your reasons for a BA….

oo have a nice hol liane, its gonna be amazing being able to wear what you want and feel good about yourself!
jacqui im sooo jealous i bet it was soo good throwing them out! when i go out theres more chicken fillet and air or gel or whatever there than there actually is of me haha!
i cannot wait to go crazy buying underwear!! and also bikinis and dresses etc etc!! iv got my first consulation today im sooo excited :bigsmile: !!
haha and yes i agree with jacqui your boyfriend is gonna LOVE your ba once its done xxxxx

Yes u r sooo right roxanushka im 52 and had ba 4 months ago,had am sooo happy with them, go for it girl you will love them xxx

I just decided to have mine done this summer. Cant believe theres so many of us living a similar story! It’s a very uplifting feeling as I do feel Iam taking a ride on my emotional rollercoster… I too at the age of about 15 realised that there wasnt much more going to appear at the front of me…All these comments: ‘hey, your sister is in year 11 and she still has no boobs!’… and so on…

I am 24 now and have been going through all the same small and bigger tortures as all of you girls: starting from holiday nightmares, changing room fobias, feeling absolutely non-feminine, wanting to burst out crying at the sight of an awesome low neck dress that I knew I could never wear, hating, ABSOULTELY HATING! all the fabulous lingerie ads to abandoning my once beloved water sports at the age of 17.
And I too never change in front of my boyfriend.
What makes things even more frustrating for me is the number of times I had to reject modelling job offers, giving false explanations to why ‘I am not interested’ before scouts that approached me in the streets blissfully unaware of what is so well hidden underneath my top…making a good ‘impression’ but not quite being able to meet their strict requirements. Life’s IRONY! I cant even express how tired I am of hearing, from those around me, how ‘lazy’ or ‘thoughtless’ I am for not taking my chances and wasting opportunities. Oh well, if they only knew my ‘opportunities’ are still heavily padded…
Not for much longer though. Been planning to have a ba ever since turned 19, wasn’t possible though due to finance. But I am ready and determined to do it this summer.

As for boyfriends…we’ve had extensive talks on that matter with my bf, and I think all guys have their own fears about ba, whether they admit to it or not. These may be quite contradictory – first the fear of their own reaction to that ‘sthg new’ then the fear of their girl’s confidence hitting the roof, which you girls mentioned. Of course, my baby said he will support me if that is what makes me happy, it shall make him happy too. I could see some anxiety in him when we first started talking about it, but now he’s just getting more and more excited, looking forward to when we can both enjoy my or rather ‘our’ new assets… recently I even had to calm him down a bit and stop him from constantly providing me with research on new surgical procedures, sizes, shapes and all that…Recently he’s been getting away fantasizing about my ‘new’ breasts-to come…I should be happy to have his engagement and support, and I really am, but we all know ladies that its about how WE feel about our own body and whether WE accept it or not that matters the most. It’s one thing that’s going to keep me anxious till June.

I think people who criticise the steps we take to improve our well being and liberate ourselves from all those insecurities don’t understand what self esteem nightmare we’re going through in the world soaked in a perfect female body myth. It’s specially painful when the critique comes from other women, who never experienced anything like that and are blessed to take their sense of feminity for granted. I am still waiting to fully enjoy mine, with all of its little /as well as the finer pleasures, itching to hit those cute and COMFORTABLE lingerie shops, and then dip myself in the ocean in that hot one piece swimsuit…

to you liane, and all of the anxious ladies out there: go for it! if you want to feel better, cross the barriers that keep you from feeling free and happy, do it!
do your research, prepare yourself and live your life the way you want it. I mean in my case is: I cant live like this any longer, its not even that theyre too small, they hardly ever hatched, so for me it’s like ‘do or die’, cause I’m just so fed up with my limitations.
whatever your motifs are, if youre sure that this is one thing that helps, keep trying to convince your loved ones. U know, we usually fear the things that are yet unknown to us, but in time we can tame anything in this life I believe.

ok, that’s enough from me
good luck and big hugs!

ps. any before and after pics for me please, anyone? haven’t decided on my shape yet…

I’m 28 and not had any kids and always had quite good sized boobs, however nature has taken its course and they now swing like spaniels ears! Haha! I’ve noticed over the past year they have gotten considerably worse so I have taken the decision to get an uplift and implant as I will be losing some volume.

