Unsupportive friends

Just wondering if any of you lovely people had friends who were really negative about the whole thing and if so how you coped with it?

My best friend has basically given me a ‘parent like’ lecture and said they didn’t realise I was that vain!

I tried to laugh it off, but can’t deny there is an element of truth in it. I hate my nose right now and have a real complex about it, it’s like a bulb stuck in the middle of my face and in addition to that, every time I have a cold it swells up even more and glows bright red! Nice!

Thing is though is that I love my friend to bits and feel gutted at the thought that I’ve disappointed them. Am stressed enough about the op next week and now keep worrying about my friends too!

Anyone else out there been through this? Morale is now at an all time low! Thanks all! xx

hey hun if your friend is a true friend they will be happy for you and support you through it!! it maybe that your friend is a little jealous and this is why she is acting like this! i did not have surgery because i am vain i had surgery because i had no self confidence! you cant have surgery/not have surgery for someone elses reasons you have to have surgery for your own reasons!!I havent had this problem my friends have been really supportive and really happy for me! i hope all goes well with your op and hope your friend comes through for you in the end!! good luck hun xx

What you are doing is for you and nobody else! I am sure if your friends had something that got them done everyday they would do something about it! Why live with something you hate when you can change it! x I think there might be a bit of jealousy going on! Having my boobs done is the best thing ever and its only been 7 days….cant explain how its changed me already! xx

What you are doing is for you and nobody else! I am sure if your friends had something that got them down everyday they would do something about it! Why live with something you hate when you can change it! x I think there might be a bit of jealousy going on! Having my boobs done is the best thing ever and its only been 7 days….cant explain how its changed me already! xx

I think it is most like jelousy and not worries about you. You just need to stand behind your decision. I know there are many haters of fake boobs but that’s what we have to cope with.

Thanks all! Wish it was jealousy but my friend is a bloke and more like a big brother to me. He’s also really good looking, so I guess he just doesn’t understand and never will what it’s like to feel minging (lol!). He said one of the reasons he always liked me was ‘cos I never seemed to care about that kind of stuff. In that sense it’s true, I don’t wear make-up, don’t do my nails (but even that’s only cos I’ve got short stumpy fingers, so if I do my nails it just draws attention to them!). Anyway, maybe in a few months time when I have a fab nose which just looks right, he’ll suddenly get it!

You did cheer me up though – it’s just nice to know there’s some nice people who do understand!

I think sometimes friends say things like that because they don’t fully understand what your going through. My best mate was so supportive because she’s known me for so long and she knows how many times I’ve mentioned hating my nose and not having boobies! She came with me to initial consult to ‘case the joint’ haha as she was worried about the operation part and not the actual reasons or after affect. My mum was shocked and against it at first but I explained to her, when ppl are unhappy with their weight they diet, and nobody bats an eyelid, but there’s literally NOTHING you can do about a nose to change it apart from an op. Otherwise I’m sure we all would’ve done it! And my boyfriend was worried about the money side of things (typical ha!) but after seeing how excited I was after meeting my surgeon he came round to the idea of ‘what’s £7000 compared to a lifetime happy?!’. He’s also worried all get so confident after op that I’ll leave him for someone hotter haha but I’ve involved him in my journey so much that he really feels part of it, it’s the biggest thing I’ll ever do and he knows that being part of it is special. It means so much to us doesn’t it!

Maybe explain to your friend what it really means to you and your confidence. It’s not vanity, it’s unhappiness. He’s your friend he should want to see you feel your best and hell notice your happiness once you’ve healed!

He might also, like my friend, be worried about the operation part. Just sit and show him all the stuff from MYA if you want to prove you’re in good hands and he might relax a bit.

Hope he comes round to the idea! But if not don’t you worry you’re doing this for yourself and to be happy for the rest of your life, and there’s loads of us on here for support when your feeling low!

Good luck for your op chick! Exciting! I’ve got 22days left til mine! Eeep! Xxxxx

10000000% they are jealous. no doubt in my mind. PURE JEALOUSY! xox

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