When Will I Ever Get Over Him – Off Topic

Girls, I know this is completely off topic but all my friends have been going through there own problems at the moment to even notice that I’m not doing too great myself. In October me and my boyfriend broke up after two and a half years together. He left to start University and never wanted a relationship whilst he was there as it would cause too much strain on us and on his education. We had the perfect relationship, everybody envied us because of how happy we always was. I was heart broken, not going to beat about the bush I was completely and utterly broken. I still am. And I know it sounds silly but I’m putting on this strong front to show all my friends I’m fine and not to worry about me, but in fact I haven’t even had time to get to grips with not being with him. There’s no chance of getting back together as his too into his Uni Life and to be honest I don’t want to get back with him as his changed completely, but it doesn’t hide the fact that I still love him. I cant even talk to other boys because I still feel guilty because of him. His family still want to see me and so does he but its not fair on me. I’m only 20 and was just wondering any words of advice on how I can just get over him and try and move my life on? Thanks in advance girls xx

Hey baby best thing is to do is keep your self active busy , lIsten to William I with Jennifer Lopez track you be soon enjoying your self ! But honestly it takes time as times goes by you will gradually forget about him :–)

I thought 6 nearly 7 months would have got me over him, but I still find myself crying at night and I no I no, no man should ever make you cry. But im an emotional person what can I say haha! Thank you coco121 xxx

I’m going through something similar : ( except me and my ex broke up 2 years ago!!! But continued to still see each other for say 2 month, then not speak for 3 month then see each other for another 4 ect.. Its not healthy we have recently fell out and I think its for good this time. My advice is leave straight away its often easier when they end it and not you.. My friends are the same as urs so alike you its hard to occupy urself to get over him. A true saying is lifes cruelest irony is when you feel lonely is the most important time you need to be alone. I ditched all my friends when I got with my ex and the first time round got over him on my own, looking back nowI have no clue how I did it cos I’m worse off now.. I’m only 19 and I’ve wasted some of my best years and I’m still wasting them! Any advice dont look at his facebook either just makes u worse. And remember theres always someone worse off… I hate this saying but its most true. Time is the biggestn healer ♥ I have zeron patient but everytime I got myself over him It was just a matter of time xx

Your 20, go out and have fun with your girlfriends and hopefully find someone else Life is too short to waste your tears on someone, however special they may have been. Personally I think you should just forget him because you’ve obviously grown apart. I know you were with him for a while but you may really enjoy being single…I know I do Your young and should be living it up! I’m 19 and I definitely wouldn’t want to waste all my time on that stuff, I can do whatever with whoever and I’m definitely happier than most of my friends who are in relationships. At this age you should be doing what you want to do! x

wish I was like that dolly92… ur my age and I’m so unhappy. I’m the same as tictac… Hopefully my new boobs will help x

I can say from personal experience you WILL get over him hun I know at the time it feels like the world is ending and nobody will ever measure up to him, but please trust me. One day you will meet someone so amazing that it’ll make you wonder what you ever saw in your ex!!! Try to make a complete break hun (from his family too) your just punishing yourself by maintaining those relationships. Enjoy yourself hun, book a holiday with your friends, go crazy lol. It’ll really help the healing process xxx

sharksxx – Thank you for your advice it really does mean a lot, I deactivated my facebook the day we broke up and havent even been tempted to go on because I know I will be worse off. Theres been some of my friends that have kept me occupied, but others don’t want to know as they have problems of their own and think just because I put a smile on everyday that I’m over him but I’m not. Thank you hun, add me if you want im always open to have a chat!xx

dolly92 – Wise words of wisdom, I thought going out every weekend would help me as soon as we broke up, and it put my feelings on hold for a bit, but now, that the partyings not as much and my minds on other things, he just pops up! I thought I was doing well, but I still get upset over the fact that 2 and a half years and now im left with nothing. I can see where your coming from as before I met him I was out on the town every single night of the week loving life! But after now I’m jus not comfortable being around boys, maybe its because I’ve lost trust in them? And I just need that 1 person to show me I can trust again in order for me to see there is life after him? Thanks chick xx

@sharksxx It can be like that if you want to…Just forget them! There’s no point in being unhappy over a man at this age, seriously. Why waste your time on one cake when you’ve got your pick of every one in the shop

