Well what a week I've had – warning it's a bit of an essay

Hello ladies

I just wanted to fill you in on my week, to be honest it has been one from hell!!

I finally told my mum on Monday I was having my BA with the hope she would tell my dad for me – wrong I have to do it, still haven’t though. Oh and i will also add that my sister thinks I am stupid too – great family support network I have!

I explained it was what i wanted and she just got upset, said why are you doing this, why would you want to deliberately endanger your life by going under the knife etc etc, she even told me to get fat to get bigger boobs, yep healthy mum!

The killer blow was ‘you have nice sized boobs, if it were your sister telling me then i could understand’!!!! Oh so its fine for her to do it but not for me.

To say i was upset by the end of it all is an understatement, she left it with me and said the next time we talk it will be me telling her I have changed my mind!

I emailed her the next day, couldn’t bare to talk to her, I told her why i was doing it, who it was with, that it was safe and that if she really wanted to she could speak to my PC to find out more. The response was more whys, and i don’t understand then she proceeded to quote the Daily Mail at me – scaremongering piece of crap newspaper – about how a cricketer’s wife had died after her op as they leaked. I won’t go into the rest of it. Then a load of crap about GA’s (which i think is her biggest issue at the moment, that and she thinks I will look like Katy price!!) Again she finished with I hope i have beaten you down.

I started doubting why i was doing this, what would happen if i did, would my family stop talking to me etc. This lasted until Thursday, constantly doubting myself and getting very upset about it all. I will add, I am very independent, totally in control and very rarely show my emotions so to have been like that this week was not a nice feeling for me.

I finally did what any one would and consulted the oracle that is my fabulous best friend, text her thursday and arranged to meet her on friday – word of advice when someone asks if you are ok don’t just say yes and no but don’t worry i will tell you tomorrow, it scares the crap out of them!!

She has made me realise that I am a grown up, I am 31, married to a wonderful man, have my own house and a good job and that only told my mum out of respect to her and look where it got me!! And the main thing was that in a years time if we were sitting having a chat I would regret I didn’t do it and i would resent and blame my mum for it.

So here goes ladies, a once again happy bunny sits here telling you all about my horrible week. I will be doing this, I will be doing it for myself and if people don’t like it then they will just have to learn to like it or do one.

Ladies, take my advice, stand your ground, remember why you want to do this and that its all about you and no one else. You are allowed to be selfish once in a while and if people don’t like that then they don’t know you like they think they do.

10 days to go

Am so pleased your week has ended on a high! Very jealous you’ve only got 10days to go I’ve got 61

good luck hun, only my mum out of my family know and she said that because i’m 20 it was my decision, but was fully behind me with it! as was the bf! i got to the stage where i was like you only live once and i would always regret if i didn’t do it! people will always say its dangerous, its soooo sooooo rare for anything to ever go wrong! people forget to tell you that driving in your car every day is much much much much more dangerous than having a BA!!!!!! your mum will come round hun, especially when she sees how confident and happy you are! people will always gossip and bitch, but it would be through jealousy and the fact they have nothing better to talk about! hope everything goes really well for you! enjoy your day, it really is good, i’m 23 days PO and loving them! good luck!! xx

Hi hunny! I’m so glad your going through with this!

awh well done you!!!! your not beins selfish at all hun! your doing something that is going to change your life for the better and boost your confidence, its gona be the best thing you have ever done like you said your a grown woman and old enough to make your own choices in life and this is obviously something which is really important to you, i totally agree with your friend, if you didnt go ahead you would always resent your mother!! im 34 and thankfully my parents supported me as they knew how much my confidence was affected by my lack of boobs and in the end they even payed for it im nearly 3wks post op now and am the happiest iv ever been! good luck hun, your gona love them xx

Hi ladies

thank you so much for your lovely comments, I had to put something on here to show that it isn’t all easy going and you do come up against issues. It also proves that we all have you lovely ladies to help us along. I don’t actually know what I would do if I didn’t have this forum, sounds silly but I have got so much advise from reading these posts.

I have a huge list of things to take with me to the hospital, things I need post op and all from what everyone has written on here. Kind of sad but I packed my suitcase this morning, 10 days to go and I am ready as though I might give birth any time soon

x

Good luck huni & so pleased that you’ve stood your ground!!! My partner isn’t very supportive he just laughs it off as does my mum..

I’ve wanted this for sooooooo long, i have had four children & dedicated my life to them all.. So I’m with you honey, yes maybe I am being selfish but to be honest I really couldn’t care less, I don’t care what people think or say, my bf thinks I’m joking when I tell him I’m having it done because I don’t think that he actually believes that I’m going to spend the money on myself.. & I think my mum thinks its just an idea that will go away lol

Don’t get me wrong neither of them are saying bad things, my partner is more scared than anything I think, & probably shocked that I’m doing something for myself!! He just says I’ve got to do what makes me happy but at the same time won’t help me choose sizes etc…

Very frustrating but life is too god darn short & just for a short while it’s all about me me me lmao…

Take care & can’t wait to read your Ba story xxx

Oh dear, do your mum and boyfriend think it’s just a phase and you will grow out of it?? Make sure you stick by your guns and go ahead with it, its a nice feeling to actually decide to do something for yourself

My mum is worried and scared, I get that but she doesn’t need to give me the rest of the crap she did.

I need to tell my Dad tomorrow, not sure I am ready for the response I am going to get. i would have done it today but there was a chance they would come over to talk me out of it, I work away during the week so if i do it on my drive to work tomorrow there is no chance they will pop over xx

Glad u have done it Hun and yes it is up to u and it is ur body and if u dont feel comfortable with ur self then why not go and have it done. U can’t make everyone happy in life but if u know this will make u happy then u go and get it done girl!!!! And make urself VERY HAPPY!!!! Otherwise u will regret not having it done and b even more unhappy. Good luck xx

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