My boyfriend is really supportive, I said I thought he was more excited than me and his response was that he knew that I really wanted it and how good it will make me feel to get it done so he will support me 100%. He has been to my consultations, is taking me to the hospital AND is babysitting me after I have had it done! Bless him.

I will be the first to admit that before I looked into getting a boob job myself I thought they all were huge and for young girls wanting to be glamour models. How wrong could I have been. Its normal women who just want to be happy with their body and have extra confidence. Have my op on 1st April and so far I think its the best decision I’ve made.

Go team boobage!

Hey
Well my story is also kinda similar, I’m 22 but have wanted to get it done since I was 18, but I thought because it was such a big decision that I would wait a few years to make sure it’s what I really wanted, becuase I’m a student it’s a lot of money aswell for me to worry about paying back. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half and what I love about him the most is that he was honest with me, he also told me they looked good as they are (i’m a B but they are slightly tubular) and didn’t really want anything to do with it at the start, but the more I exlained the reasons why I wanted it done, for self-confidence and things like the other girls for going shopping and on holidays, he is now very supportive of me and starting to get as excited as I am – having them done on April 2nd. He told me that he was worried I’d become super-confident (because i am confident about my personality and the rest of the way I look) and leave him to find another guy, but I think he just needed a bit of reassurance. I’m still a bit nervous about having it done and I hope they turn out OK, but I’ve done all my research and am doing it for the right reasons, and people who know that are supportive! Best of luck whatever you choose to do liane…
x

Hi Girls
I was so depressed with the way I looked, I use to sit and cry most days! I use to hate everything from clothes shopping to holidays! I wouldn’t even get dressed/undressed in front of my hubby cos I was so ashamed of my boobs!! Even tho my hubby kept telling me he loved me the way I was, I could never accept it. If I didn’t like what I saw, how could anybody else! I have had 4 children (aged 17, 14,11 & 3) I breastfed 3 of them for a period of 7/8 months each. Pregnancy and breastfeeding certainly took its toll on my boobs more than anywhere else on my body. I had wanted a ba done years ago, but thought it was best to wait until my family was complete, as I didn’t want anything to ruin them. In November 09 I decided it was time to bite the bullet and book a consultation with MYA. OMG I am so pleased I did. In January I had 340cc mhp unders. I understand when people say the BA journey is an emotional rollercoaster, cos thats exactly what it is. I’ve had my doubts for different reasons. but my pc and surgeon Mr Traynor have been so fantastic I can’t praise them enough!! Having a ba hasn’t just given me my confidence back, its given me my life back!!! I love my boobs so much and has for my hubby……well lets just say he loves them more than me!!! xx

i had mine ba for me its given me so much confidence and my hubby loves them ,and was so supportive i never said anything and then one day out of the blue i said i want a boob job and he said go for it and i did and im soooo please i did xx

thanks smll7511 and poppy.
ITs never been about people talking me out of it, but me trying to help explain how I feel and my reasons for this BA to my other half who loves me how I am and will love with no matter what.
Its just I cry each time I try to talk to him as i’m finding this whole journey abit of an emotional rollercoaster, so hoping he can read this thread and others in his own time, which im sure will help.
he is behind me 100%, but just scared for me. x

Well smll7511 i couldnt agree with you more, i have my ba booked for the 27th of april, i have been called selfish, vain, a tart for wanting this done. I dont care what people think of me for getting this done, if they so me naked they would probablys understand why i wanted it done, ha ha. Im only 24 and have wanted this done for 5 years, why wait another 5 years and be desperatley unhappy when i could get it done now and feel happy with myself. I think its the people who try and put you off who are selfish only thinking of themselves and not what sort of positive impact your BA will have on your life. Also having a daughter and being a single parent is not easy and is the most selfishless job in the whole world and i think its my time to have something for me, i work hard enough so why not. Anybody whos considering this, do not be influenced by what people say to you, just come on the forum and read peoples stories coming from people who have had a BA and know what they are talking about. Im so excited for mine i wish it was tomorrow. x x x x x x x x x x x x

