Telling family about your BA

Has anyone else found it difficult to tell their parents about their boob job? I just don’t know how to bring it up in conversation and I’m worried they might not approve and try and talk me out of it. I don’t live with them anymore but I know if I don’t mention it they’ll definitely notice so then there’ll be loads of questions like why have you suddenly grown boobs?!

I have told my mum and 4 close friends, but I am struggling to tell my husbands family.

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NOT telling the inlaws. they’re catholic church go-ers who would NOT approve. Although my family are pretty easy going. i told my mum with ease. she was so happy… after all, shes been the one in the past listening to me cry telling her how unsexy i feel.

ive been wearing gel bras with gel inserts and tight tops to make my boobs appear to be a D anyway… been doing that for over a year now and no one has mentioned anything. i have to keep this a secret from my young children… just so they don’t grass me up to the mum in law pmsl.

I not really bothered about my husband’s family, they probably wouldn’t notice anyway as I don’t see them very often. My husband has told his mum though and understands as she thinks it’ll make me look more in proportion. It’s my own mum I’m bothered about, we see eachother quite a lot but have never really talked about personal things like that. I’ve got pretty much same boobs as my mum and she hasn’t had boob job so I don’t think she’d understand :S x

hey chick I am nearly 40 and I didn’t tell my mum until 3 days before the op…how sad am I lol…x I think we underestimate our mums a tad…after all if we’re happy thy’re happy…show them u trust them and tell them it’s ur dream..x

Yes, I found it really hard. I kept trying to bring it up but chickened out. I told my mum 5 weeks before my op after I had my pre op because I was late home from work and she asked where I’d been. I was so relieved to have finally told her and she was really excited for me, I thought she would be but I wasn’t 100% sure she’d be happy xx

Hell yes and ive asked the lovely ladies for advice on it a million times. I told my mum i was looking into it, asked her to come to appointments etc but she was so against it and said she wants nothing to do with it, said she would tell my dad if i didnt (they are divorced) but I wasnt to book it without telling her haha! Have to say her reaction hurt cos usually she is very supportive of me and i talk to her about most things but because of that i have kept the fact i booked it from her. Im going to bite the bullet and tell her tomorrow and whatever her reaction so be it. I just think she should know and her reaction to finding out i’d done it behind her back would be worse than telling her.

The reason im telling you this isnt to scare you, lots of people have had great reactions from their families. I just think that if you don’t get the reaction you want from your family if it is something you really want then dont let it put you off. Be strong!! It took alot for you to start this process and you are an adult and can make your own decisions so like i said if you really want it then go for it!! Good luck xx

Ive been wearing a padded bra since i was 15 (im 25 now) and been going on about having a boob job since then so my mum has always known ive wanted it done. But when i actually told her i was going for the consultation etc she wasnt too overjoyed but she knew how much i wanted it done so has been supportive. I couldnt face telling my dad so i let my mum do it lol what a chicken!

He was more sad that i felt i needed to do it but again was very supportive as he knows how miserable i feel about myself. my sis is jealous and super excited for me

Ive been with my bf since i was 13 so he is probably just happy to get me to shut up about my boobs lol

im not telling his parents, tbh, i wear gel bras all the time so no one will probably know the difference afterwards anyway lol

good luck with telling your folks roch, you will be fine & feel much better after telling them x

i told my mum when i was 15 that wen i was 18 i was gunna get a loan and get a ba.. i didnt, i then constantly went on about it and she asked me to wait till i was 21 to make sure i have thought about it enough and was making the right desision.. 3 years later and it hadnt been mention again (atleast to my mum) untill i told her i had booked a consultation i was so nervous of what she was going to say- her reply was… ohh you gunna get them done before xmas? i was really shocked as previously when winging about my lack of boobs she wud say ‘ ull get used to having none;’ etc she is now supposrtive but said im not coming with you lol xx

I didn’t tell my parents until the day before my op as I didn’t want them to talk me out of it but it made things worse……I heard nothing from them for 2 weeks after my op so was pretty much on my own with the kids as hubby works long hours. When I challenged them about it after the 2 weeks they said they felt upset that I hadn’t trusted them enough to tell them sooner. In hind sight I should have been braver and told them sooner & given them the opportunity to help out, I just didn’t think they would approve and couldn’t cope with them being negative.

Haven’t mentioned it to the inlaws don’t think they will even notice….we only see them a few times a year!

From personal experience I think it’s best to get it out the way and tell your mum at least, give her the oppoertunity to support you, I wish I had as I really wanted her to be there after I had my op and she wasn’t there because I handled it badly. We are fine now but by avoiding it I definately made it worse! Good luck hun xx

Hi roch, I had my BA in oct 09, yet still havent told my family, and I see them a few times a week! I had 340 unders, and went from 32A to 32E, and even in a bikini no one has said anything to me. I don’t think my parents would have supported me at all, and I know my brothers would have taken the p!$$, so I just didnt say anything, then I haven’t brought it up since. I’m happy and confident now, that’s all that’s been noticed x

funny you have written this thread, I’ve just got off Skype to my mum and dad and told them, I’m such a baby I couldn’t tell em face to face so did it over webcam…. I’m one day PO so had it dine yesterday. mums really happy for me and poor dad nearly had a heart attack. cnt believe in 23 I felt like a 5year old just then. xx

My mum is coming with me for the op, she has been great but she’s known I’ve wanted this since I was a teenager (I’m 35 now). I came into some money from work and also sadly from a burglary where all my Nannas jewellery was stolen. I was devestated and the insurance money is almost exactly what my ba cost, so my mum jokes that everything happens for a reason and that my Nanna would be egging me on to do it (she was a very trendy lady!). My mum and sisters all got more than their fair share in that dept so they are all really exited for me, and my mum even told my Grandad who is ok about it considering! I’ve never padded my bras so I will def notice, will be hilarious if I go from having the smallest to the biggest chest in the family!!!

Haha I had no worries with my boyfriend’s mum as she had one about 4 years prior LOL, bless her she was such support for me post op My mum was gutted. She actually cried. I felt guilty at that point. But when she tried being angry and saying why would you do that, it’s not natural etc, i just pointed out that it’s exactly the same as her wanting a teeth makeover and she sort of relented. Actually my dad was fine with it which i wasn’t expecting as he can be very old school. He said it was up to me and there were worse things i could do lol.

After my BA my mum came around, fussing over me and asking if everything was ok.

So you see, most parents/ family will come around. They might also surprise you and have a totally different reaction to what you expected xx

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