Oh god I'm devastated, such a mess right now :(

Ah cheers I love those songs n all, nothin like a bit of beyonce to make me think ‘f*ck him! Dont need him!’ Your all so sweet n caring xxxxx

Mercedes I know how easy it is for us to say but please stay strong hun! You are worth so much more and he will only carry on doing this again and again. You have the chance to stop it, so do it!!! xx

Princess76 im gonna sound like a right pedantic cow now but the quote is “No one can make you inferior without your consent.” Sorry i sound horrible, but if you decide thats the one you want I wouldnt want you to have it tattoo’d on wrong and find out after xx

No I’m not having it tattooed I found it on a website and just thought it was appropriate, clearly it was the website that was wrong, not me, phew!

It is very appropriate and a great quote, one of my favourites xx

I’m just stickin to my word atm n just ignoring his texts. It’s so hard n more than anything I just wanna text him back like yeh let’s be back together again but I kno I can’t xx

The longer you hold out the prouder you will be of yourself, and that will keep you going! Wish I could be 20 again!!!

Hiya! im going thru the same babes was with my bf for just over a yr and he made no effort wat so ever with me never went anywhere or did anything and from 3 months in i see a pic of sum birds tits on his fone and he bluffed his was outta that 1 then a couple months later there was text messages and he blamed them on his brother then not so long ago i went dwn his fone after a few bottles of the finest lool and oh hello messaging girls on fb the tramp asking when there taking him out and just being a propa mug and a cocky c*unt that he is! anyways july was his bday and apparently his bro was planning to take him ta newcastle for his bday but he didnt know nothing about it and didnt know who was going ect! his just full of shit! so anyways i fucked off ta kavos with ma mate for the week and wen i got bk like a dik that i am i met him and talked things over and we arranged just ta see how things went! but he wouldnt give me his all nd say were bk 2gether then like 2 weeks ago i just went raggo on him and said fuck off leave me aloneeee and i hadnt spoke to him in like 2 weeks then the day of my op 22nd sept just gone he txt me then i gave in after surgery when i was feeling sorry for myself and his slowly wormed his way bk in!! then weve just been arguing non stop like for the last week and his never says nothing nice to me and all he had ta say about my new boobs was “yh there alright, told ya u didnt need em” i felt like fucking shit and still do then last night he was ignoring my calls and just being a sneaky wanker that he is and i drove to his house and his car wernt there so he wernt at home and not with his brother which his always with so where the hell was he is wat i want to know! so me being me i sent him untold abuse and all his said bk this morning was “u sober this morning” i didnt reply but im dying too im going to ignore him and see how he likes it and how i feel well im being ignored and spoken to like crap! and i dont even know why i want to be with someone who treats me like that but i do…i think im just scared of being alone and my confidence has gone right down the pan managed ta lose 2 stone and he dont say well done or nothing just a propa mug!! i just need ta be strong and try and walk away and so do you babe! i constantly mug myself off ringing him and chasing after him but for wat i get fuck all outta it!! im sitting at home like a slob with this nasty sports bra on nipples are killing from the lift i just want the healing stage to hurry up and go and can start feeling a bit more normal!! hope ur ok hun!! were all here for ya! mwah xXx sorry for the essay!! *shy face*

Seems like we all need a good drink and night out. Why do men think they can get away with what they do, probably cause we let them. Bout time we stood tall and strong, make them reolise we are taking control of us from now on and if they don’t like it well tough. Xx good luck Girlies. Xx

Right girlies…

These men are pigs! Get out now…

My story from a sad fsiry to a happy fairy…

I was 17 started seeing a georgeous boy who i met at work. Went out for ages. He was lovely. A few months later he drank and drank and drank. He was at the point of never being sober. One night i was meant to go to his but was ill, so when i went the next day he was again drunk he went aka and punched me. I faut back at first the abuse got worse. He twisted my head, i could cope with the physical abuse but the mental killed me. I lost so .uch weight i ended up just under six stone. A five foot seven girl under six stone is not a nice look. I had no control other than what i ate. My mam was my rock, but the abuse got me away from my mam, he managed to smash my phone delete things i wanted he was vile.