Listen life is too short for regrets, theres one thinkg ive learnt in life and thats to be selfish to a degree. this is it your not coming back so live your dreams and do what makes YOU happy as if people love you they will support your decision. Don’t think there is one other half on here that wanted there partner to have the ba as they are scared, scared of what u may become as a ba gives you confidence which may change the person u are and thats what worrys your boyfriend whether hes honest about it or not. My hubby was exactly the same even on the way down to highgate we fell out, kind of think he thought i would back out of it, we have 4 children two being his and i have been called all the names under the sun even selfish. Which anyone with children we agree is so wrong, being a mum is the most selfishless job in the world well i was fed up with being wife,mum,sister,daughter,boss just wanted to do something for me. and appart from havin my children and getting married it was the greatest day of life to wake up with big boobies lol. even my hubby said actually they look really good and i went for 700cc so look really big.
Liane the only regret i had was i waited til in my thirties and wish i had done it younger.
xxx

thank you ladies!!!
don’t know what ill do without you all (prob not go through with having a BA cause I wouldn’t have anyone there for reasurrance) xxx

yeah my boyfriend is fine with my boobs, hes not really a boob man anyway but has had a little grope ha ha!! he thinks they look loads better though and is happy that i am happy XX

ok ladies I am hoping for some help here/advice for my boyfriend… (lots of writing I apologise in advance!)

I have been considering a BA since the age of 15, when I realised I was never going to grow boobs naturally. I was teased at school for being flat chested, and have felt so un womanly all my life. I never buy pretty lace bra’s, or feel sexy in the bedroom, I have lost count the amount of times I have just cried how I feel due to my lack of boobs.

I stupidly brought those pills of the internet about four years ago with the promise they would make me go up a Bra size, now….. I’m not a stupid girl, I feel I have a good head on my shoulders and look back on what I did then makes me realise how low at times I have felt, to the point where I was consuming unknown chemicals of pills as they were marketed to increase breast tissue! how crazy of me to have been!!!

I have talked myself out of having a BA two years ago, due to fear of the unknown really, however I am now 25, and feel I am mature enough to make the decision and go ahead with a BA because this is something I have not been able to forget about. I don’t want to end up in my 30’s or 40’s and decide to have a BA done then, having gone all of my younger years hiding away and feeling so insecure, I feel now is the time for me, so I am all booked up for the 31st March and I am so excited about it all.

I have the most amazing boyfriend, we have been together for almost six years. He is gorgeous, supportive and my sole mate and I cannot believe he is with me sometimes with my pathetic excuses of “apparently” boobs, yet he loves me and loves me the way I am.
He doesn’t understand why I want this BA, and although he is being supportive, he is hoping I will bottle it and change my mind.
He believes me having a BA won’t change how I feel, he believes having the BA won’t make me happy or solve my insecurities, and suggests I have counselling insted – in a nice way he always says he loves me and can’t understand how I can’t see that I’m gorgeous, and feels that I would benefit working with people on my self esteem and confidence insted of going under the knief.

Last night I showed him this forum and tried to show him I’m not the only woman in the world who feels the way I do, and how all these lovely ladies on here have had their BA’s and have absolutely no regrets, and only wished they had it done it sooner. I also got him to feel my bra – which is heavily gel filled and explained to him how I do not want to spend the rest of my life ‘trying’ to make them look bigger than they actually are when BA’s can achieve that natural look I desire and deserve! every woman should deserve to feel womanly don’t we???

