telling people about the surgery

Hey… no my parents have been behind me for years, they’ve always known i was unhappy with my breast size… they have been supportive from day one. I was lucky…they were and are happy 4 me . Good luck and let me know how you get on xx

cheers guys. still havent gotten the courage to tell family yet! but im getting there, i reckon if i have loads of research they might just stick with me!

thanks guys.

Kate. x

Hiya

I had my ba 2 weeks ago 2mora and i jst told my mam last Thursday afta I had it done. And she wasnt bothad that I had it done but she was devastated that i hadnt told her be 4 i got it done. I didnt tell her because i thought she wud go mad n she said she probably wud coz shes me mam n thats wat mams do but she said I wud of gone ahead wit it any way but at least she wud of know n she wud of gettin ova it. I feel awful 4 not tellin her n wish i had been braver n told her as like I say its ur life ya old enough to do wat ya like its ur money n ya dnt live ya life to make otha people happy u live it to make ya self happy xxx

i am 20. 21 next jan.. when i was 16 i asked my mam when i was 18 can i get a loan & get a boob job, she said do what u want if it makes you happy. but when i turned 18 i realised i was quiet mature for my age and wanted to do as much reasearch as i could and save the money up myself instead of doing it and regretting it.. i have been dropping it in conversation with my mam over the past year or so that have been talking to other girls who have had a b.a and looked at pictures etc & then yesterday i told her i was gunna book a consultation.. she told me to wait for a year or so as i wasnt fully developed and all that crap & all i said was im 21 in janurary & that when i AM getting a boob job & she never said anything back to me.. i know she knows i wanted 1 for the past 6 year but i think she only realised how serious i was when i said i was going for a consultation…
i think when it comes down to it she will be supportive as i hope any mother should be as they would rather be there for you than not be talking to you at all as they will be wurried about the procedure encase anything goes wrong etc

xx

your right emzy i was worried about telling my family but theyve all come round to it still not told a few though and i had my ba 3 and half weeks ago cant avoid them forever though i suppose lol x

kate i know how you feel , i havent even mentioned it to my dad or two olders brothers. omg and im havin it dun in 2wks . but its like ppl said to me, its my decision and i didnt get a say in the buyin on my dads new harley so if he can spend that money on a motobike in which he wont ever use then what the f***. go for it girl its your body not theirs . if it makes you feel better then do it . i am past caring what other fink now.
GO ON GIRL!!!!!!!

i was talking about this with some of my closest friends, it seems they only just realised how serious i was about doing this, before they thought i was just saying i would, but wouldnt get round to it. but now, i think they finally understand. it sounds stupid, but some mornings when i was getting dressed, after trying on the billionth thing and still finding that my boobs didnt look any bigger, i would just burst into tears…i dont want to be like that, i feel so stupid after, because, there are so many worse things in the world.

i dont think my parents will understand this, but i understand that i have to try to explain it to them. i’ve decided that i’ll keep doing research, keep saving, and hope that this will provide more evidence to show my parents how down this makes me.

thank you guys for all your advice, you are all so brave and so lucky to have such supportive friends and family. thank you so so much.

as for RW91, i think thats pretty tricky, um perhaps, you could just tell those at work who you feel closest to and trust. or do as tinker suggested and just get it out in the open, as people will understand and come around eventually…whatever happens, i hope you’re happy.

thank you guys so much, you really truly are very supportive and understanding people.

Im scared to tell people at work. I dont want to but if I go back looking different, with bigger boobs they are going to know. I only work in a pub but my boss is so horibble, i know if i told her she would tell everyone and i dont want this to happen. Im really stuck on what to do, im thinking of telling her im going on holidays but not sure advice would be appreciated

xx

i told work and first thing they laughed – i thought i might as well tell them all as they will notice during the summer and would prefer a day of laughs than a summer of people talking about me behind my back – when i went back they all wanted to see… – now i have had it done and not 2 big (cause the first thing people think is glamour girls and big boobs) they said they look so natural – was the best thing i did was tell them out in the open – they think what they want but once its done they all changed and was so supportive,,,

my parents on the other hand total different kettle of fish – totally hte fake people – hate cosmetic surgery – hate people having surgery when its not for medical reasons etc – even more scared as i have just got over meningitus….

but i sat my mum down and blurted it out and the thing that caught her was i have had so many obsticles in myl life (troubles having my little boy and now a single mum along with alot of other things) i want something for me – if u had something very very ugly on ure face that knowed ure confidence people would understand if u had an op to remove it – its just the same –

i felt so manly… so ugly… covered up… no confidence… etc etc…. i blurted out how it would happen – what support i would need – how i truly felt – and that i didnt want to go another 10 years with living life in this way becuase of how people would react to the surgery – and regret my life – knowing how this operation would change my whole outlook on life… lasted a while and at the end she gave me a hug and said thanks for explaining it and i will support u – was nto expecting it… u cant plan a conversation like that only write down bullet points but for sure ull find the words…

dont live any more regret – people support u when its already done – i had mine 2 weeks ago and sooo much happier already even though this stupid sports bra flattens them i have already bought 3 bikinis in all different sizes just for the fun of it knowing they will fit… long winded i no but if u want something that bad – only u can change it….

