Tips/advice on how to bring up BA considerations to family? (only male)

Hello

I’ve been considering breast augmentation for a while and am currently in the research process. If I do decide to go ahead, I don’t think it’ll be for at least a year due to money.

My main problem I’m thinking of is that I don’t know how to bring it up with my family. You see, the only female family members I have or have had were my Grandma, mum and two aunties, then the women my uncles my family married.

My mum passed away in March and she would’ve been the only one I could’ve talked to about it, she would’ve talked to my dad and stuff. I was never close enough to my Grandma to do so, but she passed away a year and a half ago too.

My aunties (married to uncles… on my mother’s side) are across the world and not close and my one auntie who is close (geographically) isn’t close to me at all, she’s my dad’s brother’s wife and we’re not close to them at all.

I have no-one to talk to. I have kinda close friend’s mum’s. My best friend’s mum knows my dad and she knows I’m unconfident… so maybe she could help.

I know the reasoning between male and female may be odd. But how do you talk about boobs to your dad?

Also, we all hate hospitals seeing as my Grandma and mum spent near enough the last 10 years of their lives in them. So I can imagine the hospital and risk factors are going to be horrible to contemplate too.

As a dad, he’ll want to protect his little girl. The risks of anything will terrify him even more because of what’s happened.

Any tips?

Thank you.

Hi I was just wondering y u want a ba I am the same age as u to the date and I want 1 because I breastfed my 3 kids and went from a 30f/ff to a 32a. I told.my dad in a text we r not very close but I reasured him that I had done my research and I would be more than safe. Maby ask ur g.p if there nice lol I asked my fist 1 a year ago and she was really helpful but the 1 I have now is a total cow. Feel free to add me hun xx

Hi I was just wondering y u want a ba I am the same age as u to the date and I want 1 because I breastfed my 3 kids and went from a 30f/ff to a 32a. I told.my dad in a text we r not very close but I reasured him that I had done my research and I would be more than safe. Maby ask ur g.p if there nice lol I asked my fist 1 a year ago and she was really helpful but the 1 I have now is a total cow. Feel free to add me hun xx

You have the same birthday… haha, weird.

I’m a 30-32A (depending on the bra style and the shop etc.) but it’s all for confidence. I’m naturally really slim so I have next to no body fat, so it just is my build but I don’t feel feminine at all. I end up crying when I try on clothes in shops, shopping is not a fun experience, I just end up depressed cause nothing fits or looks nice.

I’m 5ft 7″ and about a size 6, so I’m relatively tall compared to most people with my bra and clothes size, so I just look even flatter. I have a body kinda like Keira Knightley or Agyness Deyn, but with a slightly less defined waist.

I might try that, texting him I’ll add you now

Thank you!

Hi metalvixen,

I found the men in my life wanted to know first about finance – how much it was costing, can I afford it.

Second they want to know have we down our research, who is the surgeon.

When my Dad saw Mr Russo on Embarrassing Bodies that sealed the deal lol. He was pleased to see he was a highly renowned surgeon who was proud to go on national TV. He could also see the results and how happy his patients were.

So with men, don’t bother to much with the emotional chat, they like facts, figures and results.

Good luck Hun and I am so sorry to hear about your recent loses.

Xx

I have the same problem I am also 5 6″ and a size 4/6 I was in la senza a few weeks ago and there smallest bra ( in a 32 ) didn’t fit I burts out crying the pore sales lady didn’t no what to do x

hey metalvixen,

i can so relate to this!! i have a huge family that i had to get the balls to talk to about it! my brother cried (hes 24 btw lol) and begged me not to! and im currently in the process of gearing up to tell my mum….. i dont live near my family as my job is in the midlands, im 22 so it doesnt get any easier lol!

be honest with them! make sure your 100% sure, confident and done your research. maybe even set up a consultation and take dad along as all the consultation involves is talking about implants sizes cost surgeons, no boob measuring. i found when i told my dad i was brutally honest with him and very “ive made my decision and thats final end of discussion” ! i now laugh and joke about getting boobies with everybody. remember as much as your dad loves and wants to protect you, your a grown up, your not a child you have ur own mind and decisions to make hope this helps and i havnt waffled too much Xx will Add u hun if thts ok

hi there,

i had my 1st ba after having my 1st child 15yrs ago. i really didnt know how to tell anyone about how i was feeling. the 1st person i actually talked to was my step father. i dont even know how it came about. i was really surprised by this reaction and it couldnt have been a more positive one. he told me if i was 100% positive that it was the right thing for me to do, and i had done everything possible to research the subject, then he would support me 100%. he said he has never realised i felt the way i did and was sorry he hadnt know earlier. men dont think like us women, they need to understand the way we feel 1st. try bringing the subject up about u been upset about having small boobs. hope this helps x

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