Unsupportive Partners?

Bit Of A Strange Question Girls But How Were Your Partners About You Having The Surgery? If They Wasn’t Very Happy About It How Did You Convince Them Or Is It Just A Case Of Them Getting Over It As It’s Our Body Lol? My Partner Isn’t Too Keen On The Idea But I Kind Of Want Him Too Feel Happy For Me Any Ideas How I Can Do This?
Thanks xx

I’m not with my partner anymore but he didn’t want me to get it done at all – it was frustrating because I wanted him to support me and not put doubts in my head. I am not with him now but if I could give you any advice it would be do what YOU want to do – its your body, its your confidence, its your life

I cant wait to get mine done now in 8 weeks!! – I already know its going to be the best decision ever!

I hope he changes his mind but if he doesn’t then he will have to get over you – if he loves you then he will love you with or without fake boobs 🙂

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It’s So Hard Because I Don’t Want Too Cause Any Tension Between Us, But In The Same Respect It Isn’t Something I Have Just Pulled Out Of Thin Air- He Knows I’ve Wanted It Done For A Few Years Now But Never Really Perused It As He Was Dead Against It… Although This Time Round With Mentioning It He Hasn’t Point Blank Said No Way, It’s More Him Trying Too Reassure Me I Don’t Need Them & That He He’s Happy The Way I Am (Even Though I’m Not!) So I Think He’s Starting Too Come Around Slowly He Just Worries That In 10 Years Time If Something Happens Too Them How Will We Afford Too Rectify The Problem But I’ve Told Him We Will Deal With That If It Happens Lol .
You Must Be Very Excited , 8 Weeks Will Fly By Hun ! X

Hi dear

My hubbie always said the quickest way to a divorce was for me to get a boob job. I have always joked about getting one but had never gone into too much info as to why I wanted one. Well I finally did this it resulted in me crying my heart out in a heap on the floor. He doesn’t understand it, but he sees how unhappy it has made me and so has been a great support ever since. I have mine booked for 5th August. I have gone through the stages very slowly to give him and myself enough time to get our heads round it 8 months. I want one so badly but surgery is nothing to take lightly things can go wrong and you need to be sure. I hear stories of only 6weeks from 1st consultation to surgery! Not very long for a life changing decision if you ask me. The bottom line is my hubbie is supportive but only because I dared to say the things I had never told anyone before. It’s hard but worth it. He loves me just the way I am but he understands that I just don’t and he doesn’t have to live in my head. I suggest sitting him down and telling him how you truly feel

Hi hun,
I have always been very very insecure about my breasts even prior to meeting my hubby which he knows. Things got dramatically worse after having and breastfeeding our 2 children and then losing a lot of weight last year. My hubby openly admits he has never liked fake breasts and does not like the feel of them yet he 100% supports my reasons for wanting to have had them done. For my own reasons and for the insecurities it caused when we were together.
We spoke about it for a long time and decided to book a consultation at the beginning of June- I am now 3 days post op and couldn’t be happier. I’m still yet to find out exactly what hubby thinks of them but I have a feeling he will like them just as much.
I have to disagree with above as I don’t think any timeframe is correct for consultation to surgery as long as you both are 100% the right thing to do physically, mentally and financially. For me I knew I had to have it done in July if I was to go ahead due to the recovery clashing with important dates.
Do what YOU need to do to be confident and happy but only you can decide what you shall do if your partner is not supportive xx

Thanks For Your Replies, He Is Aware I’m Insecure About Them But Suppose Because We Have Been Together For A While Now He Probably Automatically Feels Like I Should Just Get On With It As He’s Not Concerned By Them So Why Should I But We All Know That’s Not The Case! Would You Recommend Taking Him Too The Consultation Too Make Him Feel Involved With It? Or Do You Think That Could Back Fire & Make Him Feel Stronger Towards Not Wanting Me Too Have Them Done? I Two Have Two Children, From Meeting My Partner I Have Gone From A Size 8 Completely Flat Chested Too Having Our Two Children Being A Size 12 34b/c To Now Still A Size 12 But One Breast Is Larger Then The Other And I Really Hate The Shape Of Them! I Know It Will Make All The Difference Too Me But He Seems Too Be Looking Long Term ie) What Happens If It Goes Wrong & You End Up Having Too Pay More? What Happens In 10 Years Time When They Have Dropped? I Suppose The Money Side Is A Big Issue Too Him Also.
Xx

Hey hun , my other half was against it to begin with saying I don’t need one I’m beautiful as I am etc and I believe he genuinely feels like that as how he is towards me shows that by after explaining to him how I felt about my boobs and the effects of having 5 children had had on them . He agreed to support me fully and is now as excited as I am about them … My other half is a very jealous and possesive man and hates the male attention I get already and isn’t afraid to tell any man who treads out of line that he’s not happy with their behaviour 🙁 , so I have been thinking ” are these boobies gonna cause more trouble than they are worth ?? But then its for me I want them done and for once my confidence is back sky high he will benefit from the new puppies too lol !
Bottom line hun is , this is about you no one else , so do exactly what suits you and makes you happy xx

Well girls my hubby was a little funny at first because he had 3 of his friends got there girl friends boob jobs and with in three months they all pissed off with other men lol.
but i had mine nearly two years ago now and were still together and i’m now thinking of getting 900cc now, he wants me to 1100cc i think he either wants me to fuck off with someone else or he truly loves bigger boobs lol all you have to do is let them no there special and your doing for them as well as you and no one else and it will be fine men are easy to convince trust me, remember men don’t think with there brain do they lol?? xxx

That Really Made Me laugh Natstar!! My Other Half Is Abit Like That Also Jodie As Silly As It Sounds We Very Rarely Can Go Out Together Because He’s Quite Jealous Also And Always Ends In Arguments :/
He Knows It Will Also Benefit Him But Think He’s Worried About Other People’s Attention Towards Me Even Though The Size I Want Will Hardly Be A Huge Difference!
I’m Definitely Going Too Sit Down And Talk Too Him Properly This Time And Suppose I Kind Of Feel Like If He Can’t Support Me In It Then He Obviously Doesn’t Care As Much About How I Feel As I Thought He Did.. I Will Just Have Too Keep Reminding Him Of The End Result And Like You All Say It Will Be Just As Rewarding For Him As It Will Be For Me 🙂 Thanks For Replying xx

Hi dear, I would def sit down and talk with him. I wanted my husband with me I didn’t want to go through it on my own. I would recommend taking him to consultation it will feel more like you are doing it together and would want him to be a part of it. My surgeon was able to answer all of his and mine questions and put both our minds at rest concerning different issues.

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