good luck and keep us updated… xxx

Hi Kate S

Ive just turned 20 and I decided I was going to have surgery about January time .. I went to a consultation with P.C then another with a surgeo (but didnt find him v.helpful) before I told my mum about it .. This way wen I did tell her she knew I was being serious! .. We were sat down in her room one day about end of Feb and I just “Mum, Im saving..” and she said what for and I said “a boob job” .. hahaha .. as simple as that! I’d told my 5 closests friends and my bf and they’d all be great! (well my bf werent too please to be honest bcuz “im fine the way I am” and hes worried about implications and stuff..) .. Anyway back to my mum .. she digested the information for about 30seconds (which seemed SOOOOO long) .. then said “are you being serious” and i said “yeh” .. and she was like “ok” … I was like .. “Arent you going to talk me out of it?” Expecting the *dont be stupid lecture* to come .. and she was like your old enough to make your own decisions, youve done your research so fine! .. I was like phheeewwwwww .. NOW my dad!!!! Thats a whole different kettle of fish .. he’ll just see the money side of it .. But i dont care .. Im paying for it all .. I’ll probli tell him like the week before the op (im all booked in

Honestly .. Its not as bad as you think it will be xxx

thank you again guys. its nice to have someone understand how difficult it is, i have told a few close friends, and they are really supportive of me, and im glad of that. its just its different when its your parents, you know…

hello. I’m thinking of cosmetic surgery for sometime next year, when I hopefully will have enough money. However, even though I’m pretty sure that I want to do this surgery, there is one thing that is holding me back…my parents. I know their views on surgery, and I think they will be incredibly disappointed in me, and may want to discourage me, I also think they might be a little embarrassed about me wanting surgery (breast inlargement) and I was wondering if anyone else has had the same problems and what advice people would give me in breaking the news to them.

thank you guys. X

I only told 10 friends – my work don’t know and my parents don’t know cos I knew it was easier to say nothing……when they meet up with me and if they ask, I;ll have no issues telling them. I guess it depends on the situation but I would just explain why you want it and show them all the research you have done including this fab forum.
Even if they still against it, they will eventually come round xx

that is really brilliant. thank you very much. i will completely bear everything you said in mind when i tell my parents.

is this what you did when you told your parents??? what was their reaction and did they have any queries???

thank you. so much.

Tell them how dont have much confidence, and how u dont fell like a real woman.. and emphasise how down you are about your breast size.. also address your mum with questions about how she would feel if she was you and had smaller breasts.
Also if she realises that you will look natural after the op… and that it is about your happiness.. and the risks are very small… and how u have done your research, u r paying for it yourself, and how the surgeons are registered with the BAAPS.
Ask them if they love u.. when they say yes, ask them if they want you to be happy

Also ask them why they are so against surgery?? Is it the fact that your are changing what god gave you.. the risks… the whole stigma attached to being fake and having plastic surgery, do they think its just something fake people or celebs or glamour models do?
Do they think that girls who get their boobs done want to do it so they can have their boobs out all the time?

What exactly makes them ‘disagree’ with plastic surgery

Remind them that people who have plastic surgery are unhappy with the way they look…

Pinpoint their fears/worries about you having plastic surgery and try to reassure them.. surely if they love you they wont ‘shun’ you for doing something that makes you happy, which is not harming anyone.

If you also explain how you have thought about this, and its not a rash decision

Hope this helps xxx

does anyone else have any advice about telling parents about the decision to have surgery???

thanks

Kate x

well, i hope your consultation goes welll, and that your mum will, eventually, understand how much this means to you.

good luck. x

No problem. Ive got my consultation on wed and hoping to have it done in two weeks. My mum is big but im not, im about 34b so its not that bad. x

my self confidence hasnt been great, but i try not to show it, or how much my breats effect me. im a 34AAA, 8 stone (ish) and 5 foot 2 and a half (lol). most of my female side of the family have naturally big breasts (including my mum), so i dont think she would understand.

i dont think i will tell her by text, but I’m still not sure when is a good time to tell her, or how to tell her, but thank you for your help all the same. x

I did it through text which was a bad way to do it. I live with my mum,i have no self confidence so this is why i want it done and she will just have to live with that. x

thank you. i really dont want to upset them, as im sure you didnt want to upset your mum either. i still live with my parents, and will probably still be living with them when i want to have the surgery, so i do think i should tell them, but i dont want to rock the boat sort of thing. how did you tell your mum, did you just come out with it, or did you show her the website or something else???

Hi Kate,

I have just had this convo with my mum who is going mad as i want it done asap. Im nearly 21 and i think im old enough to make my own mind up. Go with your own fellings. x

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