Telling your parents about your BA…before or after?

I just wondered if anyone else didn’t tell their parents before they had their op, or are planning not to tell them? I would like to tell my mum i am getting it done, but i am 21 nearly 22 years old so i don’t need her consent and i am paying for it myself.

I just know that if i tell her she will try and persuade me not to do, and i have already been through that with my boyfriend and it is upsetting when you really know that it is what you want and they won’t accept it!

I don’t want her to tell me not to do it, and then go ahead and do it anyway against her word so i was thinking it would be better to just do it and then tell her after. Anyone else had this problem?? xx

I told my mum before and I haven’t told my dad yet! He lives in Spain and I’m not seeing him until May…its strange because no one has really noticed as I’ve just had a baby and they think its because of that! Lol x

My dad lives in new zealand so i don’t have to really worry about telling him! I don’t feel like it is a thing that dads are as likely to notice either lol. And that is a good time to have it if you dont want people to notice don’t think i can wait that long though! xx

My mum knows but I wont be telling my dad!! He is from Jamaica and he doesn’t believe in plastic surgery… He would prob curse me to the floor so I’m going to hide it from him for as long as I possibly can lol…I’m 25 too and I’m old enough to make my own decisions but in their eyes I’m still their baby Xx

I told my mum and dad straight away, i am only 19, and still live at home, but im close with my parents anyway! If anything, my dad was more supportive than my mum! x

i was petrified of telling my nan and grandad (they raised me as parents died when was 4) sounds stupid seeing as im 23 a married woman and mum of two. was going to leave it till afterwards but only 3 weeks before im bridesmaid for my brother so out of respect i told them. they’re not impressed but know its my decision so said will support me x

Hello Chloe, im not having my op till May but the only person who knows is in fiance. I amnt telling anyone for the exact same reason as yourself.. im worried they will judge me and try talk me out of it. Im doing it for myself and i dont think unless your in our position others really understand.

Once i have them done im not going to flaunt them in my familys face so im hoping they wont notice – Im a 32B just now and getting 340cc unders to get me to a D.

Hope this helps

xxxxxx

Honesty is the best policy, it is probably best just to tell them before, you will get them done regardless so it will be fine

hi Hun, i had a nightmare a week or so back as I told my mum and she did everything she could to talk me out if it, I am still doing it (tomorrow) but i havent told my dad.

Your parents will always worry about you and my mum was more worried about why i would do it and the operation might go wrong but i understand why she was worried. i even considered not doing it but I am 30, married, have a house, a career and I am my own person, what ever you decide on remember you are you and you are doing this for you and no one else.

If they do try and talk you out of it stand your ground and tell them that you are not asking their permission you are telling them out of respect for them and that you don’t want them to worry about you xx

Told mum before (so she could help with childcare!) and not told dad yet..though i’m guessing he’ll prob figure it out somewhere down the line xx

i was so worried about telling my mum but she was so cool with it, she even wants a tummy tuck now

maybe your mum will suprise you, shes obviously going to be worried but if you can afford it and it will make u happy i bet she will support u all the way xx

Thank you everyone for your comments! I will have to tell her at some point either before or after the op because i am living with her at the moment so would be pretty hard to hide! I just worry that she will be disappointed in me for some reason and will try make out that i am just being ‘silly’, she also won’t appreciate me spending all my savings on it! But oh well, its what i want and i am i old enough to decide. I can see it from her perspective though xx

Ah hun she won’t be disappointed in you she will be worried about you coz of the op and the anaesthetic, tell her in your own time, I am sure will understand or at least come round to it. I totally know how you feel though xx

Im 36 and too nervous to tell my mum!!! I will tell her but I know she wont be happy about it. x

i didn’t tell anyone in my family yet! xx

I’m having my op in May but none of my family know about it. I’m not going to tell my parents mainly because I don’t have a clue how to come out with it but also because I’m not sure they’ll approve and will probably think I’m stupid and will worry after all the PIP stuff that’s been in the news. I’m 23 and married so don’t live at home anymore, think my husband’s just gona say “oh by the way chelle’s had her tits done” after my op haha! Not sure how well that will go down! xxx

Haha roch that’s funny, that’s just what my hubby’s like xx

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