Anyhow, I was hoping some of you could write back your reasons for getting a BA if your reasons are similar to mine so that my wonderful boyfriend could understand how I’m not the only one who feels down about this.
Also, could anyone explain how your boyfriends reacted to your boobs once you had your BA, are they pleased with the results?
If I can show my boyfriend your responses, it may help alittle for him to understand alittle bit more.

thanks
Liane

It was such a joy to throw out all my padded bras and chicken fillets!!!!! Now wearing gorgeous lacy bras with no padding yay, it feels so good after all these years
Haven’t been bikini shopping yet, but will be going soon as just starting to look into booking a sun holiday. It is amazing how having a ba increases your confidence. I feel much happier about my body now, and can still fit into most of my old tops, although it has been nice buying new ones too.
I hope that your boyfriend is coming round to the idea of you having your ba? He will be reaping the benefils as well 😉 x

Jacqui, poppy and anniee. Thank you for your inputs on this thread. Your stories are just so brill to read, as I can relate to you all.

Talking about holidays and how self conscious you are in a bikini, is exactly the same for me. I’m on my hols later this year about 10 of us going, which is why i thought I gotta have it done now else the holiday will be a nightmare for me. I can’t wait to buy new bikini’s and those cute one piece swimsuits with the sides cut out, walking across the beach with not a care in the world!

I can’t wait to throw away my awful padded bras and replace them with cute lace balconette bra’s and matching briefs! This BA is going to open up a whole new shopping world to me and us all! x

Hi liane,
I too have always been self-conscious about my figure. I’m only 18 and have been waiting for yearssss to turn the right age to have a boob job cos i knew from about the age of 14 that i wasnt going to grow. i tried herbal medication, massage techniques, been to see the dr, everything i could try really, and then i tried to get the op done when i was 16 but was told i was too young (even though id found out you can legally have it done at this age). My reasons are that i hate having to hide under layers of padding, and my self-confidence stops me from doing so much (e.g. just one example, cant go on hol with friends due to not being able to wear a bikini in front of people, so i understand poppy about your hol!). Shopping can be a nightmare as im so limited in my choices as i dont have anything at all up top really! Iv got my first consultation booked for tomorrow and i cant wait !! Finally feels like i can get on with my life and i cant wait till iv had it done! Iv only really told close friends and family, and although they are supportive, some of them dont really understand, i dont think you can fully understand unless you are in that position yourself! iv loved reading all the comments on here because theres so many people who i can relate to and it makes it seem nearer to having it done!! i hope this has maybe helped even though im only 18 xxxxxx

Hello Liane, Ive just been reading through what you have wrote. My story is pretty similar to yours. Im 24, i had my little girl when i was 19 and had always had nice pert boobs size 32b. I put on a massive 5 stone when i was pregnant so had 32dd boobs and then when i had my daughter i had postnatal depression and i was realy ill, i didnt eat for months so the weight just dropped off me and left me with horrible boobs im now a 32a and they have stretch marks on them and they are horrible and droopy. Ive never been happy about the way i look since i had my daughter, pregnancy was disastrous for my body. Im a confident person but not about my body. I was diagnosed with OCD and depression september 2008 also i was in a awful relationship and had been for a few years so i was put on high dose of anti-depressants, since then its like ive turned my life around, me and my x split up ive since met an amazing bloke and im on a lower dose of medication, im a realy happy person but the one thing i am never happy about is my boobs and no matter how much money i spend on exspensive padded/ air filled/ gel bras i still dont like them. I went on holiday in december to lanzarote with my mam and daughter and i was so self conscious i wouldnt walk from my sun lounger to the pool to play with my daughter unless i was wearing my kaftan or top, how pathetic! On the way home on the aeroplane all i was thinking was how could i afford to pay to get them done and since december i having not thought of anything else. Recently somebody i knew died at the age of 20 and it just made me realise that you just have to make the most of life, you only live once. So if this going to make you happy in yourself then you should do it, everybody deserves to be happy. Like every body else on here ive been considering this for years and have had loads of different consultations over the last couple of years but never had the balls to go through with it. My family are supportive but dont understand why i want it done, some of my friends have called me vain behind my back and my boyfriend doesnt want me to get them done but says he will support me whatever my decision, but i know this is what i want and i know if i didnt get it done now id look back in years to come and wish id done it. Im so happy i found this forum ive been on nearly every day, id reccomend it to anyone whos having or considering a ba. So like you said just get your boyfriend to keep coming on the forum and reading peoples comments and if he understood more about it he may become more relaxed about you getting it done. Sorry im rambling on now lol, hope this has helped you in anyway. x x x x x x x

Hi Liane, like most of the other girls on here, i realised at the age of around 15 that my boobs were not likely to grow much more, and so to keep up with my friends, started to wear padded bras! My fella, who i started going out with when i was 16 (and still with) just loved me the way i was (he always said he was a ‘bum’ man and not a ‘boob’ man hehe).