One day my big brother and his friend csme to his house to get me. They took no shit. The lad i was seeing backed down and that was me home. My brother has his own problems but he stuck up for me. He got me a new phone and completely deleted the prick from my life.

He bambarded me with emails and letters etc but i knew i could ignore themi had a new life. It hurt for months to think how i had been so weak. I had my money took off me for whatever he wanted, i had nothing.

Five yrs on… i still have mega weight problems i control myself now alot better i will not let a man ever control me again i am better than that! If i get through it anyone can…xx

What im trying to say is, he is abusing u both of u.

He is mentally abusing both of u my darlings get out pls xxx

Fairy I m crying reading your story. I’m so glad you are not with him now. He is a monster. Xxxxx

Ah lolly you’ve made me feel loads better that I’m not the only one goin through this shit! It’s just so annoying knowing there upto something but you just don’t wanna beileve it, and trying to act strong n be cold with him to see how he likes it but it’s just so hard not to reply to the texts. We really don’t deserve this crap hun! I’m terrified of being alone too but there is so many fitties out there, it’d be great to just play the field for abit. I went from a three year relationship straight into another serious one so I’ve not been properly single since I was 16 so as trashy as it sounds I’m thinkin it’s year of the slag….well maybe just a few months, don’t wanna get a name for myself ha but yeh once I’m back on my feet I’m gettin myself back out there n not looking for another relationship any time soon. There’s someone out there who’s so much better for you hun who will make you feel as beautiful and sexy as you really are. We don’t need these c*nts. Weak excuse of men. Don’t let that prick knock your confidence, you’ve got new boobies n he can see your loosing weight n probably worries him….from what I’m told men are insecure little f*ckers n most of um think it’s appropriate to make um selfs feel better by gettin female attention elsewhere. I’m here for you too chick any time you wanna chat! Xxx

Fairy that’s awful, so glad to hear you’ve got out of that shit now. No one deserves that. What kinda scum could treat a girl he apparently loves like that xxxx

Theres a lot more to my story, i wont go into as i dont want to rake it all up. What im trying to say is mercedes babe the emotional abuse is usually worse thanthe physical.

Anchovie thanks hun. It was awful but im through the other end. It caused probelmsin most relationships ive had since, however i have been with mycurrent bf three yrs and he has beenfab! I was so insecure at first and didnt trust anyone.

The only struggle i have now is my weight. I always thinkim fat lol, maybe thats a girl thing xxx

LAURAKATE. that was a brilliant message u put there. Really is true. Xx

Ive been looking for tattoo ideas for myribs and the quote princess and amy have put on erecouldnt suit my past any better. It also meams a lot to me about my brother so i think that will be my tattoo xxx

Laurakates message is the most profound I’ve seen in a long time. Definitely sums my life up!!!! Fairy- you have one of the most perfect bodies I have seen. You need to let that crazy thought go with that ex of yours where it belongs. You are stunning and beautiful. Any man would be beyond lucky to have even a chance with you. hugs xxxx

Fairy your body is absolutely gorgeous you are deffo not even close to fat. It’s so horrible that these pricks give us all these insecurities, hope your so much happier now xxxx

Make sure you use the right one fairy, I got the wrong one off some crappy website! Amys ones the right saying. It’s good tho! I’ve got 2 tattoos with similar meanings both from after breakups to inspire me to do better for myself! I saw this amazing tattoo that said ‘each day is a new canvas to paint upon. Make sure your painting is full of life and colour and you never regret what you painted’ – I would love to have that but I have nowhere it would fit!

Thanks for all the praise ladies! I’m clearly destined to be an agony aunt! xx

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