha god inlaw’s annoy me id love to piss mine off more then i already do! lol xx

This is crazy and so unfair. Don’t change it hun, tell them you loose money if you change the date so tough! Xxx

Can u just change a wedding at short notice? I would be charged £1000’s if I was to change my date in July xx

I’m afraid I agree with the girls GET YOURSELF YOUR BOOBIES HUNNI. She has no right to make you feel this way. I too would tell em u would lose your money if u cancelled or delayed it. And £4000+ is a lot to lose. Then flaunt the feckers in front of her lmao. Your husband knows you best so do this ba for u and your hubby xxx

ohh noway f**k that! im sorry but thats not fair on u atall, so u should suffer just coz shes insecure? i dont think so!! not suprised ur hubby would go mad if u postponed ur boobies! x

ladies thank you so much for your amazing support x

Stuff her babe….

my sis in law is an absolute cow to me, im 6 yrs younger than her thats the first thing she dislikes.

secondly i have natural long hair which according to her looks raggy… that is.in comparison to her bleached blonde hair extensions.

she has a BA and im 2 dress sizes smaller, she had 390 PIPs and she told me.not.to sccept anything less than 380. so i was chuffed and rang her straight after my consult and said ive been offered 380!!! she replied “they will look rediculous on u ur.too thin u will look like a blow up doll” and hung up!! since then she has been a right cow. everytime i see her she wears massively padded bras and low tops so her boobs look bigger….it really used to upset ne as id of loved to have got.on with her cos my.bfs.bro is amazing, but she drives a wedge between them also.

i alnost went for 340 cos of her comments but theb thought stuff her… my body… my boobs…my money… so i had 380 done.on her.birthday and again she.didnt like that as took attention off her.ha ha ha …

go for it hun u will feel amazing after xx

Haha, thats amazing fairy x

LK honest babe u wont believe the shit ive had with her. she used to text me saying stuff like my bfs bro hated my bf and didnt want to see him anymore… my bf would ring and say wtf is going on she would drop her arse and pass the phone to his bro who had absolutely no idea!!

the worst thing she has done is when my bf gran was dying in hosp, i was at work and my bf, her his bro and his mam were at hosp and she said that i wasnt there because i didnt like her… she started crying hysterically saying i was selfish for.not being there just because i was jel of her… so it all kicked off… she is awful. shes been with my bf bro for 9 yrs so shes well in with the family… and ive only been with my bf 4yrs so im worried i look like the bitch when my bf phones.his mam and.says we arent going for dinner cos of her and how she is with me… although his mam says she understands and knows what shes like… i still feel she blames me… cos she is always all over her but doesnt ever bother with me. xx

Fairy that’s mad! I am not a secure girl at all, I’ve always been really down on myself but I couldn’t ever imagine behaving like that with someone just because I’m a bit jealous of them! It’s unbelievable how childish some people are… xx

Like ive always said i dont mind her being nasty to me i just dont lkke my bf and his bro falling out cos of her .

i dont.think shes jel of me shes really pretty i just think shes struggling with getting older xxx

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