Anyway, got married at 20 and had 3 babies by the time i was 26, so experianced having lovely full boobs (think i went up to an E cup while breast feeding, and was so happy) BUT they went back down and ended up even smaller than before! On and off over the next 10 years, i have said i would love to have my boobs done, but hubby was still very happy with them, bless him!

Anyway, to cut a long story short, in April 2009 out of the blue, hubby said to me, if i still wanted them done, then why not look into it. We found MYA while doing our research on the internet, booked an appointment to see Mr Adamo in June and had my ba in August 09.

I’m now a 34E and love them, and even more important, hubby does too! I think that he is now a ‘boob’ man :cheer:
My only regret is that i didn’t have them done in my 20’s but can’t do anything about that now.
Not sure if i have helped you? Sorry for the long story! xx

Thank you for your comments girls. I will be showing my other half this thread so he could hopefully understand that this BA will make the difference in my confidence, not counselling haha!

Janeyh thank you hun I have your piccies already

Karleyg and Janeyh, are both your boyfriends happy with your boobs I take it? Do they treat them any different? I mean I asked my other half if he thinks he will not like them, and therefore would hate to touch/see them etc, he said he didn’t think so but again doesn’t know how he will feel cause this will be new for him also.

What are other people’s experience of this?

Maia your thread was very helpful thank you, I wanted them done myself at 19, but couldn’t for other financial commitments. your just over a week b4 my op so keep me posted! x

ignore my spelling and punctuation i have false nails on, and type like a spaz!! ha ha!!

hi there!! i am 29 years old and ive had 2 babies!! so my boobs went really saggy and lost all of the pertness in them!! i was so gutted with them! they were like 2 empty sacks of skin! and when i laid down at night they,d fall out of my bra so i deicded to get my boobs done. When i first told my boyfriend, he kept changing the subject!! and after i while i broke down crying and whipped my top off and said “just look at th state of them!!” and he sort of saw what i meant!! then he agreed with me and we decided to book my op! i ended up having an uplift and ba! and ive never been so happier in al my life! i feel young again. I think men think all boob jobs are like glamour models! my boyfriend got the impression id look like a barbie doll and having massive boobs, and attract the wrong attention of other men!.
But is nothing like that! boobs job these days are done to give you that natural loo, i dont think many surgeon like doing the big fake look! for starters they dont just put a massive impant into a 32a! they,ll offer you a normal size!.
So def go for it! and feel free to ask any questions!! boobs job these days are for ordinary women like us who work normal jobs and have kids!! if you wanna see any pics just let me know and ill email you them!! janey_heptinstall@yahoo.co.uk

and my bf was against it but seein me now and how much more confident i am he def isnt now! xx

i was exactly the same as u hun! i bought the tablets off the net aswell i was willing to try anything! and i wanted my ba since i was 15 i was sooooo self conscious i always wanted to keep my top on with my bf and he never understood buti had my ba end of december and couldnt be happier! i feel so much better in myself i never wanted to be huge i was32a and have went to a 32d but they are very natural i cant tell you how much more comfortable i feel im still gettin used to not covering up when changin in front of my fella. Just do it hun u wont regret it i totally know where your comin f rom with all you have said and it really does make all the difference well it did for me good luck with it all and enjoy it xxx

I feel exactly the same as you i hate them..
I am younger thou, only 19 so probs not the best example..!
Im so fed up of avoiding mirrors, just for the simple fact that i will feel so down at what i see. Me being so insure about it ruined things with me ex boyfriend due to i couldnt understand why he was with me cos of ‘how bad i looked’
Sounds pathetic i know, like i said im probs not the best example being 19 but i know exactly how you feel
I dnt want to get older and wish id done it sooner sooo Im all booked in for 23rd March, cant wait..!
xxxx

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