Why would you look at someone’s facebook page continuously when you KNOW deep down that nothing’s ever going to come of it? It’s a waste of your time that could be spent having fun! I’ve been single for just over 2 years and have never looked back…so glad I’m not devoting my life to someone at this age x

tamara26 – This year I really am doing everything for me. Said when I was 20 I’ll be going Magaluf – BOOKED IT! Wanted my boobs done even though he always tried to persuade me not to – BOOKED IT! Hopefully going to Uni to studying Midwifery – APPLIED FOR IT! Got Promoted at work – CHECK ME OUT! Haha! The thing with me is, I’m always the person giving advice out to my friends, if anyone needs anything they will always come to me. It’s just I can’t take my own advice and no one else has time to give me advice! Great friends ey! xx

@tictac, just get yourself out there again…you’ll be fine and you’ll realise what you’ve been missing out on. xx

Haha @dolly92 I like the cupcake saying! Yeah just mine has gone on for so long its physically draining and feel like I have no true mates… I’ve been single over 2 years too but may aswell have been in this bloody relationship. He says the most awful things too ud think that would make merun further away!x

Aww hunni that’s fantastic Looks like you have a great year ahead and so much to look forward to Maybe your friends see you as the strong, dependable one and don’t realise that sometimes you also need support. You certainly are taking all positive steps to move on It will come with time i swear, like you said just do everything for yourself, be selfish while you have the chance hehe x

@tictac i have added you, i’ll msg you 2moro : ) always easier sometimes to get it off ur chest and listen to other peoples I find. I’m in pretty much the same boat so I kno how u feel… ♥♥ xxx

@sharksxx…so why do you put up with it? Why upset yourself and carry on with this guy when you know in your heart that nothing good will come of it? Just cut him out your life, if he’s saying horrible things to you then he’s obviously not worth your time. Moving on can be easy if you want it to, you just need to let go, simple as…x

I just hope once I have my boobs I’ll stay single for a long timeee! He really does say awful things. Its just wen I’m alone alike tictac my mind goes 100mph thinking stupid things making me much worse! I have zero contact apart from I kno his number off by heart, asked him to change it but he wont. He got an upgrade so had every chance too. I was even with him but he wouldnt. he always runs to me when hes depressed and hes never there for me. U are soo lucky @dolly92 : ( hahai am jelous x

Ahhh babe that is tooo much! You know his number off by heart!? I’m not trying to be mean hun but he shouldn’t have to change his number for you to forget him, the only way you can do that is by yourself. Eurghh just leave him, it’s really not worth wasting your time! Seriously, what are you gaining by stalking his FB page and acting as is personal counsellor when he’s depressed? Nothingg! Move on before you regret it…

It’s not luck doll, it’s being realistic x

I have blocked him on fb now it was just past times I had him on fb. I only know it cos ive deleted and re added it tht many times… I know : ( I’m such a fool x

You just need to get over it hun…it’s been 2 years! That’s a loooong time lol, you really should just forget the whole business and move on…Obviously I don’t know the particulars of your relationship but if he wanted to get back with you don’t you think he would have asked you to be his girlfriend again if you’ve been on and off for all this time? It’s time to find a handsome stranger and stop wasting your time on this douche x

I don’t like to say it, but I can understand why he ended the relationship, long distance is hard and whilst at uni he will be surrounded by temptation, it’s easier for you in the long run him breaking up with you on good terms rather than him cheating on you and it being messy!!!

Break ups are never easy but you will never get over him whilst you are still friends! I would stop contact with him completely (easier said than done I know) until you are over him, once you have moved on it will be easier to have a friendship with him but not now not whilst your still clinging on to hope that you’ll get back together.

Take care chick and remember your still young and you haven’t met the love of your life yet he’s still waiting to meet you x

Don’t beat yourself up for having feelings, you were with your ex for two and a half years, that’s a big chunk of time to just forget in a few months. Honestly it will get better, but it will take time.

Just focus on what you have achieved so far this year, well done!

Enjoy yourself x

hi tictac,

just noticed your post about getting over your ex, im so sorry for what your going through, but you need to talk to your friends, they will be upset to know your so down and that they dont know. i know your saying there busy,but there your friends,its what there there for, you need to keep busy, its the alone times that are the worst i know that:(

if you ever need to let off some steam or chat,feel free to message me

xxxx

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