so upset :(

I know this partially nothing to do with my BA, but today i had my pre op. I was told i will have a blood test and i have a huge fear of needles, I mean huge. I will 100% pass out if i see a needle let alone if i have one poking me.
I asked my boyfriend to come with me and support me, just in case i pass out and he was happy to come along.

So im in the waiting room and the nurse calls me, i get up infront of everyone and my boyfriend stays seated. I said are you coming and he said no! My face dropped, i said i need you there babe, please come! and he said no! INFRONT OF EVERYONE!!! i was so embaressed… And that was it, he left me to go by myself and stayed in the waiting room! I was so let down.

I dont know why he said no, but why he would come all the way up to london with me just to not go in the room with me? Im sooooo upset :(((( He knows how afraid i am !

Sooo sorry this isnt exactly BA related but i feel like my number 1 support behind me has let me down 🙁 i dont even know if i want him to come with me on the day now

Hi hun… I really hope you are ok. Try not to let this upset you, I mean no offence when I say this, but I think that was really unfair of your boyfriend to agree to something, in aid of settling your fears, for him literally seconds to go back out on you. I can’t begin to imagine how you felt and was thinking, of what the other people were thinking.
I just hope your ok, and if you need a shoulder you can message me anytime. Just try keep calm and positive about things. Big hugs darling xxxx

Hey huni we are all friends on heare huni no matter wot I think he maybe feeling a little insecure about the BA may he thinking that other men will start to pay more atention to you that just a man thing my was partner was there for me all the way but he was little insecure about it but it’s not like we are getting a BA to run around naked is it don’t go mad at him softly dose it and. Ask him nicely about how he’s feeling about it all and just resure him and put his mind at ease men are like over grown kids lol x

Hope you’re ok! That doesn’t sound like a nice situation at all and I know if I were in your shoes I’d feel exactly the same, have you spoke to him about it? Hear him out first, If he’s you’re number one support he deserves a chance to explain himself. We’re all here for you girl xxxx

OMG girlie…..I read it after I already sent you a msg…..hope you walked out with a big smile saying I was stronger than I thought…..thanks for your support…..give him time to think about what he has done. Men….a lot of times they just don’t GET IT!!! I’m with you girlie and proud of you for facing the needle on your own…xxx

Omg Hun! Has he given you a reason why he did that??
Surely he knew you wanted him in the room when he agreed to go with you..
I’m petrified of having a blood test even talking abit it makes me feel sick so I know how you feel hope you was okay! Xx

Hi girls thanks for all your support I didn’t expect this many replies 🙂 im so glad you understand me. It was such a tough evening for me. I’ve decided to ask my mum to be my next of kin on the day who picks me up ! I

Last night my mum suggested Id ask him if he was nervous at all about this and he said no but now after reading your comments , I think he may have a problem with me having a BA. He has suddenly stopped talking to me about it , but I thought maybe that’s cos I’m always talking about it lol. And when I decided on a bigger size recently, he did not agree. He was disappointed to say the least. But when I first decided to go for my BA he was like go bigger ! :/ he is also saying stuff like you don’t need them done i like you how you are. Has anyone experienced this ? At the end of the day I said its my body and I am doing this for myself. I’ve wanted my
Boobs done since I was 14!

He still Claims he doesn’t know how scared I was and if he did he would of done more. But my best mate said he was talking to her about how scared I am the day before, so he did know :((((

Thank you girlies I love all the advice xxxxxxxx

I really feel for you Hun
Unless he’s got a problem with needles or blood I really don’t understand why he would do that apart from feeling jealous..
He’s said he didn’t know you we’re scared even though you’d told him and that’s why he was going with you??
I think you need to have a chat and get to the bottom of it Hun, maybe he was up for it in the beginning being as his girlfriend was getting a nice pair of boobs but now he’s feeling insecure?
Either way that really wasn’t a nice thing to do I wouldn’t of spoke to him the whole way home! Aha xxxx

@Lulu it wasn’t nice what he has done but speak to him and at the end it is an emotional journey for both of us and men deep inside are not as strong as they show so maybe he is scared and insecure as well….have a nice chat reassure each other and it will be all ok……I’m sure he wants the best for you xxx

To fair my other. Half is awalys. Having a go at me. For being on hear 24/7 so i think they may be pushed out abit xx

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